Wednesday, 27 August 2014

5 Big Dating Mistakes Women Make

New relationships mean new opportunities for love and happiness; they also mean new chances to miss the mark. Keep yourself savvy by avoiding these five common dating mistakes.
via: Buzzfeed

No one doubts the rules have changed when it comes to dating, but over the years a few things have managed to stay the same. Being authentic versus trying to be someone you think you should be, is always the safest bet. Here are five reminders of what not to do in the presence of Mr. Maybe Right.

1. Taking too much airtime on the first few dates explaining why you don’t need a man.
Let’s face it, no one needs a man anymore. We are independent creatures perfectly capable of living happy solo lives; unfortunately, many of us spend too much air time explaining why we don’t need a man in order to appear laid back and independent—yet this backfires. Going overboard telling him how you don’t need a man doesn’t give him a whole lot of room to imagine being in your life. A good man already knows you’re independent.

2. Keeping the conversation momentum going, but then complaining that men don’t show up and engage.
It’s not your job to entertain anyone. Women are natural caretakers, but carrying the weight of the conversation in an effort to keep it flowing is exhausting for anyone. Let some dead air time exist between the two of you and let him be the one to jump in to fill it. If the two of you click, the conversation will flow. If you carry the conversation, you won’t witness whether or not the two of you are conversationally compatible.

Communication research has shown that men form thoughts and articulate them at a different pace than women do. Count to 10 in your head during a conversation pause and give your date a chance to jump in—99 percent of the time, a man will continue talking.

3. Texting, calling, Facebook-ing and tweeting too often in hopes of being witty and staying on his mind.
Nature abhors a vacuum, so trust space. Create some for him to miss you and in the mean time, get on with your life. Needy isn’t attractive.
via: DailyMail
4. Trying too hard. Women often forget to lean back and give the guy room to lean in.
Ever try to catch a bug in a swimming pool? The faster you move your hand forward trying to grab it, the more out of reach it floats. Pull back a little and let him float toward you. When we have healthy self-esteem, we lean back a little more, watch as things unfold and trust the process. If you’re fabulous—which you are—a good man will recognize it. There’s no need to try so hard.

5. Trying too hard to be sexy.
Dress as sexy or skimpy as you’d like to, just be mindful as to your reasoning. If it’s for yourself because you feel fabulous, go for it; but if it’s because you think you’re supposed to dress a certain way, or it’s an effort to be something you think he wants, take a moment to reflect. Being who you truly are is the sexiest outfit of all.
Via: Meetmindful

Saturday, 23 August 2014

How Do You Tell If A Woman Wants To Have Sex With You?

Well, today I unveil the secret every man is always curious to know. This secret has been preserved for long, it's time we brought it out in the open. So, put your phone aside, hold your breath, and read the next lines carefully, no distractions! I am here to help you identify if the beautiful lady you  are with (or are eyeing) is dying to have sex with you.









 I am so sorry. It’s not possible to tell you if she is down to get f**ked for only she knows about it; neither her mannerisms, skimpy black dress nor level of intoxication will help you. Only she will.

Poor guy!!!

Did you actually think that there is some hidden secret to reach out to the goddess of sex? Unfortunately none is available. Till then get the balls to ASK HER and stop assuming. Ask! What's the worst that could go wrong anyway?

Image via: huffingtonpost

Thursday, 21 August 2014

10 Ways To Be The Fun Girl Every Guy Wants To Be With

Have you heard the news that our favorite “Cool Girl” Jennifer Lawrence has a new beau? It just came out this weekend that she's been seen canoodling with the recently consciously uncoupled "Coldplay" front man, Chris Martin.
Jennifer Lawrence and Chris Martin via examiner

Some of my friends were quick to comment on the typical "guy ditches wife and dates younger woman" aspect, but that’s not what brought JLaw to Chris’s attention. My best guess? 
JLaw knows how to have fun.
Sure, we all need to be serious sometimes, but goodness; Gwyneth appears to be wound a little tight. Yes, JLaw is beautiful and attractive. Yes, she is younger than Gwyneth. But JLaw has demonstrated that even in the most serious situations, you have to be able to laugh.
Not to say that Gwyneth Paltrow isn’t a lovely and caring person, but I wouldn’t include her in a list of women I’d want to go out to brunch with. She’s just so serious, and though she has a lovely smile, she never looks like she’s having any fun.
Honestly, we couldn’t even enjoy much of a traditional brunch with Gwyneth due to her strict gluten-free vegan diet. But JLaw? She’s game to enjoy the eggs benedict, share some of those duck fat donuts and a mimosa.
Jennifer Lawrence in Rome having fun via Jezebel

People want to be able to love life and laugh. And that is probably what attracted Martin to JLaw. He wants to be in a relationship with someone that has a great work ethic, yet doesn’t take everything so seriously. But it’s hard to do that when you take everything so seriously. Here are ten tips on how to loosen up.
1. Laugh. Watch silly animal videos on YouTube. Watch a comedy. Tell corny jokes. Loosen up and learn to laugh. Laughing more reminds your body and your mind that life isn’t always serious.
2. Be mindful about what you put into your body, but don’t take it to extremes. Food is meant to be enjoyed and savored. If you get so wrapped up micromanaging your intake, it’s hard to have fun. YES, I know that some folks really do have food allergies and it’s nothing to take lightly. But, baby, you don’t have to make every meal a serious business.
3. Speaking of our bodies, stop trying to burn calories and find something physical you enjoy doing. Ride your bike. Go for a walk. Play a game of hoops. Going to spin class, yoga or Pilates is all fine and good if you enjoy it. But if you don’t like it, then it’s going to make you cranky. Finding a way to move your body that’s fun will remind you that life is meant to be lived and experienced — not regimented.
4. And while we’re on the topic of our bodies, go to bed already. Did you know that sleep deprivation will make you cranky? When you’re tired and cranky, of course you’re going to be able to have fun with life. All those posts of Facebook will be there tomorrow. And that email? It will be, too. Make sure you get enough sleep so that you can put your energy toward playing, not staying awake.
5. Rules are made to be broken. If you live your life by following a strict set of rules, of course you’re going to be wound a little tight. There’s a big difference between laws and rules. Don’t box yourself into a tiny space with loads of rules. If the rules are holding you back from being the sexiest, shiniest, most amazing version of who you are, then maybe they’re optional.
6. All work and no play make you a dull person. A good work ethic is important, but take a tip from JLaw here, too. When she isn’t working, she’s hanging out with friends, shopping and having fun. Grab a friend and play a game. It’s not about who wins or what your score is; it’s about the camaraderie and laughter that happen when you play a game with a friend. Go ahead and photo bomb your best friend.
7. Allow yourself to Feel ALL of your emotions. If you’re busy numbing yourself and trying not to feel those icky emotions, then you can't really feel the good stuff either. There’s no such thing as selective numbing. So, if you feel like having a good cry? Cry. I promise you it will help you loosen up!
8. Stop trying to be perfect. Trying to be perfect is nothing short of exhausting.
9. Sometimes, you just have to chill. Kick back and binge watch "Orange is the New Black." Hang out in your jammies all day and read a book. Hang out in bed all day. JLaw admits loving TV and chilling. Gwyneth doesn’t let her kids watch TV unless it’s in French or Spanish.
10. Meet a new beau? Relax and enjoy dating! Hold hands. Talk. Laugh. Flirt. Connect. Make out like you're in high school. Don't start planning the wedding after the first date. Relax and allow things to progress.
Remember when she tried to grab, steal Lupita Nyong'o's Oscar after loss while backstage via USweekly

Though some of us may never be "The Cool Girl," we can take a page from JLaw’s book. Loosen up, laugh, enjoy your food (and life). It will make you a happier person and, even if you don’t attract a rock star, learning not to take things so seriously will make your love life more rewarding too.
Via: YourTango

Tuesday, 19 August 2014

Top 10 Aphrodisiac Foods

You are what you eat, because what you eat directly influences your body and your body functions.  
The food you consume can have a direct impact on your sex life, affecting your hormones, brain chemistry and energy and stress levels. Some foods have psychoactive properties, others arouse because they are psychologically suggestive, and some can actually increase blood flow to the genitals. And if it does not have all that aphrodisiac effect, at least it’s healthy and it will do you good!


A glass or two of wine can greatly enhance a romantic interlude. Wine relaxes and helps to stimulate our senses. Drinking wine can be an erotic experience. Let your eyes feast on the color of the liquid. Caress the glass, savor the taste on your lips. Do remember that excessive alcohol will make you too drowsy for the after-dinner romance. A moderate amount of wine has been said to "arouse" but much more than that amount with have the reverse affect. ( 
 9. Ginger 

Ginger root raw, cooked or crystallized is a stimulant to the circulatory system. Perhaps a stir-fry with freshly grated ginger can stir something spicy up in the bedroom later. (
 8. Avocado

Just by looking at the shape of avocado, you will see the reason why it was associated with sexuality. The Aztecs called the avocado ahuacuatl, or "testicle tree." They thought the fruit hanging in pairs on the tree resembled testicles. The Catholic priests in Spain found this fruit so obscenely sexual that they forbade it. On the other side, avocado is rich with folic acid, vitamin B6 and potassium. They are also said to boost immune system.
7 Bananas

By it shape its connection with sexuality is quite obvious, but you’ll also find that bananas are loaded with potassium, magnesium and B vitamins. It also contains chelating minerals and the bromeliad enzyme, said to enhance the male libido.
6. Watermelon

 In the summer of 2008, research was released fingering watermelon as a possible key to sexual fulfillment.  Dr. Bhimu Patil and the Texas A&M’s Fruit and Vegetable Improvement Center specifically studied one of watermelon’s phytonutrients, citrulline. Thanks to Dr. Patil we now know that citrulline, like Viagra, has the power to relax blood vessels. The body converts citrulline to argenine, which, as Dr. Patil explains, “boosts nitric oxide, which relaxes blood vessels, the same basic effect that Viagra has, to treat erectile dysfunction and maybe even prevent it.” Citrulline is more concentrated in the rind than in the flesh of the fruit. (
5. Chocolate

Pure chocolate, the king of natural aphrodisiacs, contains a host of compounds including anandamide, the psyochoactive feel-good chemical, and PEA (phenylethylamine), the "love chemical," which releases dopamine in the pleasure centers of the brain and peaks during orgasm. PEA is said to help induce feelings of excitement, attraction and euphoria. Cacao also contains tryptophan, a key component of the neurotransmitter serotonin known to promote a sense of well-being and relaxation.
4. Eggs

The egg is one of the most ancient fertility symbols. Eggs are high in B6 and B5, which help you balance hormone levels and fight stress. Raw chicken eggs eaten before sex are considered to enhance one’s libido. But we’re talking eggs of all sorts, fish or fowl. Think of the way caviar gently bursts in your mouth or the delicacy of little darling quail eggs. (
3. Garlic

Now, wait a minute! I know it’s stinky, but more importantly it’s strong, which is exactly what it will happen to guys. Garlic is chockfull of allicin, an ingredient that will increase blood flow. So, whip up an extra-garlicky dish and keep the Altoids handy.
2.  Oysters

Oysters are probably the food most associated with being an aphrodisiac, and most people are aware of their reputation for increasing sexual desire. Oysters may be thought an aphrodisiac because of their high zinc content, which helps produce sperm and increases libido. Raw oysters are best served with a glass of chilled Champagne for a truly romantic meal!
1. Honey

Sweet, sticky honey is a great source of boron, a trace mineral that helps the body use and metabolize estrogen, the female sex hormone. Studies have shown that this mineral may also enhance testosterone levels in the blood, the hormone responsible for promoting sex drive and orgasm in both men and women. In addition, honey contains B vitamins needed for testosterone, as well as other nutrients, enzymes and phytochemicals.
Via: AlterNet

Monday, 18 August 2014

Have A Headache? Have Some Sex

Next time you have a headache — or a backache, foot ache, any sort of muscle ache — don’t go straight for the Panadol or Mara Moja. Consider, instead, going straight to the bedroom — with a partner. According to OB-GYN Lauren Streicher, author of “Love Sex Again,” having sex can make basic cramps and aches disappear.
via NHS

Theoretically, [sex] can help with a headache,” Streicher explained in an interview with #OWNSHOW. “But not just a headache — but a muscle ache, a stomach ache, a foot ache, a you-name-it ache. The reason is endorphins. We know that when people have sex, they release endorphins, and endorphins can decrease pain.”

So simple! Sex  can occasionally cause migraines, but that’s rare — plus, Streicher went on to cite a study out of Southern Illinois University, which found that women who suffered migraine headaches and had sex tended to experience a 50 percent decrease in their headaches. That’s partly because of the endorphins released during intercourse, she said, but also because sex makes for a pretty good distraction from pain. It works, in effect, the same way that other painkillers do.

I think we have both things at play here,” Streicher said. “I think the endorphins that are released might decrease the pain, and distraction is always a good thing. … [But] when you have a really bad headache, it’s not necessarily the time when you’re going to feel like having sex.”  Still, though, it’s definitely something to think about before popping pills.

I think It’s time women stopped using ‘headache’ as an excuse not to have it. What do you think?
(Via: Alternet)

Saturday, 16 August 2014

10 Signs You’re Bad In Bed And Don’t Even Know It

Every man worth his salt wants to be a stud in the sack. And if you’re reading this article, you’ve already taken a step in the right direction toward making sure your partner is satisfied. Of course, you probably clicked on this by accident because you’re unbelievable in the bedroom. But just in case you could use a reality check, we sat down with Emily Morse, sexologist, host of the Sex with Emily podcast, and co-founder of Emily & Tony, to find out what is it you’re doing wrong, and how to fix it so you’ll leave her wanting to come back for more.

1. You skip foreplay
The problem: You come home after thinking about sex all day and try to stick your penis in her right away. She, on the other hand, has not been thinking about sex. She’s been thinking about work, that squabble with her best friend, and what she’s making for dinner. She’s not warmed up, therefore she’s not going to enjoy it.

Fix it:Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay—I can’t say it enough!” Morse says. You may be ready to go the second you get home, but you have to remember, sex is mostly mental for women. They have to be warmed up, physically and mentally. “Most women not only enjoy foreplay, but we need it in order to get aroused before actual intercourse,” Morse says. Foreplay can even start hours before you’re through the door. Send her a text about how much you can’t wait to see her or how beautiful she looked this morning. Then when you get home kiss and caress her before you start taking her clothes off. Foreplay isn’t a suggestion; it’s a requirement for most women.
2. You don’t go down on her
The problem: You’re so excited about having sex or you’re not thinking about her needs, so you weakly lick her clitoris a few times or skip over going down on her altogether. You move straight into intercourse and, similarly to skipping foreplay, she’s not warmed up and therefore doesn’t enjoy sex as much as you do.

Fix it:Go down on her like you mean it! I mean, really mean it,” Morse says. “If you really want her to enjoy sex, then you need to enjoy performing oral sex on her. Just like nothing is sexier than a woman who enjoys giving a blow job, nothing is sexier than a man who enjoys giving oral pleasure.” Only about 25 to 30% of women orgasm through intercourse, and most of these women need (and likely want) clitoral stimulation in addition to intercourse.
3. You don’t touch her after sex
The problem: You roll over after sex and tell her, “Sorry, babe, it’s just too hot,” then keep a foot of distance between you and her. Maybe you chat with her for a bit before falling asleep. Either way, you’re not up for cuddling. Or, maybe you are, but you’ve got a 60-second timer counting down in your head and never touch her for longer than that. She’s noticeably annoyed, or at this point you’ve both gotten used to the fact that you just don’t really touch after sex.

Fix it: If you’re not someone who likes to touch after sex, start off small and make some kind of physical contact a normal part of your after-sex routine. Scratch her back for a little while and lay a little closer than normal. Once you’ve scratched her back for a while, move on to a closer touch. Cuddling after sex will bring the two of you closer together. The most successful relationships have ties to after-sex cuddling, according to new research out of the University of Toronto—Mississauga. “The way you approach your partner after sex is really important to how you approach your relationship in general,” Morse says.
4. You’re afraid of doing something wrong, so you don’t try anything new
The problem: You’re stuck in your head during sex. You’ve thought about trying a new position you read or heard about, but you’re afraid you won’t be able to execute the move correctly or you might lose your erection. Missionary and doggy style are tried and true, so you stick with those two, and you have the same sex over and over again.

Fix it: Set aside your fears and replace them with passion. “Sex is awkward, you’re getting naked with another person and putting yourself in the most intimate setting possible,” Morse says. There will be embarrassing moments and there will be things that go wrong, but making mistakes is better than not doing anything at all. “Allow the passion of what you are experiencing to take over the fear of doing something wrong,” she says. “I guarantee your partner will find your passionate mistakes much sexier than your flat routine.”
5. You’re basing her pleasure on your performance
The problem: You want her to orgasm in order to satisfy your own ego—because sex is about you feeling satisfied with your own performance. As a result, she feels pressured to have an orgasm, which could lead her to fake it from time to time. This results in sex that is no longer pleasurable for her, and is detrimental to your partnership in general, Morse says.

Fix it: If you’re too busy thinking about your own performance, you won’t think to ask your partner what she actually wants, and you won’t be able to learn how to actually make her orgasm. “A confident man will ask for direction and will learn what his partner wants,” Morse says.
6. You haven’t asked her what she likes
The problem: You approach every woman as if there is a formula, assuming all woman can orgasm the same way, and there is a simple trick to make that happen. You don’t bother to ask a woman what she likes or how she wants to be touched once the two of you step inside the bedroom.

Fix it: “Every woman is different, so you should approach every woman differently,” Morse says. Once you’re getting to the point of intimacy with a woman, it’s time to ask her what she likes. She may be making noises to let you know she likes something you’re doing, but there could be something she really wants you to do that she would tell you about if you just asked. “A woman is not a secret combination box in which you have to figure out the code, simply ask her and she’ll gladly let you know what she likes,” Morse says.
7. She hasn’t made a peep
The problem: When a woman is into it, she will say something, anything! Yes, there are women who aren’t loud in bed, but consistent silence indicates that she isn’t enjoying herself and possibly doesn’t think it’s worth it to speak up. “Silence after the fact can be another sign that she didn’t enjoy herself,” Morse says. If you’re lying there panting, telling her how incredible that was, and she’s got nothing to say, she wasn’t that into it.

The fix: Before things heat up, let her know that it really turns you on when she tells you what she likes, and what she wants. Afterward, skip the “Was it good for you?” and start the conversation by telling her which parts you really enjoyed. Then ask her if there was anything she especially liked, anything she would want more of or what she would like you to do differently.
8. She’s overacting
The problem: If you’ve barely even touched her and she’s carrying on like a porn star, chances are she’s acting out more pleasure than she’s actually feeling,” Morse says. Reports show that roughly 80% of women admit to making sex sounds and moans, whether they are actually going to climax or not. They’re doing this partially to enhance their partner’s experience, but also because they’re insecure about not being able to orgasm. “Either way, you should be the reason she is making sounds—and when the sounds and the movements don’t match up, something is off,” Morse says.

The fix: Let her know that it really makes you hot hearing that she is enjoying herself, but that you would like to know what specific things feel best for her.
9. You’re not addressing the obvious
The problem: You have some penis problems in the bedroom, but you never address them.

The fix: Talk to her about it. It’s already the elephant in the room and she notices that you’re not staying hard for long, experiencing premature ejaculation, or you just can’t ejaculate at all (delayed ejaculation). “Women are not as worried about this issue as you are, that is, until you completely ignore it, or worse, just let it happen and then roll over and fall asleep without giving a second thought to pleasing her,” Morse says. Let her know that this happens to you sometimes, and it doesn’t mean you’re not attracted to her or you’re unaware there is an issue. Tell her you’re working on it. You can even bring her into the solution: You need to slow down sometimes in the middle of intercourse, you’re working on strengthening your stamina, and you’d love her to be patient with you while you still do everything in your power to please her.
10. She told you she doesn’t orgasm EVERY time, so you don’t pleasure her once you’ve climaxed
The problem: You make the assumption that because you came, she came, too. Or you really don’t give much thought to it at all.

The fix: Rule of thumb: she comes first. Make sure that she is always pleased before you are. That way you can still have your happy ending knowing that she had her needs met as well. “Many men assume that just because they were satisfied, and she didn’t say anything afterwards, you had the green light to roll over and go to sleep,” Morse says. “If you’re not sure if she had an orgasm, she probably didn’t. And if you’ve never given any thought to her orgasm at all, you’ve got bigger problems.” Just because you asked her once or twice if she was satisfied and she says something like, “No worries, I’m fine,” or she mentioned she doesn’t orgasm every time, that doesn’t mean she wasn’t incredibly turned on by you and still wants an orgasm, even if she didn’t experience it through intercourse.

Make sure that even if you’ve already released, you muster up the strength to please her whether it’s with your fingers, mouth, or a sex toy. She’ll know that her satisfaction is important to you, and will feel more relaxed during intercourse knowing that if she doesn’t climax before you do, she’ll still have fun with you afterwards.
(Via Mensfitness Image via popsugar)

Thursday, 14 August 2014

10 Things Women Wish Men Knew About Sex

Sex isn't all that complicated. It's a biological urge, something we should all know how to do just by instinct, but any woman who has been with a man fumbling around to unhook her bra and appear so suave at the same time also knows perfectly well that it isn't.
It seems a lifetime of porn and bad advice from older brothers has rendered men incapable of knowing what we like sexually. We ladies aren't doing ourselves any favors by being afraid to speak up. Endurance is overrated (Yes! Yes! Yes!) and "we actually know what will get us to orgasm." Indeed.
So, for you poor guys who are still in the dark, I have asked around and compiled a list of the10 things we wish you guys knew about sex (and about us). Here they are:
1. Boobs = attached: Yes, they're pretty and cool, but much like your testicles, they ARE attached. There is no reason to push and pull and twist to prove anything.
2. Use your tongue: When you have your head in our nether regions, forget everything you learned in porn. Sticking your face in and shaking like a wet dog is not hot. Repeat: NOT HOT.
3. Foreplay: Everything you have heard about women needing more than five seconds before you take the plunge? Is TRUE. Dude, our engines need revving. We don't enjoy the gas being hit too quickly. Remember this, please, for the love of god.
4. Stop asking us: There are few things more annoying than being in the throes of passion and having some overeager partner who keeps asking, "Are you gonna come?" Dude, it's great that you care about our pleasure, but we'll let you know. But you just lost a minute to your overeager questioning. Any more and we will have to cancel it altogether.

5. Lube it, love it: It doesn't mean you failed, but if you want to play around, use some lube to get things started. No, many women don't appreciate fingers being pushed into them at a rapid pace (aka "finger banging"), but they may try it with some lube. Without it? Ouch!
6. You aren't 15: Honking, motor-boating, and other adolescent boy behavior is simply not hot. Yes, it's fun to laugh during sex, but we don't need to be exposed to you acting a fool. We graduated from high school for a reason.
7. Cold hands = bad: There is nothing worse than getting all hot and heavy and having your hands be freezing on our skin. Get some blood flowing! Put on circulation gloves! You'll be rewarded.
8. Don't try to impress us: We can tell when you're trying to be "smooth." The one-handed bra trick? Doesn't do it for us. Focus that energy on doing what comes naturally.
9. All women are different: Casual sex is casual for a reason. You don't really have mind-blowing sex with a guy who is fumbling about for the right way to touch you. For that, you need someone who knows (and cares) what you like. So take the time to learn us. We promise you'll be glad you did.
10. Don't be afraid of sex toys: We may not bring it up, but if you bring a vibrator to bed, we WILL thank you. Promise.
It may seem like women need to speak up and you know what? You're right! We do. If we want better sex, we need to be comfortable saying these things. Communication is the key to better sex. So remember to open your mouth and talk, too.
What do you wish men knew?

(via: thestir Image via: master of sex and new girl)

Tuesday, 12 August 2014

11 Signs You're Dating A Boy, Not A Man

1. You're the First Real Girlfriend
BBC / Via

If he had a girlfriend or two in high school, but hasn't had a real girlfriend since that time, you can bet you're dealing with a boy who is going to need help with the basics. He isn't going to know how to properly act in a lot of scenarios, and you'll be the one teaching him. Prepare yourself, or consider moving on.
2. He Lacks Communication Skills

This is a big deal, as all relationships are founded on the ability to be able to communicate. If he shies away from talking about anything, it may be a sign that he doesn't know how to communicate. If this cannot be overcome early in the relationship, you might consider bailing before it's too late. His lack of communication when big issues arise will only cause a fight.
3. He Puts Pride Before the Relationship
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If your man loves his pride more than he loves being with you, then you're probably dating an immature boy who is stubborn to boot. That's not a great combination when you're ready to be in a serious relationship. Partnerships are about compromise, and everyone has to swallow his own pride sometimes. If your man won't, consider moving on to someone who cares more about you than his pride.
4. He Plays the Blame-Game
It's inevitable that people who care about one another will eventually fight. However, if your man is blaming you for everything and refusing to own any faults of his own, he's not only immature, he's also egotistical. Neither will satisfy someone looking for a mature relationship for very long.
5. He has a Disappearing Act

When things go wrong, a partner is supposed to be someone you can lean on. Everyone needs help at some point, and strong men are there for their women, just as strong women stand behind their men. However, if your man doesn't want to be depended on and disappears when things get tough, you're dealing with someone who hasn't grown up yet.
6. He Gets Lazy

If your relationship starts off as it should, with him putting in effort by asking you on dates, sending you flowers, and sending "thinking of you" texts, and that suddenly stops, you're dealing with an immature guy. A real man knows that you have to keep trying to have a successful relationship, and those efforts won't go unnoticed.
7. He's a Hypocrite
Everyone has things that irk them to no end, and when you discuss it with your partner, you expect him to meet you halfway. However, when your guy brings up things that supposedly bother him, but does the exact same things later, it's understandable that you would be confused and a little annoyed. If your man doesn't follow his own rules, you're likely dealing with someone who is immature.
8. He Lacks Ambition
Most men who feel motivated to care for a partner will be motivated to succeed at their goals. If your guy doesn't have goals, is unhappy with his job but doesn't take steps to fix it, or is just a lay-about, you have landed yourself an immature boy. In some cases, all they need is a little motivation, but if your efforts create a fight, it's more likely that he just hasn't grown up yet.
9. He Plays a Jerk
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If your boyfriend suddenly starts acting like a jerk to the point that you have to call it quits, you might be dealing with a guy who's too chicken to break up with you and is pushing you to break up with him. A guy in this phase will not care that he hurt you, so it's best to just move on. He hasn't grown up, and this circles back to his inability to properly communicate.
10. He Seems Helpless

A real man knows how to take care of himself. He knows how to cook, clean up after himself, and do his own laundry. If your man is kind of helpless, especially when you're around, it's more likely you're a mother replacement rather than a girlfriend, which seems creepy. The truth is, he's not mature enough for a relationship.

11. He is overly self-conscious
If your guy is always worried about what other people think, you might be dealing with someone who isn't very mature. In relationships, this usually shows itself when your guy won't do certain things because he's afraid that his friends will think he's whipped. If he's worried about being seen as whipped, he's not concerned about you.
Via: Answers

Monday, 11 August 2014

Best Positions For Men Who Are Well Endowed

A well endowed penis can afford tight squeezing and plenty of deep penetration, but just because your manhood is super-sized doesn't mean you can have it every which way in the bedroom. For some women, there are certain sexual positions that are just too intense when they're done with an overly endowed partner.
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1. Use lots of lube
Even if the woman in question is normally pretty moist, lubricants will be her best friend in this situation, since lube will lessen the friction. You can use lube in foreplay, having her rub your member with the slippery stuff. Avoid oil-based lubricants because they cause yeast infections. Instead, stick to water- or silicone-based lubes, which can also be used with condoms. 
2. Avoid anal and doggy style
The anal canal is not as elastic as the vagina. A vagina is meant to have objects go in (penises) and out (babies), so it’s more prepared to expand. The anal canal, however, is designed for no such activity. It’s not impossible, but anal sex with a larger-than-average penis is going to cause most women outright pain if not extreme discomfort. The doggy-style position allows for extra-deep penetration, so it's a better bet for men on the smaller side. A guy with a big penis may very well injure a woman in this position. 
3. Stick to missionary, woman on top or sideways
The classic missionary keeps you from thrusting too deep into your lady. Even though it’s knocked for being boring, it’s a win-win proposition for both parties in this circumstance. With the woman on top position, she can control how far she allows you inside her and you’ll get a full view of her hot body. Having sex sideways is perfect for bigger penises since neither one of you will be able to fully thrust. The limited range of motion is still pretty sexy, as you’ll be able to make out at the same time. 
4. Take it slow
 It goes without saying that when you have a big penis, you shouldn't throw it around like a bull in a china shop. Slow and steady wins the race. Enter her carefully and slowly and build up to a more intense thrusting so she’s not caught off guard by your gigantic member.
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For those not well endowed, you can check out our previous post on best positions for men with a small penis.

Saturday, 9 August 2014

Men: You Are Doing It Wrong!

It's time to watch all of your misconceptions about sex come crashing down. Do you know everything there is to know about the female orgasm? Of course you don't! It's one of the most elusive physical sensations in the world. Some women claim they have never experienced an orgasm. Others apparently can't stop having them if they tried. There is a happy medium—there is a way to reach the falsetto without penis enlargement surgery or turning yourself into a human vibrator. Here are a few things men do wrong when it comes to giving women orgasms. Take notes, gentlemen.
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1. You think hers is optional.
Men have it easy. They spend years masturbating in their parents' basement and then they masturbate into their girlfriend's vagina. It's like magic. It's rather remarkable how simple it is for most men to blow a load. It's so simple, in fact, that when men have sex they think their orgasm is a given. If a man doesn't come during sex, all hell breaks loose. If a woman doesn't come, it's normal—better luck next time, honey. This is incorrect, and it's the worst kind of attitude to have. Your orgasm isn't a given, and hers isn't optional.
2. You fall asleep.
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You've been out all night partying with your girl. She looks great, you feel great, and you both want to go home and bump nasties until dawn. The only problem is, you're drunk. There's nothing wrong with sloppy, drunk sex unless you fall asleep before you're able to deliver the goods. Either wait until the morning, or have a strategy that accounts for the fact that you will be lights out as soon as you get it in.
3. You only see vagina.
Let's pour some out for the women who have never had an orgasm. One explanation for this tragic circumstance is that some men think the only way to get a girl off is through penetration. This is a myth. Many women prefer external stimulation to vaginal penetration. (There are other orifices worth exploring as well.) Don't act like all women are the same and therefore all you have to do is shove it in and call it a day. Don't be a one-trick pony.
4. You have to ask.
Sorry to break it to you, but if you have to ask a woman if she's had an orgasm, the answer is always "no." Most men don't realize that they're witnessing a performance piece when having sex. Many women love to fake it—some women are so good at faking it that they've even convinced themselves. (This is a real shame and only makes matters worse for everyone.) Don't let the theatrics fool you. The female orgasm is the ultimate high. You'll know it when you see it.
5. You can't slow down.
Oh I'm sorry, do you have somewhere to be? Are you giving a speech somewhere? Is there a fire? Is this the Indy 500? Great. So slow the fuck down. It is crucial that you take your time when trying to give a woman an orgasm. Think of it as a moving target. If you want to hit the bulls-eye, you have to focus, take a few breaths, and then pull the trigger. Slow your roll. When you move too fast, it's a sign that you're not paying attention.
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6. You're that guy.
Show me the man who thinks he's the Lord's gift to women, the man who thinks he makes women wet just by looking at them, and I'll show you a man who is perpetually disappointing in bed. Don't be that guy. He makes promises he can't keep and pats himself on the back even though he consistently and incorrectly assumes he is giving women orgasms.
7. You can't read cues.
Studies have claimed that the reason women seek affection after sex is because it makes the experience more meaningful. You should not believe these studies. Cuddling after sex could also be a way for her to drop you a subtle hint that she still wants to play. When a woman has peaked, she'll often just pass out, not cuddle. Don't mistake affection for satisfaction.
8. You're intimidated by toys.
Even if you're a pro, variety is still the spice of life. Show her what you're working with, but don't be afraid to use some accessories every now and again. Not only do sex toys add an element of playfulness and risk, they're perfect for helping you explore new ways to get her off. Don't be afraid to switch things up.
9. You've given up hope.
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It's true that most female orgasms are difficult, but surrender is not an option. It's not OK to pretend you've exhausted every option there is and that it's just not worth the effort. If you want to get laid, you need to come with your A-game and plan to do everything in your power to make sure she comes, every time. Period. Don't be a quitter.
10. You think one is enough.
Congratulations! You've found the white whale. Now do that all the time. Keep going until she begs you to stop. Once is not enough. Once is only the beginning. Now go forth and use this knowledge to make the world a better place.
Via: Complex

Friday, 8 August 2014

Kissing 101: How To Kiss As Demonstrated by Spider-Man and Emma Stone

Ooh! the excitement when you find someone you like or love and they like or love you back. This is huge, your crush finally noticed you and you are finally out of the friendzone. You are like ‘I cant believe this is happening to me’ and at that time you believe you can fly. The dates start, you hang out more and then you decide you want to kiss them. And you are all country mode like: 'Are you gonna kiss me or not?'

You kiss them and its ooooohhhh so glorious! You've never felt anything like that before. They tell you see you tomorrow, but tomorrow never comes. You text her, but she doesn't reply. And you there thinking, maybe the text was so shocking that he fainted and that’s why he can’t come to the phone. You are excited to see them the next day, but they just wave from afar and hit the next lane. Then realization hits you! You are a poor kisser! You try and remember how it went, but damn, it was your first kiss and all you remember is how you traveled to heaven and back in those 2 minutes. And that's when you call yourself a ka-meeting and try and understand what went wrong.  But before you decide to never to kiss anyone ever again, know that this things happen; even to celebrities too he hehe...
 When the first kiss does happen for you, sometimes it goes really well, or really bad, boring or kinda weird. Like this one. It's a must watch.  Emma Stone & Andrew Garfield Spider-Man demonstrated on SNL how real kissing is done and it was a total FAIL. Well, until Chris Martin came to the rescue.

 Feel better now? Hope so because it’s your first kiss and there are plenty of opportunities to kiss in the future. You will forever remember the first one but it’s not the last. 
The hardest part about kissing is knowing when the right time is to initiate it. Sometimes it’s obvious and predictable but sometimes, not so much and you have to struggle with 1001 feelings before it happens. When both of you are into each other, then it’s easy but if you have no idea what the other one feels, then it might be awkward (you just may get yourself slapped, without a tooth or both. Am just saying, you gotta know before you do it.)

So here’s how you do it:
1. Lean in, make sure your partner is also leaning in (it would be embarrassing if you've closed your eyes, with lips puckered and are leaning towards someone playing solitaire on their phone with no idea you are about to land on their face! Hehehe)
2. Close your eyes (It’s a bit weird to kiss someone eyes open) and tilt your head either to the right or left. You don’t want your noses to collide instead of your lips.
3. Touch your lips gently onto your partner’s lips. No wide open mouth and no smacking. You are not kissing your dog nor trying to eat your partner alive. Your lips should be slightly open just like when you are breathing with your mouth.
4. Apply a little pressure, make the kiss softer and hopefully by this time, you do not have a slap across your face but your partner is also kissing you back and hooooray, you are kissing!
This video will show you the best way to kiss, when to know the right time and what place to do it.

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Wednesday, 6 August 2014

Ladies: Here Are 30 things You Can Do With A Naked Man

How do you turn him on? Oh, let us count the ways. Consider this your must – do list of sex tips to tease, squeeze, and totally please your guy!
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1. Sneak Up Behind Him
Blow his mind with this sneaky move: Stand behind him and stroke his penis. This positions your palm flat against his member’s sensitive underside, the same way he grips it when he masturbates. Then do a few things he can’t do himself, like whisper in his ear or kiss his back.
2. Get Naked Too
There’s a good chance that your guy has never feasted his eyes on your completely bare body for more than a few seconds. Maybe it’s because you undress quickly in a passion frenzy or your bodies are too close for him to really take you in. But letting him stare at you in the buff is a surefire libido trigger.
3. Let Him Be an Animal
Initiate a primal move that fuels his frisky craving. Give him an animalistic challenge by having standing sex. Let him hold you up against the wall with your legs wrapped around his lower back. He’ll be in the aggressor role since he’s holding you up with his arms and lower body, and he also gets the visual thrill of watching your breasts bounce during the act.
4. Break Out the Blindfold
Once you have him going crazy not knowing where your next lick, kiss, or stroke will land, treat your blindfolded boy to a slew of new sensations. Three to try: the feel of your hair, silk panties, or a string of pearls rubbed gently against his member.
5. Climb on Top
The majority of the dudes we polled in our most recent sex survey picked woman-on-top as their number-one nooky style. Bonus: This position can be very intimate since your faces are touching and you can slide your arms around each other so you’re super close. It’s also a great method for delaying his orgasm a little longer.
6. Take a Sensual Shower
Steam up your bathroom mirror by standing this close together in the shower. Add the water pouring over you, and this is a perfect position for lots of wet, passionate kissing. You can also gaze into each other’s eyes, further boosting the intimacy factor.
7. Find His G-Spot
A guy’s prostate — the walnut-size gland under his bladder — is the ultimate magic button to push if you want to blow his mind in bed. To tantalize it, partway through oral sex or intercourse, rest two fingers against the swath of skin between his testicles and anus.
8. Give Him a New Number
No doubt, you’re intimately acquainted with 69. Now may we introduce you to 77? The number refers to the way you and your partner’s bodies look when they meld together in this side-entry position. The unique angling practically guides his, uh, missile to your G-spot.
9. Find a New Favorite Spot
Steam things up at home by moving outside the bedroom and doing it on top of a sturdy table, kitchen counter, bathroom sink, or the hood of a car parked in your garage.
10. Massage His Backside
Take oral sex to a whole new level by caressing his butt cheeks as you’re going down on him. Double his pleasure with the synchronized motions that lets you control the pacing.
11. Turn Him into a Buffet
Incorporating food into your passion play is a classic carnal activity. Take a few of your favorite erotically appealing flavor combinations, like peanut butter and honey or whipped cream and chocolate sauce, and mix up yummy treats all over his body.
12. Boss Him Around
Tell him want you want him to do without saying a word. Wrap your hand around one of his fingers or his penis, and when he does something you particularly like, give a squeeze.
13. Give Him a Peep Show
Turn your attention downstairs for some self-stimulation and leave the invitation open for him to take over. Whether he joins in or not, guys love to watch, so it’s a win-win situation.
14. Make Him Beg
Kiss and lick your way down his torso, stopping short of his penis, then give him a smile and work your way back up. Repeat several times until he begs for mercy.
15. Treat Him to Don’t-Lift-a-Finger Sex
Indulge him with low-maintenance sex (where all he has to do is unzip his fly, if that) by sliding onto his lap in reverse cowgirl position with your hands balanced on his thighs for support. Much like doggie-style, he’ll be able to revel in watching your tush and touching your breasts — but without expending any lower-body energy.
16. Talk Dirty to Him
Start off with a purr or an mmmm, or simply breathe heavily. Then up the erotic ante by whispering, “So…what do you want to do now?”
17. Make Him Long for Your Lips
A fabulous kiss is an intricate balancing act involving tongue technique, pressure control, and moistness monitoring. Invade his space with a tantalizing kiss-me telegram.
18. Play No-Hands Nooky
Tell him to keep his hands to himself. You can explore each other’s bodies with your lips, tongues, and breath.
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19. Taunt Him
A little torture builds a man’s anticipation so that when you finally do pounce, every touch is extra delicious. As things get going, pull your thong aside for him to enter you. You’ll drive him crazy because he can’t see every last inch of your body.
20. Enlighten Him
Tantra is the exotic art of prolonging your passion to reach new levels of satisfaction. Launch your night of lust by gently massaging his ear with your fingertips, working your way down the outer fold. Then run your pinkie along the crease where his ear connects to his head and ever-so-slowly prod the middle of his sexually susceptible inner ear with the tip of your tongue.
21. Get Dirty with Him in the Tub
A soak in the tub always feels incredible, but the sensual thrills quadruple when you invite your man in for some rub-a-dub action. Take turns slowly lathering each other up with a soft, natural sea sponge, tracing slow, sexy circles around your breasts, belly, and inner thighs, and get ready to fog up the mirror.
22. Tie Him Up
Even a plain scarf can make him see stars if you use the right technique. Take a long silk wrap, place it around his main man and the boys, and tie it in a large square knot, leaving about a foot of fabric on either end to hold on to. As you’re riding him, pull on the free ends so that the knot rubs against your clitoris.
23. Imply That He’s a Stud
Spark his ego by letting him know you want him sexually with a coy compliment. Letting him in on your longing for him jump-starts his own desire.
24. Make Him Hot, Then Cold
Cooling off your guy’s steamy body actually gets him hotter. Make his satisfaction skyrocket by turning him on to deliciously unexpected strokes, pressure, and temperature changes. Try the classic ice-cube trick to make him shiver with excitement. Have him lie on his back, hold a cube in your hand, and slowly draw an icy line from his neck all the way down his body.
25. Seduce Him
Be direct by saying something like “I want to have sex with you.” The straightforward approach is not merely about saving time (although it does have a way of cutting to the chase), it’s about giving yourself the opportunity to display extreme sexual confidence, to advertise yourself as a person who assumes that whatever she wants, she can have.
26. Toy with Him
Stock up on some sex toys. Velvet-lined handcuffs can be exciting, and they don’t hurt like the metal ones do. And you can never go wrong with a vibrator. Ask him to buzz it against your clitoris or tell him simply to sit back and watch you handle it.
27. Rev Him Up for Round 2
Your mattress moves are sizzling enough for a sequel! Lead him back to the sweet spot by telling him how good he makes you feel. And, this time your orgasm will be even hotter.
28. Let Him Climb on Top
Spice up missionary style and feel super deep penetration by drawing your knees toward your chest and grasping the back of your thighs. You can also place the soles of your feet on his chest or, if you’re really flexible, prop your ankles or legs up on his shoulders.
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29. Play Rough
Guys tend to be tougher than us, so feel free to manhandle. Pinch his nipples (an often-overlooked nerve center), scratch your nails down his back, or massage his chest.
30. Make It a Quickie
Once you've launched his rocket in five minutes flat, he’ll be willing to do just about anything for you.
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