Tuesday, 30 September 2014

9 Sex Positions That'll Get Her Off Every Time

Listen up, gentlemen. It’s time to start pleasing your ladies. A recent study from Indiana University found that 85% of men said that their partner had an orgasm when they had sex—while only 64% of women said that they themselves had one. Oof. Bottom line: while you think you might be pleasing her, more often than not, you’re missing the mark.If you want to guarantee the real deal, stick to these nine positions that will work every time.

1. Missionary
According to sex experts, women get the most pleasure out of basic missionary sex. “Interestingly, when we surveyed women, good old-fashioned missionary position was the overall favorite. There's nothing fancy about it, but women said they loved the closeness and the intimacy of having their partner's weight on them,” says Solot. But in order for position to be most effective, Los Angeles-based sex expert and radio host Lora Somoza says to make sure you’re entering her at the correct angle. “By going in diagonally—rather than straight in and out—there’s more friction for clitorial stimulation, which is best, since that’s how most women achieve orgasm.”
2. Reverse Cowgirl
In this position, the man is either lying down or in a sitting position, and the female straddles him backwards — facing his feet instead of his face. It’s a key position that also allows easy access to the clitoris, says sexologist and sexuality educator Megan Andelloux. “Because of the easier clitoral access, this position is the one that is most likely to facilitate an orgasm because direct clitoral stimulation is easy to engage in.”
3. Doggie Style
Doggie style is a great position for the woman because it allows her to have optimal control. “She is able to adjust her range of motion for an angle that feels best,” says Amy Levine, a sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure. “He can likely stimulate her G-spot and have access to her clitoris with his hand, her hand or a toy, like a small bullet-shaped vibrator.” Sexologist Gloria Brame, Ph.D. also stresses the importance of clitoral stimulation while in the doggie style position. “She will rarely have an orgasm if you’re not doing something manually in front at the same time,” she says.
4. Girl on Top
Another position that allows her to have the most control of her orgasm is when she’s the one on top, facing forward. But Somoza explains that it still needs to be a joint effort. “You can help her by moving her hips up and down. It’s a communication thing,” she says. Levine adds that when the woman is on top, “she’s in control of the depth and motion, as well as having easy access to her clitoris for pleasure.”
5. Spooning
If your lady doesn’t prefer deep penetration, Andelloux suggests spooning. It’s also good “if you’re into lazy morning Sunday sex playtime. It concentrates on stimulation of the front portion of the vagina or rectum, which is where the most nerves are located in the genitals.” Andelloux explains that spooning is pleasurable because it creates a tighter fit in the vagina and rectum, so if a woman is looking for more stimulation from her partner’s fingers or penis... spoon away.
6. Crisscross
According to Marshall Miller, a sex educator and co-author of I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide, this is another great position for clitoral stimulation. “Both partners are lying down. The woman is on her back and the guy is on his side. She has her legs draped over his middle like a giant X,” he says. “Since your bodies aren't squished against each other, either you or she can reach down to rub her clitoris, what most women need to reach the Big O.”
7. The Pillow Technique
Many sex experts agree that positions often become more pleasurable for a woman when a pillow or blanket is added to create a new angle of entry. In missionary, Levine says to “put a pillow under her tush to give a pelvic lift. That can also help the man rub her g-spot with his penis.” Dr. Brame says it’s a tip that is often underutilized, and that you can even use furniture or yoga props. “Certain angles for some women won’t be comfortable,” he says. “Ask her what is working for her.”
8. Coital Alignment Technique
This position, created by psychotherapist Edward Eichel, is considered by many to be the “greatest sex position in the world.” Start in a normal missionary position with your full body weight on top of the woman, not resting on your elbows. Move forward so that the base of your penis (your pubic bone) is making direct contact with her clitoris. Her legs should be around your thighs and you should be moving together in a rhythmic, rocking motion. “Some swear that this position allows for the closest physical connection and the best clitoral stimulation based on his positioning,” says Levine.
9. Ankles Up
“When you’re on top of somebody or flat, you can’t always achieve full penetration,” says Dr. Brame—which is why adjusting her leg positioning allows for deeper contact. “You have to put her ankles up over your shoulders. It allows you to go as deep inside of her as possible and hit her G-spot.” The same deepness can also be achieved by her bending her knees or placing the soles of her feet on your chest. 
(Via: Mens Fitness)

Friday, 26 September 2014

21 reasons why you should have sex.. tonight!

Partner “not in the mood” again? Then it might be worth sharing the following to change their mind! According to the latest studies, regular sex – that’s one to two lovemaking sessions per week – can provide some incredible boosts to your health and wellbeing.

1. Look younger
Last week, Dr David Weeks, clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, revealed to a psychology ­conference that his extensive research had found older men and women with an active love life looked five to seven years younger than their actual age.

But you don’t have to be at it every night to enjoy youth-enhancing effects! In fact, during his 10-year study, ­Weeks found quality was as important as quantity, with the anti-ageing benefits stronger if the sex was classed as “loving”.
2. Boost your fertility
This will sound like ­music to most men’s ears – studies have found that the more often you make love, the better quality your sperm will be.

Semen health was found to be best when sex had last occurred less than two days before the sperm was tested and was greatly decreased after 10 days of abstinence.

If you’re trying for a baby, keep sperm fresh and in tip-top shape by having sex at least twice a week, and not only around the time of the woman’s ovulation.

Frequent sex has also been found to help balance a woman’s hormones and regulate her periods, which can further boost chances of conceiving.
3. Fight colds and flu
Having sex once or twice a week has been found to raise your body’s levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, or IgA, which can protect you from colds and flu. One study found people who have sex more than once a week have 30% higher levels of IgA than those who abstain.
4. Disease-proof your body
Having high levels of the natural steroid DHEA, known as “the anti-ageing hormone”, is believed to be key to keeping your body fitter for longer. During sex, DHEA is ­secreted throughout the body, and after an orgasm, the level in the bloodstream soars to five times its normal amount.
5. Lengthen your life
A study carried out in Australia found people who climaxed at least three times a week had a 50% lower chance of dying for any medical reason than those who only climaxed once a month.
6. Shift your middle-age spread and keep fit
Thirty minutes of vigorous sex burns up to 100 calories, which is the same as a small glass of wine.

And if you have moderately active sex twice a week, you’ll burn an extra 5,000 calories a year! ­

Varying your positions is also a great, fun way to tone different muscle groups and keep limbs lean and flexible.
7. Ease those nasty period cramps
Many women say period pain diminishes if they do the deed during a cramp attack.

One theory why is that muscle contractions that occur when you reach peak levels of excitement relieve tension in the muscles of your uterus – the ones that cause menstrual cramps – therefore easing the pain.
8. Helps lower your risk of incontinence
Good sex is a great workout for a woman’s pelvic floor muscles – the muscles that control ­orgasms and also stem the flow of urine, reducing leakage and incontinence.

Pregnancy and the menopause can weaken these muscles significantly, but the stronger they are, the lower your risk of developing stress incontinence and prolapse later.

And let’s face it, sex is far more ­enjoyable than the chore of doing pelvic floor exercises on your own!
9. Prevent a heart attack
Lots of studies have found that regular sex can ward off heart attacks, not bring them on as it was once feared.

One study at Queen’s University Belfast found that having sex three times a week could halve your risk of having a heart attack or stroke.

Another study in Israel found that women who had two orgasms a week were up to 30% less likely to have heart disease than those who did not enjoy sex or didn’t have an orgasm.
10. Increase your attractiveness to others
High sexual activity makes the body release more pheromones, chemicals that enhance your appeal to the opposite sex.

This is why the more sex you have with your partner, the stronger your desire will be to have sex with them again.
11. Smooth out your wrinkles
The hormone oestrogen is pumped out during sex, which can in turn have a plumping effect on the skin, helping to smooth out those fine lines.

This is especially useful following the menopause, when a woman’s skin can ­become drier and more wrinkled, as ­oestrogen levels naturally drop.

One American study found that menopausal women who had sex every week had ­oestrogen levels that were twice as high as their counterparts who abstained.
12 Give yourself an all-over healthy glow
According to ­research carried out at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, sex promotes skin renewal because it is an aerobic form of exercise.

The scientist behind this study found that vigorous sex pumps higher levels of oxygen around the body, increasing the flow of blood and nutrients to the skin, and pushes newer, fresher skin cells to the surface, making skin look healthier.
13. Improve your self-esteem
One of the most important benefits, noted in a recent survey undertaken by the University of Texas, US, was that participants who had sex regularly felt more confident about their bodies.
14. Lower your blood pressure
A Scottish study found men and women who had plenty of sex coped well with stress and had lower blood ­pressure than those who abstained. Researchers at Brigham Young ­University in the US also linked frequent intercourse to lower blood pressure.
15. Banish depression
Like any exercise that raises your heart rate, sex causes your brain to release feel-good chemicals that boost your levels of serotonin – the happy hormone – to lift your mood.

Serotonin is the body’s key antidepressant chemical and one of the major reasons people smile and feel happy and relaxed after sex.

Sexually active women in long-term ­relationships are also less likely to feel depressed than women who go without sex, according to a study of nearly 300 women by psychologist Gordon Gallup in the American Archives Of Sexual ­Behavior.
16. Cure that headache (yes, really!)
“Having a headache” might be an age-old excuse not to have sex, but the scientific evidence says that, to the contrary, sex can help shift pain!

This is because making love causes a surge in the “love” hormone ­oxytocin, plus other feel-good ­endorphins, which can ease pain.

Women have reported that their ­pain from both headaches and ­arthritis improved post-coitus.
17. Slash stress
In a study in the Psychology journal, ­researchers found that people who’d had sex in the last 24 hours coped better with stressful ­scenarios – such as public speaking – than those who had not.

Research has also shown that touching and cuddling during and after sex reduces the body’s levels of cortisol – the hormone that is secreted when you’re stressed.
18. Kick your insomnia into touch
The oxytocin released when you orgasm has another benefit – it can help you drop off, research claims.

Both men and women release this feel-good ­hormone just before ­orgasm, and as it courses through your system, it promotes relaxation and sleepiness.

So there is actually a genuine excuse for him to fall asleep so quickly after sex...
19. Strengthen your bones
As regular sex can boost oestrogen levels in post-menopausal women, it can offer some protection against the ­bone-thinning condition osteoporosis that is triggered by a lack of oestrogen.

And men can benefit too, as testosterone levels have been found to increase during and after sex, which can provide some protection against male osteoporosis.
20. Cut your risk of prostate cancer
Researchers at Nottingham University have found that men who enjoy a regular sex life in their 50s are at lower risk of developing prostate cancer.

This is because sex clears the prostate of toxins that could ­otherwise linger and trigger ­cancerous changes.

The link was first suggested after several studies showed that monks appeared to have a higher chance of developing prostate cancer.
21. Feel better all day
If you decide to go for a spot of morning passion to start your day, the boost to your mood it provides can continue right through until night-time, ­according to research.

The American scientist Dr Debby Herbenick found that adults who made love first thing in the morning were not only more upbeat for the rest of the day, but they also benefited from a stronger ­immune system than those people who simply opted for a cup of tea and some toast before ­heading out of the door.

In other words – why wait until tonight?
(Via: Mirror)

Thursday, 25 September 2014

When Guys Say No To Sex

Let’s face it. Things have changed in the world of relationships. Male and female ‘roles’ are less defined. Either partner can make decisions… and that includes when and IF to have sex.   But, it’s not necessarily a slap in the face to us ladies. So , next time you dim the lights and bust a move on your man and he does not respond the way you want, consider the following before taking things personally or freaking out. (That’s not good for anyone!)

Okay, it’s not all good news, but remember; guys are people, too.
JUST ONE NIGHT
Okay, maybe the two of you went on a bender starting with shots of wedding cake vodka before hitting the club. It’s been a long night and you’ve both indulged in multiple forms of stimulants. Imagine that. So it’s five a.m. and you’re wondering why he has not jumped your bones. It might not be a problem. He may be so wired that all he wants is to do more of whatever you two have been ingesting, or he’s so wired that he’s trying to chill. Speedy stimulants are not great for the male sexual apparatus. A guy might be there mentally, but physically it’s not working. Or, one night he might be totally stressed out from work or whatever is being thrown his way. If “no thank you” happens once in a blue moon, don’t fret. He’ll learn to slow down and you’ll make sure he focuses on you.
MONTHS PASS BY…
This is not a good sign. Sure, no means no whether you are a guy or a gal, but if your guy has passed up sex for a prolonged period of time and he is under sixty: you've got a problem. Every situation is different, but a healthy, robust sex life is part of the core DNA of a healthy relationship between partners—men and women, women and women, men and men. Sex rocks and since it takes two to tango and you've been left on the dance floor alone, I suggest that you sit your partner down and have a talk. Maybe it will turn out to be the talk, but you need some kind of talk for context.
THE CAUSES
A noted professor of gender studies at Pasadena City College claims that it’s not you; it’s him. He states, “Men are turned on by success. Get a job or promotion— and boom– you’re ready to go. Move back with your parents? Lose your job? You don’t feel sexy.” I think he’s right. The mind plays a major factor in sex. That said, guys should not define their value by their job status, and when duty calls, they need to focus on the job at hand. A wonderful, willing partner can cure most psychological doubts in the mind. And if it’s still not working, maybe you two are destined for the friend zone.
WHAT CAN BE DONE
Some women report that once they had the talk or even made overtures about breaking it off, the guy’s sexual desire made a miraculous comeback. Again, the mind can play tricks on the male psyche. Although guys need an occasional trip to the woodshed, it’s also important that women help their man feel virile by boosting up his morale instead of putting him down.

What do you do when your guy says no?
(Via: GalTime)

Monday, 22 September 2014

5 Facts You Must Know About The Penis

For all the attention they direct below the belt, most men actually know very little about their penises. Here's the knowledge you need to keep yours healthy, strong, and ready for action, for life.

1. Smoking can shorten your penis by as much as a centimeter. Erections are all about good bloodflow, and lighting up calcifies blood vessels, stifling erectile circulation. So even if you don't care all that much about your lungs or dying young, spare the little guy.

2: Doctors can now grow skin for burn victims using the foreskins of circumcised infants. One foreskin can produce 23,000 square meters, which would be enough to tarp every Major League infield with human flesh.

3: An enlarged prostate gland can cause both erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. If you have an unexplained case of either, your doctor's looking forward to checking your prostate. Even if you're not.

4: The average male orgasm lasts 6 seconds. Women get 23 seconds. Which means if women were really interested in equality, they'd make sure men have four orgasms for every one of theirs.

5: The oldest known species with a penis is a hard-shelled sea creature called Colymbosathon ecplecticos. That's Greek for "amazing swimmer with large penis." Which officially supplants Buck Naked as the best porn name, ever.

6: Circumcised foreskin can be reconstructed. Movable skin on the shaft of the penis is pulled toward the tip and set in place with tape. Later, doctors apply plastic rings, caps, and weights. Years can pass until complete coverage is attained.

7: Only one man in 400 is flexible enough to give himself oral pleasure. It's estimated, however, that all 400 have given it their best shot at some point.

8: There are two types of penises. One kind expands and lengthens when becoming erect (a grower). The other appears big most of the time, but doesn't get much bigger after achieving erection (a shower).

9: An international Men's Health survey reports that 79 percent of men have growers, 21 percent have showers.

10: German researchers say the average intercourse lasts 2 minutes, 50 seconds, yet women perceive it as lasting 5 minutes, 30 seconds.

11: Turns out size does matter: The longer your penis, the better "semen displacement" you'll achieve when having sex with a woman flush with competing sperm. That's according to researchers at the State University of New York, who used artificial phalluses (ahem) to test the "scooping" mechanism of the penis's coronal ridge.

12: The penis that's been enjoyed by the most women could be that of King Fatefehi of Tonga, who supposedly deflowered 37,800 women between the years 1770 and 1784—that's about seven virgins a day.

13: Better-looking men may have stronger sperm. Spanish researchers showed women photos of guys who had good, average, and lousy sperm—and told them to pick the handsomest men. The women chose the best sperm producers most often.

14: No brain is necessary for ejaculation. That order comes from the spinal cord. Finding a living vessel for said ejaculation, however, takes hours of careful thought and, often, considerable amounts of alcohol.

15: The most common cause of penile rupture: vigorous masturbation. Some risks are just not worth taking.
(Via: Romance Meets Life)

5 Signs He'll Be Good In Bed

So you've got a new beau and you're trying to decide if you should take your budding bond to the next level... in the bedroom. Sure, he's hot and the scenes playing out in your head make you want to high tail it to your place. But is this guy really sex-mate material?
Great sex, at least the kind you want to have more than once with the same person, isn't just about having skills. That kind of hotness between the sheets grows cold fast. Really memorable partners are all about tuning into your needs and being willing to please in all the right places.

Thankfully, there are some signs that your new love interest is worthy of becoming your next lover. Let's see if your new hunk looks promising for the role.
1: He's a Gentleman
In love and sex, it's the small things that matter. Does he open doors for you, pull out your chair, call to check in about your day, remember to ask about your big work project? All are signs that he's thinking about you. If he's a thoughtful gentleman out of the bedroom, you can bet that treatment will continue once the lights are out.
2: He Knows How to Touch You
Guys who are into sex purely for sex's sake often save touching for one purpose, to score. A great lover is one who values sensuality both in and out of the bedroom. So if you're seeing a guy who touches your hand across the table at dinner, feels the small of your back as you walk through a hallway or holds your hand as you stroll through the park... that guy will know how to touch all of you.
3: It's Not Always About Him
For some men, it's always about them. What happened in their day, where they want to eat and what movie they want to see. Can you see where this is heading? But a guy who asks you about your day first, goes to your favorite restaurant even if he's not a huge fan of that type of food... or cuddles on the couch for a chick-flick? Now that guy will make your happiness a priority both in and out of bed!
4: He's Not in a Rush
Guys who are more interested in your body than in you, well, they want to get in the sack in a rush. Join him there too quick and you'll be a flash in his pan. A man who is truly interested in being your lover knows that you are worth a little wait. He actually wants to savor the build up because he plans on sticking around. So, if he says, "Let's wait" or "I'm not in a rush," know that he's willing to invest in his lovemaking.
5: He Makes You Feel Beautiful
Mind blowing sex is all about feeling free to be your uninhibited self because you know that your partner appreciates you. The kind of man who will make you feel that way is free with his compliments -- building you up with each little thing he notices about you that he likes. Even the way he looks at you will make you feel smart, sexy and attractive. That kind of chemistry smolders in bed and bursts into flame.

How does your guy stack up? By paying attention to how he treats you out of bed, you'll be clued into how he's apt to treat you in bed. If all systems are a go, he just might make your next best lover.
Via GalTime

Tuesday, 16 September 2014

Murphy's Law on Sex

1. The more beautiful the woman is who loves you, the easier it is 

   to leave her with no hard feelings.

2. Nothing improves with age.

3. No matter how many times you've had it, if it's offered take it, because it'll never be quite the same again.

4. Sex has no calories.

5. Sex takes up the least amount of time and causes the most
   amount of trouble.

6. There is no remedy for sex but more sex.

7. Sex appeal is 50% what you've got and 50% what people think
   you've got.

8. No sex with anyone in the same office.

9. Sex is like snow; you never know how many inches you are going
   to get or how long it is going to last.

10. A man in the house is worth two in the street.

11. If you get them by the balls, their hearts and minds will
    follow.

12. Virginity can be cured.

13. When a man's wife learns to understand him, she usually stops
    listening to him.

14. Never sleep with anyone crazier than yourself.

15. The qualities that most attract a woman to a man are usually
    the same ones she can't stand years later.

16. Sex is dirty only if it's done right.


17. It is always the wrong time of month.

18. The best way to hold a man is in your arms.

19. When the lights are out, all women are beautiful.

20. Sex is hereditary. If your parents never had it, chances are you won't either.

21. Sow your wild oats on Saturday night -- Then on Sunday pray for crop failure.

22. The younger the better.

23. The game of love is never called off on account of darkness.

24. It was not the apple on the tree but the pair on the ground
    that caused the trouble in the garden.

25. Sex discriminates against the shy and the ugly.

27. Before you find your handsome prince, you've got to kiss a lot
    of frogs.

28. There may be some things better than sex, and some things
    worse than sex. But there is nothing exactly like it.

29. Love your neighbor, but don't get caught.


30. Love is a hole in the heart.

31. If the effort that went in research on the female bosom had gone into our space program, we would now be running hot-dog stands on the moon.

32. Love is a matter of chemistry, sex is a matter of physics.

33. Do it only with the best.

34. Sex is a three-letter word which needs some old-fashioned
    four-letter words to convey its full meaning.

35. One good turn gets most of the blankets.

36. You cannot produce a baby in one month by impregnating nine
    women.

37. Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.

38. It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

39. Thou shalt not commit adultery.....unless in the mood.

40. Never lie down with a woman who's got more troubles than you.

41. Abstain from wine, women, and song; mostly song.

42. Never argue with a women when she's tired -- or rested.

43. A woman never forgets the men she could have had; a man, the
    women he couldn't.

44. What matters is not the length of the wand, but the magic in 
    the stick.

45. It is better to be looked over than overlooked.
46. Never say no.

47. A man can be happy with any woman as long as he doesn't love her.

48. Folks playing leapfrog must complete all jumps.

49. Beauty is skin deep; ugly goes right to the bone.

50. Never stand between a fire hydrant and a dog.

51. A man is only a man, but a good bicycle is a ride.

52. Love comes in spurts.



53. The world does not revolve on an axis.

54. Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation; the other eight are unimportant.

55. Smile, it makes people wonder what you are thinking.

56. Don't do it if you can't keep it up.

57. There is no difference between a wise man and a fool when they
    fall in love.
58. Never go to bed mad, stay up and fight.
59. Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another.

60. "This won't hurt, I promise."




(Via: Columbia)

Saturday, 13 September 2014

Scientists Are Working on Making Your Vagina Smell Like Roses

When you think of probiotics, you probably think yoghurt adverts. But scientists are also using them in weirder and weirder attempts to "hack" your body — including making your vagina literally smell like roses.
The human body is filled with "microbiomes," large groups of bacteria and other microorganisms that live in your internal organs. They have more genetic material in your body than you do, and you couldn't live without them. Some scientists claim switching up your gut bacteria, or even altering its DNA, will one day fight things like lactose intolerance and celiac disease.

Hacking your microbiomes can also fight sillier issues. According to Vice, it could make your poop have no smell – or even a personalized smell. And a team led by scientist Gilad Gome is working on manipulating bacteria called lactobacillus that can help you medically, but can also introduce "pleasant scents or flavors" to your vagina. (Aside: Your vagina is perfectly pleasant as it is!)

"So a woman can protect herself from UTIs and pathogens by taking a probiotic," Gome told VICE. "And if she wants she can hack into her microbiome and make her vagina smell like roses and taste like diet cola."

So yeah, there you have it. If this works out, no more smelly vagina!- just roses and cola. Science really does care.
(Via: Cosmopolitan

Thursday, 11 September 2014

Mind Games Men Play in Relationships And How To Deal With Them

Is your boyfriend acting weird lately? Is he constantly finding faults with your dressing, behavior, Facebook posts, etc? Then this may be a sign that he is playing the 'finding fault' mind game with you. This will only make you feel self-conscious and insecure. You will start believing that you do not deserve such a 'nice' guy, and wouldn't want to lose him at any cost. This will make you cling on to him even more.
If you thought that only women were good at playing mind games, you are completely mistaken. Men play on the insecurities and emotional involvement of women, and manipulate them to have their way. Some love to play mind games on women to test their patience, intelligence, compatibility, loyalty, etc. They tend to exploit the emotional nature of women and use it for their own advantage.

How you react to your partner's mind games helps him decide the future of your relationship. You must know when he is playing a mind game with you, so that you can act wisely and refrain from taking any drastic step which will ruin your relationship.

Types of Mind Games Played By Men
The 'You Are the Love of My Life' Game
This is exactly what whirlwind romances are made of-emotional manipulation. The man you have just met will shower you with lots of attention, compliments, gifts, etc. He will say that you mean the world to him, and will wonder why you hadn't met him earlier. There will be butterflies in your stomach, stolen kisses, late-night texts and talks. You may even find surprise flowers and chocolates delivered at your doorstep. Like always, you will think that he is your 'Mr. Right'. Then you will take the relationship to the next level. This excitement will continue for a month, and after reaching the 'break-even point', he will say that he wants to take things slow. The contact may become lesser and lesser, until one day, when there will be nothing left with you but memories.

Manipulation
He will try to portray that everything is perfect, and you mean a lot to him, only to leave you for someone else. And you will keep wondering what exactly went wrong.

Surviving the Game
The Mills and Boon kind of romance only happens in Mills and Boon. Getting attached too soon will not be good for you at all. So, take some time to think if this relationship is merely an attraction or true love, before you’re heartbroken.

The 'Convenience' Game
So, you and your boyfriend have a strange relationship. He breaks your heart and walks away, only to appear after a few days and apologize for his behavior. Guess what, history repeats itself, and he leaves once again. Every time he comes back into your life, he has his own reasons. Sometimes, its work, sometimes, his friends keep him busy, and then there are always some duties that he is expected to do at home. He may even give you lame reasons that his great-great-grandmother expired, and he needed to be by his great-great-grandpa's side. That is why he didn't show up for six months. The reasons keep on getting bizarre, so much so, that you wonder if he owns an encyclopedia on excuses. This continues for some time, before you realize that you are being taken for a ride.

Manipulation
He treats you as a matter of convenience. Whenever he wants, he comes into your life, and leaves you as he pleases.

Surviving the Game
Are you really that naive? He is giving you all kinds of lame reasons, and you are buying them! Understand that you have to leave him, just as he left you twice. Simply find someone else; there are plenty of fish in the ocean.
The 'No Sex' Game
So, the guy who could not keep his hands off you is showing no interest in getting intimate lately. Strange, isn't it? I know how worried you must be because of this. You must be killing yourself with thoughts like, 'has he found someone else?', 'is something wrong with me?', or 'has something gone wrong with our relationship?'. However, you need to understand that he does this, so that you will start doubting your capacity in the art of lovemaking. You will be forced to confront him, and this is all that he wants you to do.

Manipulation
He does this so that he can 'tell' you what he expects from you during physical intimacy, without sounding too demanding.

Surviving the Game
There is no problem in asking him what he expects from you. However, don't get into a physical act which you may not be comfortable with, just because it pleases him.

The 'Comparison' Game
This is perhaps the worst game ever, because it will hurt your self-esteem. If your boyfriend is comparing you with any other girl, it will affect you terribly. It will only add insult to injury, if that girl is someone close to you, like your best friend or sister. He will tell you to go to the gym just like her, become smart like she is, how attractive she is, etc. He is probably well aware that this will cause feelings of jealousy and anger in you. Even then, he will continue to compare your looks, figure, fitness, style, etc., with that other woman.

Manipulation
By making you question everything about your appearance and existence, he tries to bring your self-esteem down.

Surviving the Game
First of all, don't see his criticism in negative light. Maybe he really does want you to improve. However, tell him that you will accept constructive criticism, but you cannot stand comparison, as you take immense pride in your individuality. However, if he is being unreasonable, tell him that you cannot change any further. Try not to say anything negative to him in a fit of anger, as he may use it against you in a future argument.

The 'No Compliment' Game
You went to a salon and got all decked up specially for him, since you wanted to look beautiful for him. The whole evening passed by, and he didn't even pay you a single compliment. You are waiting to hear simple words of praise from him. He talks about everything else under the sun, but fails to notice your stunning looks. Your anger is reaching its boiling point, as you wait for him to give you a small compliment. You even indulge in some compliment-fishing by stroking your hair or batting your eyelashes, but to no avail. He drops you back at your place, and leaves without saying a single word about how stunning you looked that evening.

Manipulation
He is purposely not paying a compliment, even though he knows that it is all that you want to hear from him.

Surviving the Game
Try not to overreact, because he may have done this to test your patience. If you throw a tantrum, it will convince him that you are a difficult person to get along with. Play along. The next time you meet him, ask him if he noticed you the other day. However, don't say it angrily, rather, put it across subtly.

The 'Ignorance' Game
You wait for his call or message, but it is as if he has vanished into thin air. You see that he is active on Facebook, but still not replying to your messages. You try to call him, but he doesn't answer your calls. You keep on wondering if you did something wrong to hurt him on the last date. These thoughts start disturbing you, and you desperately look for answers. You imagine that he has found someone else, or he does not think you are attractive enough. You are deeply hurt by his behavior, and so you send him one last nasty text, telling him why he doesn't deserve you anyway. This seals the deal of your breakup.

Manipulation
He knows very well that you will get a panic attack when something like this happens. Still, he wants to wait and watch the fun.
Surviving the Game
While he may be genuinely busy, overreacting to this situation can seriously backfire on your relationship. Patience is the key to surviving this mind game. Do not be in a haste to jump to conclusions or accuse him of anything. Get all the facts right before taking any decision.

The 'I Need Space' Game
'I need space', is perhaps words that are dreaded by all girlfriends, because they are well aware what it leads to. Boyfriends use this phrase when they feel claustrophobic in their relationship, or need a change. However, women become restless and anxious, as they know that it would, in most cases, lead to a breakup. So, they start wondering what went wrong, or what was it that would have changed the scenario.

Manipulation
Guys know very well that when they use this phrase, you will feel the need to be with them even more.

Surviving the Game
Try to give him the space he needs. This will also tell him that you can survive easily without this relationship. Even after giving him space for a considerable number of days, if he doesn't turn up, confront him about your relationship status. This conversation can be a maker or breaker, so watch your words carefully.

The 'My Friends Don't Like You' Game
I guess most girls must have had such boyfriends at some point in time, who claimed that their friends didn't approve of their relationship. Many guys try to create a rift between their friends and girlfriends, by telling both the parties stories about possessiveness of the other person. This creates resentment and anger between both, their girlfriends and friends. They start hating each other, and the boyfriend only keeps adding fuel to the fire.

Manipulation
He will love to sit back and watch the fun of the tug-of-war over him, between his girlfriend and friends.

Surviving the Game
Don't give him a chance to manipulate you in this fashion. Right from the beginning, have cordial relations with his friends. Make them your friends. In fact, you should be so friendly, that if a dispute occurs between your beau and yourself, they will take your side. Even if there are misunderstandings between you and his friends, you can take the initiative to bury the hatchet.

The 'Lying' Game
So, you meet this wonderful person on Facebook, and you chatted with him day and night. Both of you start feeling that you have met your soul mates. He tells you that he is into finance. You decide to meet up, and the date goes very well. You both get involved in a strong relationship. Only a few days later, you find out from a third person that he has lied to you about his career, and actually owns a store. While his career choice would have hardly mattered to you, his lying will make you wonder if he is a genuine person. As trust is often compared with paper, which once crumpled cannot be straightened; you will not be able to get along with this person.

Manipulation
He is lying about being someone else or having some qualities, only to impress you.

Surviving the Game
If you are dating a person who is making tall claims about his career and lifestyle, it is advisable that you investigate what he says holds true. This will only help you avoid a terrible heartache in future.

A point to note is that, not all men are like this. Nevertheless, apart from the ones mentioned above, there are also the 'getting secretive' game, 'getting aggressive' game, 'making feel guilty game', 'commitment phobia' game, 'cheating because I love you' game, 'silent treatment' game, etc. Men play mind games with women even in the simplest of ways. But, now that you understand the mind games men play in relationships, you will be able to recognize them instantly, and cope with them in a better manner. Not only that, you will be able to 'checkmate' them even before they start playing complicated mind games with you. Take care!
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Saturday, 6 September 2014

5 Sex Moves You Think She Likes, But Doesn't

You've been around the block once or twice, and no, we’re not talking alternate side of the street parking. We’re talking sex. You've done your homework, boned up on the finer points of doing the deed, and when it comes to getting busy between the sheets—or whatever your locale of choice—you can be trusted to bring it on, bring it home and just...bring it. You’re the man. The love guru. A sexual rock star. But you know what? You might be mistaken. While you may be certain your performance is hitting all the right notes, in reality, your off-key love song can potentially get you sacked in the sack. (But always remember: all women were not created equal, especially on the playing field of sexual yeas and nays. One girl's thrill is another’s What are you doing? but cut these deal breakers from your curriculum, and you're off to a good start.)

The Pro
Beware being the guy who believes that having an encyclopedic education in Tantra, The Kama Sutra and the collected works of Dr. Ruth Westheimer makes you a proficient lover. A little knowledge may be a dangerous thing, but so is a lot of knowledge in the wrong hands, tongues or other man bits, and as everyone knows, theory and practice are two very different animals. The guy who is certain he can “give” a woman an orgasm operates on the misconception that a woman’s orgasm is his to give. It’s not. Yes, you can and should help her get there, but the long, short, thick, thin and yeah, just right there of it is: a woman’s climax is her own. A man so goal-oriented that he focuses solely on “pleasuring his woman,” can expect to achieve the same result as one who doesn't care whether his partner gets off at all. He’s running through his checklist, and an hour of oohing and ahhing later, she’s thinking, "Are we there yet?"
The One-Noter
Ah, the clitoris: The seat of so much pleasure, and the temple to so many misconceptions. Is clitoral stimulation a good thing? Of course it is. Can there be too much of a good thing? You betcha. While the ruby pearl is a magic button, it’s certainly not the only one. Direct contact or fancy finagling down below are not givens, nor should sex necessarily begin and end “on the dot.” If your idea of foreplay is to shove a hand between her legs and have at it, don’t be surprised if she shuts down rather than lights up. Every woman has her own timing, tempo and preferred sequence of events. Learn to read her music or you may get the hook.
The Rebel
Porn movies are fantasies. Many things you see in them may make for fabulous wank fodder, but when going one-on-one with a real partner of the non-inflatable variety, can be real deal breakers. Spanking. DP. Facials. Girl-on-girl. We’re not saying she won’t be into it, but we are saying you should broach the subject before you invite the cable guy in for a threesome and cue the cheesy soundtrack. Ironically, females are now major consumers of porn. If your amore’s amenable, try watching some together and talking about how far you're both willing to go before you bust out the sex swing.
The Sloppy Eater
Those who treat the vagina like hogs at a trough rarely find themselves asked back for a return engagement. Going down? Good! Enthusiasm? Great! Slobbering, snuffling, snarling, snorting and/or grunting? Yuck.
The Marathon Man
The seven-hour myth of Sting has been debunked. Not every woman is capable of multiple orgasms, nor does she necessarily want it to go on and on and on. Sometimes, it's a far better thing for you to come, than it is to attempt to make her come again—or even at all. Heresy, right? Not really. Intercourse does not have to lead to female orgasm 100 percent of the time. As long as it doesn’t become a recurring theme, it’s not the end of the world. Again, focus on the game, rather than the score and pleasure will be achieved. (She can always get herself off later, and if you’re nice, she may even let you watch.)
Via: Men's Fitness Image via: OnlyMyHealth

Friday, 5 September 2014

7 Things Men Really Really Want In A Relationship

Open any beauty magazine and you'll see article upon article about what women want in relationships and how to get that. But there's rarely a space for men to express their relationship needs. So here are 7 things that men really want in a relationship.

1. To feel like your hero
We don’t want to be your Clark Kent. We want to be your Superman. We want you to see us as leaping tall buildings in a single bound and catching bullets. We want to carry you in our arms and show you the world. Or at least feel that way. And I know it’s our job to get there, but nothing gives us more strength than a woman who creates a space that makes us feel invincible. If you make us feel invincible, we’ll make you feel like you’re the most beautiful creature on this planet.
2. Acceptance
We NEED to feel that when we stack the dishes in the dishwasher like a five year-old, say the wrong thing in front of your friends, leave the toilet seat up, get too logical, forget something you’ve said a thousand times, that you love us anyways. Because inside every man is a boy who forgets he’s a man sometimes. And every boy gets into things, not because he’s bad but because he’s got a curious mind and a short attention span.

Unconditional support from our woman is what will snap us out of our boyish behavior and inject us with a desire to be a stronger man. Only when you accept us as we are, who we are, will we want to become someone better.
3. Not to be left in the dark
So many women don’t tell their men how they feel because they don’t want to rock the boat. Or they’re afraid. The truth is when you don’t express yourself, you leave us in the dark. We don’t really know the truth of you. You are prepackaging and presenting parts of your life instead of doing your whole life with us.

Couples grow and get stronger overcoming adversity, not by doing life separately. Know that every time you hold things in, you are building walls inside the sacred space of the relationship. No, we don’t want you to verbally vomit on us. But believe it or not, we really do want to know who you truly are.
4. Blinders sex
There’s sex. Then there’s blinders sex, the kind of sex that gives you blinders, keeps your eyes forward and intentions straight when you’re out in the world. Let’s face it. Men are going to look. They’re like squirrels. They get distracted by shiny things. But there’s a difference between noticing and wanting. Blinders sex gets men to say, “Yeah, she may be pretty but I would never trade in what I have for anything else.”

Blinders sex isn’t just good sex. It’s a unique connection with someone that makes you fantasize about them in the shower, call in sick so you can lie in bed all day making love and eating Oreos. It produces glue that cannot happen with anyone else.
5. The C-word
Communication. Without it, relationships are built on sand. We want you to communicate directly. We don’t get clues. We need things spelled out. And we understand that if you have to spell it out, it’s not the same. You don’t just want us to do the dishes. You want us to want to do the dishes. We get it. OK, then tell us. Explain. Model how you would like us to communicate back.

For many of us, communication is not our specialty. We need some guidance. Generally speaking, men tend to pull from a logical place. Women pull from an emotional place. If you can meet us at logic, we will will match your emotions. Hopefully. But we need you to tell us.
6. Sweat
There’s nothing sexier than working out with your intimate partner. Watching you sweat and work on your body only encourages us to work on ours as well. We get to see the raw and real you, a different type of naked. Now, if we do this together, we’re in the act of building something, a lifestyle. We’re not just talking. We’re doing. And that’s hot.
7. To have our own lives
We may not say it, because how do you tell the person you love to get a life? But we really want you to have your own life. Really. We want you to have your own set of friends, activities, and passions. Of course we want to be supportive of everything you care about and be a part of anything you would like us to be a part of, but we want you to have your own identity.

Because if you have nothing that is yours, our relationship is standing on one leg. Also, if you have your own life, it forces us to get our own life as well or risk losing you. Forget legs. Let’s put our relationship on wheels. One is yours. One is mine. And together, we’ll ride.
(Via:Mind Body Green    Image via: linkedin)

Monday, 1 September 2014

Why Sleeping With Friends Is The Best Thing. And The Worst Thing

In what is probably the greatest film ever made, When Harry Met Sally, there is a scene where a pair of best friends called Harry and Sally lie side by side in a bed after they have had sex for the first time. She nuzzles into his neck like a kitten and purrs at him, asking him if he is comfortable. A high-angle shot captures Harry staring at the ceiling with eyes as wide as saucers, his leg flung out of the bed and poised on the floor, ready to get the hell out of there.
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The next day, he tells his male friend about sleeping with Sally: “Most of the time you go to bed with someone, then she tells you all her stories and you tell her your stories,” he explains. “But with Sally and me, we'd already heard each other's stories.”

I have always thought this line perfectly articulates both the best and worst thing about sleeping with your best friend. On one hand, you don’t have to bother staying up all night discovering everything about each other. You don’t have to exhaust yourself trying to impress them. The heat is off. They’re impressed already. That’s why they’re friends with you. But on the other hand — it’s confusing. There’s no seduction or pillow talk when you have sex with a friend and so it’s hard to know what to do or say afterwards. You can’t really BE sexy. Because there’s no fooling your best mates.

In my experience, if you are close with someone single and of the opposite sex, inevitably there will be a moment when sex is discussed. At one point in your friendship, you’ll stop the car and suddenly find yourselves with an option of turning off into a remote village that you never knew was there. Sometimes you get to that junction out of drunkenness, sometimes out of boredom or loneliness. Sometimes you just find yourself there, very quickly, for no traceable reason at all.

Here’s the first question you want to ask yourself — do you really want to have sex with this person? Or is it because you’re a man and she’s a woman and you can’t be bothered to find anyone else? Is having sex with this person a bit like when you open the fridge and realise there’s nothing in there other than a out-of-date jar of pesto but you eat it anyway? Are you really going to scrape the non-mouldy bit of pesto out and put it on some bread? That also required a mould removal effort?  Do you really want to eat this? Or do you think you should just have a cup of tea and go to bed and go shopping in the morning?

Then if you go ahead with it, here are the potential outcomes to prepare for:

1. You decide it was a one-off thing that doesn’t have to be a big deal and your friendship can recover from it.

2. You decide you cannot get over it and it has shifted the gear in your friendship too much to go back to normal.

3. You realise that having sex with them was the most awkward, silent, uncomfortable experience of your life and you wonder why you ever did it. Of course it was going to be like that. You fucked your best mate.

4. You realise that having sex with them was the most bed-breaking, head-board-banging, gorgeous, amazing experience of your life and you wonder why it took you so long to do it. Of course it was going to be like that! You fucked your best mate!

5. You think you can get over it and then you see them with someone else and realise, actually, you can’t.

6. One of you wants to keep sleeping together and the other doesn’t.

7. You wake up, freak out, leave without saying goodbye, go home, pack your bags, take your passport, leave the country and send them a Facebook message five to ten years later explaining that you just felt a bit weird about the whole thing.

8. You both realize you should be having sex all the time. You start dating. You fall in love.

8b. (optional) You buy a house. You buy a dog. You buy some furniture. You get married. You have a baby. You start fighting about the dog and the furniture and the baby. You get divorced. You wish you’d just stayed friends in the first place.

And my final word of warning is a reminder that proper, close, male/female friendships are quite hard to come by. If you've found someone who makes you laugh, who gives good advice, who’ll be there for you at your lowest ebb, I would proceed with caution. That’s a lot to potentially lose on account of an orgasm.

…But then, on the flip side, it’s just sex isn't it? Happens every day. Your neighbours do it. Your parents did it. Every person on the bus has done it. People do it with whipped cream and up bottoms and with five other people and Monica Lewinksy did it with a cigar and Boris Becker did it in a cupboard. It’s just sex. There are entire iPhone apps for people to organise and meet up to do it. It doesn’t have to mean everything. And sure, it could go wrong. But it could also be sort of great. You just have to assess whether the outcome could be good enough to warrant the gamble. 

And here I leave you with a quote from Peter McWilliams, who worded this argument in a quip far better than any of mine. “What if it doesn’t work out?” he asked. “Ah, but what if it does.”
(Via askmen)
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