Showing posts with label Guys. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Guys. Show all posts

Friday, 26 September 2014

21 reasons why you should have sex.. tonight!

Partner “not in the mood” again? Then it might be worth sharing the following to change their mind! According to the latest studies, regular sex – that’s one to two lovemaking sessions per week – can provide some incredible boosts to your health and wellbeing.

1. Look younger
Last week, Dr David Weeks, clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, revealed to a psychology ­conference that his extensive research had found older men and women with an active love life looked five to seven years younger than their actual age.

But you don’t have to be at it every night to enjoy youth-enhancing effects! In fact, during his 10-year study, ­Weeks found quality was as important as quantity, with the anti-ageing benefits stronger if the sex was classed as “loving”.
2. Boost your fertility
This will sound like ­music to most men’s ears – studies have found that the more often you make love, the better quality your sperm will be.

Semen health was found to be best when sex had last occurred less than two days before the sperm was tested and was greatly decreased after 10 days of abstinence.

If you’re trying for a baby, keep sperm fresh and in tip-top shape by having sex at least twice a week, and not only around the time of the woman’s ovulation.

Frequent sex has also been found to help balance a woman’s hormones and regulate her periods, which can further boost chances of conceiving.
3. Fight colds and flu
Having sex once or twice a week has been found to raise your body’s levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, or IgA, which can protect you from colds and flu. One study found people who have sex more than once a week have 30% higher levels of IgA than those who abstain.
4. Disease-proof your body
Having high levels of the natural steroid DHEA, known as “the anti-ageing hormone”, is believed to be key to keeping your body fitter for longer. During sex, DHEA is ­secreted throughout the body, and after an orgasm, the level in the bloodstream soars to five times its normal amount.
5. Lengthen your life
A study carried out in Australia found people who climaxed at least three times a week had a 50% lower chance of dying for any medical reason than those who only climaxed once a month.
6. Shift your middle-age spread and keep fit
Thirty minutes of vigorous sex burns up to 100 calories, which is the same as a small glass of wine.

And if you have moderately active sex twice a week, you’ll burn an extra 5,000 calories a year! ­

Varying your positions is also a great, fun way to tone different muscle groups and keep limbs lean and flexible.
7. Ease those nasty period cramps
Many women say period pain diminishes if they do the deed during a cramp attack.

One theory why is that muscle contractions that occur when you reach peak levels of excitement relieve tension in the muscles of your uterus – the ones that cause menstrual cramps – therefore easing the pain.
8. Helps lower your risk of incontinence
Good sex is a great workout for a woman’s pelvic floor muscles – the muscles that control ­orgasms and also stem the flow of urine, reducing leakage and incontinence.

Pregnancy and the menopause can weaken these muscles significantly, but the stronger they are, the lower your risk of developing stress incontinence and prolapse later.

And let’s face it, sex is far more ­enjoyable than the chore of doing pelvic floor exercises on your own!
9. Prevent a heart attack
Lots of studies have found that regular sex can ward off heart attacks, not bring them on as it was once feared.

One study at Queen’s University Belfast found that having sex three times a week could halve your risk of having a heart attack or stroke.

Another study in Israel found that women who had two orgasms a week were up to 30% less likely to have heart disease than those who did not enjoy sex or didn’t have an orgasm.
10. Increase your attractiveness to others
High sexual activity makes the body release more pheromones, chemicals that enhance your appeal to the opposite sex.

This is why the more sex you have with your partner, the stronger your desire will be to have sex with them again.
11. Smooth out your wrinkles
The hormone oestrogen is pumped out during sex, which can in turn have a plumping effect on the skin, helping to smooth out those fine lines.

This is especially useful following the menopause, when a woman’s skin can ­become drier and more wrinkled, as ­oestrogen levels naturally drop.

One American study found that menopausal women who had sex every week had ­oestrogen levels that were twice as high as their counterparts who abstained.
12 Give yourself an all-over healthy glow
According to ­research carried out at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, sex promotes skin renewal because it is an aerobic form of exercise.

The scientist behind this study found that vigorous sex pumps higher levels of oxygen around the body, increasing the flow of blood and nutrients to the skin, and pushes newer, fresher skin cells to the surface, making skin look healthier.
13. Improve your self-esteem
One of the most important benefits, noted in a recent survey undertaken by the University of Texas, US, was that participants who had sex regularly felt more confident about their bodies.
14. Lower your blood pressure
A Scottish study found men and women who had plenty of sex coped well with stress and had lower blood ­pressure than those who abstained. Researchers at Brigham Young ­University in the US also linked frequent intercourse to lower blood pressure.
15. Banish depression
Like any exercise that raises your heart rate, sex causes your brain to release feel-good chemicals that boost your levels of serotonin – the happy hormone – to lift your mood.

Serotonin is the body’s key antidepressant chemical and one of the major reasons people smile and feel happy and relaxed after sex.

Sexually active women in long-term ­relationships are also less likely to feel depressed than women who go without sex, according to a study of nearly 300 women by psychologist Gordon Gallup in the American Archives Of Sexual ­Behavior.
16. Cure that headache (yes, really!)
“Having a headache” might be an age-old excuse not to have sex, but the scientific evidence says that, to the contrary, sex can help shift pain!

This is because making love causes a surge in the “love” hormone ­oxytocin, plus other feel-good ­endorphins, which can ease pain.

Women have reported that their ­pain from both headaches and ­arthritis improved post-coitus.
17. Slash stress
In a study in the Psychology journal, ­researchers found that people who’d had sex in the last 24 hours coped better with stressful ­scenarios – such as public speaking – than those who had not.

Research has also shown that touching and cuddling during and after sex reduces the body’s levels of cortisol – the hormone that is secreted when you’re stressed.
18. Kick your insomnia into touch
The oxytocin released when you orgasm has another benefit – it can help you drop off, research claims.

Both men and women release this feel-good ­hormone just before ­orgasm, and as it courses through your system, it promotes relaxation and sleepiness.

So there is actually a genuine excuse for him to fall asleep so quickly after sex...
19. Strengthen your bones
As regular sex can boost oestrogen levels in post-menopausal women, it can offer some protection against the ­bone-thinning condition osteoporosis that is triggered by a lack of oestrogen.

And men can benefit too, as testosterone levels have been found to increase during and after sex, which can provide some protection against male osteoporosis.
20. Cut your risk of prostate cancer
Researchers at Nottingham University have found that men who enjoy a regular sex life in their 50s are at lower risk of developing prostate cancer.

This is because sex clears the prostate of toxins that could ­otherwise linger and trigger ­cancerous changes.

The link was first suggested after several studies showed that monks appeared to have a higher chance of developing prostate cancer.
21. Feel better all day
If you decide to go for a spot of morning passion to start your day, the boost to your mood it provides can continue right through until night-time, ­according to research.

The American scientist Dr Debby Herbenick found that adults who made love first thing in the morning were not only more upbeat for the rest of the day, but they also benefited from a stronger ­immune system than those people who simply opted for a cup of tea and some toast before ­heading out of the door.

In other words – why wait until tonight?
(Via: Mirror)

Thursday, 25 September 2014

When Guys Say No To Sex

Let’s face it. Things have changed in the world of relationships. Male and female ‘roles’ are less defined. Either partner can make decisions… and that includes when and IF to have sex.   But, it’s not necessarily a slap in the face to us ladies. So , next time you dim the lights and bust a move on your man and he does not respond the way you want, consider the following before taking things personally or freaking out. (That’s not good for anyone!)

Okay, it’s not all good news, but remember; guys are people, too.
Okay, maybe the two of you went on a bender starting with shots of wedding cake vodka before hitting the club. It’s been a long night and you’ve both indulged in multiple forms of stimulants. Imagine that. So it’s five a.m. and you’re wondering why he has not jumped your bones. It might not be a problem. He may be so wired that all he wants is to do more of whatever you two have been ingesting, or he’s so wired that he’s trying to chill. Speedy stimulants are not great for the male sexual apparatus. A guy might be there mentally, but physically it’s not working. Or, one night he might be totally stressed out from work or whatever is being thrown his way. If “no thank you” happens once in a blue moon, don’t fret. He’ll learn to slow down and you’ll make sure he focuses on you.
This is not a good sign. Sure, no means no whether you are a guy or a gal, but if your guy has passed up sex for a prolonged period of time and he is under sixty: you've got a problem. Every situation is different, but a healthy, robust sex life is part of the core DNA of a healthy relationship between partners—men and women, women and women, men and men. Sex rocks and since it takes two to tango and you've been left on the dance floor alone, I suggest that you sit your partner down and have a talk. Maybe it will turn out to be the talk, but you need some kind of talk for context.
A noted professor of gender studies at Pasadena City College claims that it’s not you; it’s him. He states, “Men are turned on by success. Get a job or promotion— and boom– you’re ready to go. Move back with your parents? Lose your job? You don’t feel sexy.” I think he’s right. The mind plays a major factor in sex. That said, guys should not define their value by their job status, and when duty calls, they need to focus on the job at hand. A wonderful, willing partner can cure most psychological doubts in the mind. And if it’s still not working, maybe you two are destined for the friend zone.
Some women report that once they had the talk or even made overtures about breaking it off, the guy’s sexual desire made a miraculous comeback. Again, the mind can play tricks on the male psyche. Although guys need an occasional trip to the woodshed, it’s also important that women help their man feel virile by boosting up his morale instead of putting him down.

What do you do when your guy says no?
(Via: GalTime)

Monday, 22 September 2014

5 Facts You Must Know About The Penis

For all the attention they direct below the belt, most men actually know very little about their penises. Here's the knowledge you need to keep yours healthy, strong, and ready for action, for life.

1. Smoking can shorten your penis by as much as a centimeter. Erections are all about good bloodflow, and lighting up calcifies blood vessels, stifling erectile circulation. So even if you don't care all that much about your lungs or dying young, spare the little guy.

2: Doctors can now grow skin for burn victims using the foreskins of circumcised infants. One foreskin can produce 23,000 square meters, which would be enough to tarp every Major League infield with human flesh.

3: An enlarged prostate gland can cause both erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. If you have an unexplained case of either, your doctor's looking forward to checking your prostate. Even if you're not.

4: The average male orgasm lasts 6 seconds. Women get 23 seconds. Which means if women were really interested in equality, they'd make sure men have four orgasms for every one of theirs.

5: The oldest known species with a penis is a hard-shelled sea creature called Colymbosathon ecplecticos. That's Greek for "amazing swimmer with large penis." Which officially supplants Buck Naked as the best porn name, ever.

6: Circumcised foreskin can be reconstructed. Movable skin on the shaft of the penis is pulled toward the tip and set in place with tape. Later, doctors apply plastic rings, caps, and weights. Years can pass until complete coverage is attained.

7: Only one man in 400 is flexible enough to give himself oral pleasure. It's estimated, however, that all 400 have given it their best shot at some point.

8: There are two types of penises. One kind expands and lengthens when becoming erect (a grower). The other appears big most of the time, but doesn't get much bigger after achieving erection (a shower).

9: An international Men's Health survey reports that 79 percent of men have growers, 21 percent have showers.

10: German researchers say the average intercourse lasts 2 minutes, 50 seconds, yet women perceive it as lasting 5 minutes, 30 seconds.

11: Turns out size does matter: The longer your penis, the better "semen displacement" you'll achieve when having sex with a woman flush with competing sperm. That's according to researchers at the State University of New York, who used artificial phalluses (ahem) to test the "scooping" mechanism of the penis's coronal ridge.

12: The penis that's been enjoyed by the most women could be that of King Fatefehi of Tonga, who supposedly deflowered 37,800 women between the years 1770 and 1784—that's about seven virgins a day.

13: Better-looking men may have stronger sperm. Spanish researchers showed women photos of guys who had good, average, and lousy sperm—and told them to pick the handsomest men. The women chose the best sperm producers most often.

14: No brain is necessary for ejaculation. That order comes from the spinal cord. Finding a living vessel for said ejaculation, however, takes hours of careful thought and, often, considerable amounts of alcohol.

15: The most common cause of penile rupture: vigorous masturbation. Some risks are just not worth taking.
(Via: Romance Meets Life)

Tuesday, 16 September 2014

Murphy's Law on Sex

1. The more beautiful the woman is who loves you, the easier it is 

   to leave her with no hard feelings.

2. Nothing improves with age.

3. No matter how many times you've had it, if it's offered take it, because it'll never be quite the same again.

4. Sex has no calories.

5. Sex takes up the least amount of time and causes the most
   amount of trouble.

6. There is no remedy for sex but more sex.

7. Sex appeal is 50% what you've got and 50% what people think
   you've got.

8. No sex with anyone in the same office.

9. Sex is like snow; you never know how many inches you are going
   to get or how long it is going to last.

10. A man in the house is worth two in the street.

11. If you get them by the balls, their hearts and minds will

12. Virginity can be cured.

13. When a man's wife learns to understand him, she usually stops
    listening to him.

14. Never sleep with anyone crazier than yourself.

15. The qualities that most attract a woman to a man are usually
    the same ones she can't stand years later.

16. Sex is dirty only if it's done right.

17. It is always the wrong time of month.

18. The best way to hold a man is in your arms.

19. When the lights are out, all women are beautiful.

20. Sex is hereditary. If your parents never had it, chances are you won't either.

21. Sow your wild oats on Saturday night -- Then on Sunday pray for crop failure.

22. The younger the better.

23. The game of love is never called off on account of darkness.

24. It was not the apple on the tree but the pair on the ground
    that caused the trouble in the garden.

25. Sex discriminates against the shy and the ugly.

27. Before you find your handsome prince, you've got to kiss a lot
    of frogs.

28. There may be some things better than sex, and some things
    worse than sex. But there is nothing exactly like it.

29. Love your neighbor, but don't get caught.

30. Love is a hole in the heart.

31. If the effort that went in research on the female bosom had gone into our space program, we would now be running hot-dog stands on the moon.

32. Love is a matter of chemistry, sex is a matter of physics.

33. Do it only with the best.

34. Sex is a three-letter word which needs some old-fashioned
    four-letter words to convey its full meaning.

35. One good turn gets most of the blankets.

36. You cannot produce a baby in one month by impregnating nine

37. Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.

38. It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

39. Thou shalt not commit adultery.....unless in the mood.

40. Never lie down with a woman who's got more troubles than you.

41. Abstain from wine, women, and song; mostly song.

42. Never argue with a women when she's tired -- or rested.

43. A woman never forgets the men she could have had; a man, the
    women he couldn't.

44. What matters is not the length of the wand, but the magic in 
    the stick.

45. It is better to be looked over than overlooked.
46. Never say no.

47. A man can be happy with any woman as long as he doesn't love her.

48. Folks playing leapfrog must complete all jumps.

49. Beauty is skin deep; ugly goes right to the bone.

50. Never stand between a fire hydrant and a dog.

51. A man is only a man, but a good bicycle is a ride.

52. Love comes in spurts.

53. The world does not revolve on an axis.

54. Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation; the other eight are unimportant.

55. Smile, it makes people wonder what you are thinking.

56. Don't do it if you can't keep it up.

57. There is no difference between a wise man and a fool when they
    fall in love.
58. Never go to bed mad, stay up and fight.
59. Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another.

60. "This won't hurt, I promise."

(Via: Columbia)

Saturday, 6 September 2014

5 Sex Moves You Think She Likes, But Doesn't

You've been around the block once or twice, and no, we’re not talking alternate side of the street parking. We’re talking sex. You've done your homework, boned up on the finer points of doing the deed, and when it comes to getting busy between the sheets—or whatever your locale of choice—you can be trusted to bring it on, bring it home and just...bring it. You’re the man. The love guru. A sexual rock star. But you know what? You might be mistaken. While you may be certain your performance is hitting all the right notes, in reality, your off-key love song can potentially get you sacked in the sack. (But always remember: all women were not created equal, especially on the playing field of sexual yeas and nays. One girl's thrill is another’s What are you doing? but cut these deal breakers from your curriculum, and you're off to a good start.)

The Pro
Beware being the guy who believes that having an encyclopedic education in Tantra, The Kama Sutra and the collected works of Dr. Ruth Westheimer makes you a proficient lover. A little knowledge may be a dangerous thing, but so is a lot of knowledge in the wrong hands, tongues or other man bits, and as everyone knows, theory and practice are two very different animals. The guy who is certain he can “give” a woman an orgasm operates on the misconception that a woman’s orgasm is his to give. It’s not. Yes, you can and should help her get there, but the long, short, thick, thin and yeah, just right there of it is: a woman’s climax is her own. A man so goal-oriented that he focuses solely on “pleasuring his woman,” can expect to achieve the same result as one who doesn't care whether his partner gets off at all. He’s running through his checklist, and an hour of oohing and ahhing later, she’s thinking, "Are we there yet?"
The One-Noter
Ah, the clitoris: The seat of so much pleasure, and the temple to so many misconceptions. Is clitoral stimulation a good thing? Of course it is. Can there be too much of a good thing? You betcha. While the ruby pearl is a magic button, it’s certainly not the only one. Direct contact or fancy finagling down below are not givens, nor should sex necessarily begin and end “on the dot.” If your idea of foreplay is to shove a hand between her legs and have at it, don’t be surprised if she shuts down rather than lights up. Every woman has her own timing, tempo and preferred sequence of events. Learn to read her music or you may get the hook.
The Rebel
Porn movies are fantasies. Many things you see in them may make for fabulous wank fodder, but when going one-on-one with a real partner of the non-inflatable variety, can be real deal breakers. Spanking. DP. Facials. Girl-on-girl. We’re not saying she won’t be into it, but we are saying you should broach the subject before you invite the cable guy in for a threesome and cue the cheesy soundtrack. Ironically, females are now major consumers of porn. If your amore’s amenable, try watching some together and talking about how far you're both willing to go before you bust out the sex swing.
The Sloppy Eater
Those who treat the vagina like hogs at a trough rarely find themselves asked back for a return engagement. Going down? Good! Enthusiasm? Great! Slobbering, snuffling, snarling, snorting and/or grunting? Yuck.
The Marathon Man
The seven-hour myth of Sting has been debunked. Not every woman is capable of multiple orgasms, nor does she necessarily want it to go on and on and on. Sometimes, it's a far better thing for you to come, than it is to attempt to make her come again—or even at all. Heresy, right? Not really. Intercourse does not have to lead to female orgasm 100 percent of the time. As long as it doesn’t become a recurring theme, it’s not the end of the world. Again, focus on the game, rather than the score and pleasure will be achieved. (She can always get herself off later, and if you’re nice, she may even let you watch.)
Via: Men's Fitness Image via: OnlyMyHealth

Friday, 5 September 2014

7 Things Men Really Really Want In A Relationship

Open any beauty magazine and you'll see article upon article about what women want in relationships and how to get that. But there's rarely a space for men to express their relationship needs. So here are 7 things that men really want in a relationship.

1. To feel like your hero
We don’t want to be your Clark Kent. We want to be your Superman. We want you to see us as leaping tall buildings in a single bound and catching bullets. We want to carry you in our arms and show you the world. Or at least feel that way. And I know it’s our job to get there, but nothing gives us more strength than a woman who creates a space that makes us feel invincible. If you make us feel invincible, we’ll make you feel like you’re the most beautiful creature on this planet.
2. Acceptance
We NEED to feel that when we stack the dishes in the dishwasher like a five year-old, say the wrong thing in front of your friends, leave the toilet seat up, get too logical, forget something you’ve said a thousand times, that you love us anyways. Because inside every man is a boy who forgets he’s a man sometimes. And every boy gets into things, not because he’s bad but because he’s got a curious mind and a short attention span.

Unconditional support from our woman is what will snap us out of our boyish behavior and inject us with a desire to be a stronger man. Only when you accept us as we are, who we are, will we want to become someone better.
3. Not to be left in the dark
So many women don’t tell their men how they feel because they don’t want to rock the boat. Or they’re afraid. The truth is when you don’t express yourself, you leave us in the dark. We don’t really know the truth of you. You are prepackaging and presenting parts of your life instead of doing your whole life with us.

Couples grow and get stronger overcoming adversity, not by doing life separately. Know that every time you hold things in, you are building walls inside the sacred space of the relationship. No, we don’t want you to verbally vomit on us. But believe it or not, we really do want to know who you truly are.
4. Blinders sex
There’s sex. Then there’s blinders sex, the kind of sex that gives you blinders, keeps your eyes forward and intentions straight when you’re out in the world. Let’s face it. Men are going to look. They’re like squirrels. They get distracted by shiny things. But there’s a difference between noticing and wanting. Blinders sex gets men to say, “Yeah, she may be pretty but I would never trade in what I have for anything else.”

Blinders sex isn’t just good sex. It’s a unique connection with someone that makes you fantasize about them in the shower, call in sick so you can lie in bed all day making love and eating Oreos. It produces glue that cannot happen with anyone else.
5. The C-word
Communication. Without it, relationships are built on sand. We want you to communicate directly. We don’t get clues. We need things spelled out. And we understand that if you have to spell it out, it’s not the same. You don’t just want us to do the dishes. You want us to want to do the dishes. We get it. OK, then tell us. Explain. Model how you would like us to communicate back.

For many of us, communication is not our specialty. We need some guidance. Generally speaking, men tend to pull from a logical place. Women pull from an emotional place. If you can meet us at logic, we will will match your emotions. Hopefully. But we need you to tell us.
6. Sweat
There’s nothing sexier than working out with your intimate partner. Watching you sweat and work on your body only encourages us to work on ours as well. We get to see the raw and real you, a different type of naked. Now, if we do this together, we’re in the act of building something, a lifestyle. We’re not just talking. We’re doing. And that’s hot.
7. To have our own lives
We may not say it, because how do you tell the person you love to get a life? But we really want you to have your own life. Really. We want you to have your own set of friends, activities, and passions. Of course we want to be supportive of everything you care about and be a part of anything you would like us to be a part of, but we want you to have your own identity.

Because if you have nothing that is yours, our relationship is standing on one leg. Also, if you have your own life, it forces us to get our own life as well or risk losing you. Forget legs. Let’s put our relationship on wheels. One is yours. One is mine. And together, we’ll ride.
(Via:Mind Body Green    Image via: linkedin)

Saturday, 23 August 2014

How Do You Tell If A Woman Wants To Have Sex With You?

Well, today I unveil the secret every man is always curious to know. This secret has been preserved for long, it's time we brought it out in the open. So, put your phone aside, hold your breath, and read the next lines carefully, no distractions! I am here to help you identify if the beautiful lady you  are with (or are eyeing) is dying to have sex with you.









 I am so sorry. It’s not possible to tell you if she is down to get f**ked for only she knows about it; neither her mannerisms, skimpy black dress nor level of intoxication will help you. Only she will.

Poor guy!!!

Did you actually think that there is some hidden secret to reach out to the goddess of sex? Unfortunately none is available. Till then get the balls to ASK HER and stop assuming. Ask! What's the worst that could go wrong anyway?

Image via: huffingtonpost

Monday, 18 August 2014

Have A Headache? Have Some Sex

Next time you have a headache — or a backache, foot ache, any sort of muscle ache — don’t go straight for the Panadol or Mara Moja. Consider, instead, going straight to the bedroom — with a partner. According to OB-GYN Lauren Streicher, author of “Love Sex Again,” having sex can make basic cramps and aches disappear.
via NHS

Theoretically, [sex] can help with a headache,” Streicher explained in an interview with #OWNSHOW. “But not just a headache — but a muscle ache, a stomach ache, a foot ache, a you-name-it ache. The reason is endorphins. We know that when people have sex, they release endorphins, and endorphins can decrease pain.”

So simple! Sex  can occasionally cause migraines, but that’s rare — plus, Streicher went on to cite a study out of Southern Illinois University, which found that women who suffered migraine headaches and had sex tended to experience a 50 percent decrease in their headaches. That’s partly because of the endorphins released during intercourse, she said, but also because sex makes for a pretty good distraction from pain. It works, in effect, the same way that other painkillers do.

I think we have both things at play here,” Streicher said. “I think the endorphins that are released might decrease the pain, and distraction is always a good thing. … [But] when you have a really bad headache, it’s not necessarily the time when you’re going to feel like having sex.”  Still, though, it’s definitely something to think about before popping pills.

I think It’s time women stopped using ‘headache’ as an excuse not to have it. What do you think?
(Via: Alternet)

Saturday, 16 August 2014

10 Signs You’re Bad In Bed And Don’t Even Know It

Every man worth his salt wants to be a stud in the sack. And if you’re reading this article, you’ve already taken a step in the right direction toward making sure your partner is satisfied. Of course, you probably clicked on this by accident because you’re unbelievable in the bedroom. But just in case you could use a reality check, we sat down with Emily Morse, sexologist, host of the Sex with Emily podcast, and co-founder of Emily & Tony, to find out what is it you’re doing wrong, and how to fix it so you’ll leave her wanting to come back for more.

1. You skip foreplay
The problem: You come home after thinking about sex all day and try to stick your penis in her right away. She, on the other hand, has not been thinking about sex. She’s been thinking about work, that squabble with her best friend, and what she’s making for dinner. She’s not warmed up, therefore she’s not going to enjoy it.

Fix it:Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay—I can’t say it enough!” Morse says. You may be ready to go the second you get home, but you have to remember, sex is mostly mental for women. They have to be warmed up, physically and mentally. “Most women not only enjoy foreplay, but we need it in order to get aroused before actual intercourse,” Morse says. Foreplay can even start hours before you’re through the door. Send her a text about how much you can’t wait to see her or how beautiful she looked this morning. Then when you get home kiss and caress her before you start taking her clothes off. Foreplay isn’t a suggestion; it’s a requirement for most women.
2. You don’t go down on her
The problem: You’re so excited about having sex or you’re not thinking about her needs, so you weakly lick her clitoris a few times or skip over going down on her altogether. You move straight into intercourse and, similarly to skipping foreplay, she’s not warmed up and therefore doesn’t enjoy sex as much as you do.

Fix it:Go down on her like you mean it! I mean, really mean it,” Morse says. “If you really want her to enjoy sex, then you need to enjoy performing oral sex on her. Just like nothing is sexier than a woman who enjoys giving a blow job, nothing is sexier than a man who enjoys giving oral pleasure.” Only about 25 to 30% of women orgasm through intercourse, and most of these women need (and likely want) clitoral stimulation in addition to intercourse.
3. You don’t touch her after sex
The problem: You roll over after sex and tell her, “Sorry, babe, it’s just too hot,” then keep a foot of distance between you and her. Maybe you chat with her for a bit before falling asleep. Either way, you’re not up for cuddling. Or, maybe you are, but you’ve got a 60-second timer counting down in your head and never touch her for longer than that. She’s noticeably annoyed, or at this point you’ve both gotten used to the fact that you just don’t really touch after sex.

Fix it: If you’re not someone who likes to touch after sex, start off small and make some kind of physical contact a normal part of your after-sex routine. Scratch her back for a little while and lay a little closer than normal. Once you’ve scratched her back for a while, move on to a closer touch. Cuddling after sex will bring the two of you closer together. The most successful relationships have ties to after-sex cuddling, according to new research out of the University of Toronto—Mississauga. “The way you approach your partner after sex is really important to how you approach your relationship in general,” Morse says.
4. You’re afraid of doing something wrong, so you don’t try anything new
The problem: You’re stuck in your head during sex. You’ve thought about trying a new position you read or heard about, but you’re afraid you won’t be able to execute the move correctly or you might lose your erection. Missionary and doggy style are tried and true, so you stick with those two, and you have the same sex over and over again.

Fix it: Set aside your fears and replace them with passion. “Sex is awkward, you’re getting naked with another person and putting yourself in the most intimate setting possible,” Morse says. There will be embarrassing moments and there will be things that go wrong, but making mistakes is better than not doing anything at all. “Allow the passion of what you are experiencing to take over the fear of doing something wrong,” she says. “I guarantee your partner will find your passionate mistakes much sexier than your flat routine.”
5. You’re basing her pleasure on your performance
The problem: You want her to orgasm in order to satisfy your own ego—because sex is about you feeling satisfied with your own performance. As a result, she feels pressured to have an orgasm, which could lead her to fake it from time to time. This results in sex that is no longer pleasurable for her, and is detrimental to your partnership in general, Morse says.

Fix it: If you’re too busy thinking about your own performance, you won’t think to ask your partner what she actually wants, and you won’t be able to learn how to actually make her orgasm. “A confident man will ask for direction and will learn what his partner wants,” Morse says.
6. You haven’t asked her what she likes
The problem: You approach every woman as if there is a formula, assuming all woman can orgasm the same way, and there is a simple trick to make that happen. You don’t bother to ask a woman what she likes or how she wants to be touched once the two of you step inside the bedroom.

Fix it: “Every woman is different, so you should approach every woman differently,” Morse says. Once you’re getting to the point of intimacy with a woman, it’s time to ask her what she likes. She may be making noises to let you know she likes something you’re doing, but there could be something she really wants you to do that she would tell you about if you just asked. “A woman is not a secret combination box in which you have to figure out the code, simply ask her and she’ll gladly let you know what she likes,” Morse says.
7. She hasn’t made a peep
The problem: When a woman is into it, she will say something, anything! Yes, there are women who aren’t loud in bed, but consistent silence indicates that she isn’t enjoying herself and possibly doesn’t think it’s worth it to speak up. “Silence after the fact can be another sign that she didn’t enjoy herself,” Morse says. If you’re lying there panting, telling her how incredible that was, and she’s got nothing to say, she wasn’t that into it.

The fix: Before things heat up, let her know that it really turns you on when she tells you what she likes, and what she wants. Afterward, skip the “Was it good for you?” and start the conversation by telling her which parts you really enjoyed. Then ask her if there was anything she especially liked, anything she would want more of or what she would like you to do differently.
8. She’s overacting
The problem: If you’ve barely even touched her and she’s carrying on like a porn star, chances are she’s acting out more pleasure than she’s actually feeling,” Morse says. Reports show that roughly 80% of women admit to making sex sounds and moans, whether they are actually going to climax or not. They’re doing this partially to enhance their partner’s experience, but also because they’re insecure about not being able to orgasm. “Either way, you should be the reason she is making sounds—and when the sounds and the movements don’t match up, something is off,” Morse says.

The fix: Let her know that it really makes you hot hearing that she is enjoying herself, but that you would like to know what specific things feel best for her.
9. You’re not addressing the obvious
The problem: You have some penis problems in the bedroom, but you never address them.

The fix: Talk to her about it. It’s already the elephant in the room and she notices that you’re not staying hard for long, experiencing premature ejaculation, or you just can’t ejaculate at all (delayed ejaculation). “Women are not as worried about this issue as you are, that is, until you completely ignore it, or worse, just let it happen and then roll over and fall asleep without giving a second thought to pleasing her,” Morse says. Let her know that this happens to you sometimes, and it doesn’t mean you’re not attracted to her or you’re unaware there is an issue. Tell her you’re working on it. You can even bring her into the solution: You need to slow down sometimes in the middle of intercourse, you’re working on strengthening your stamina, and you’d love her to be patient with you while you still do everything in your power to please her.
10. She told you she doesn’t orgasm EVERY time, so you don’t pleasure her once you’ve climaxed
The problem: You make the assumption that because you came, she came, too. Or you really don’t give much thought to it at all.

The fix: Rule of thumb: she comes first. Make sure that she is always pleased before you are. That way you can still have your happy ending knowing that she had her needs met as well. “Many men assume that just because they were satisfied, and she didn’t say anything afterwards, you had the green light to roll over and go to sleep,” Morse says. “If you’re not sure if she had an orgasm, she probably didn’t. And if you’ve never given any thought to her orgasm at all, you’ve got bigger problems.” Just because you asked her once or twice if she was satisfied and she says something like, “No worries, I’m fine,” or she mentioned she doesn’t orgasm every time, that doesn’t mean she wasn’t incredibly turned on by you and still wants an orgasm, even if she didn’t experience it through intercourse.

Make sure that even if you’ve already released, you muster up the strength to please her whether it’s with your fingers, mouth, or a sex toy. She’ll know that her satisfaction is important to you, and will feel more relaxed during intercourse knowing that if she doesn’t climax before you do, she’ll still have fun with you afterwards.
(Via Mensfitness Image via popsugar)

Thursday, 14 August 2014

10 Things Women Wish Men Knew About Sex

Sex isn't all that complicated. It's a biological urge, something we should all know how to do just by instinct, but any woman who has been with a man fumbling around to unhook her bra and appear so suave at the same time also knows perfectly well that it isn't.
It seems a lifetime of porn and bad advice from older brothers has rendered men incapable of knowing what we like sexually. We ladies aren't doing ourselves any favors by being afraid to speak up. Endurance is overrated (Yes! Yes! Yes!) and "we actually know what will get us to orgasm." Indeed.
So, for you poor guys who are still in the dark, I have asked around and compiled a list of the10 things we wish you guys knew about sex (and about us). Here they are:
1. Boobs = attached: Yes, they're pretty and cool, but much like your testicles, they ARE attached. There is no reason to push and pull and twist to prove anything.
2. Use your tongue: When you have your head in our nether regions, forget everything you learned in porn. Sticking your face in and shaking like a wet dog is not hot. Repeat: NOT HOT.
3. Foreplay: Everything you have heard about women needing more than five seconds before you take the plunge? Is TRUE. Dude, our engines need revving. We don't enjoy the gas being hit too quickly. Remember this, please, for the love of god.
4. Stop asking us: There are few things more annoying than being in the throes of passion and having some overeager partner who keeps asking, "Are you gonna come?" Dude, it's great that you care about our pleasure, but we'll let you know. But you just lost a minute to your overeager questioning. Any more and we will have to cancel it altogether.

5. Lube it, love it: It doesn't mean you failed, but if you want to play around, use some lube to get things started. No, many women don't appreciate fingers being pushed into them at a rapid pace (aka "finger banging"), but they may try it with some lube. Without it? Ouch!
6. You aren't 15: Honking, motor-boating, and other adolescent boy behavior is simply not hot. Yes, it's fun to laugh during sex, but we don't need to be exposed to you acting a fool. We graduated from high school for a reason.
7. Cold hands = bad: There is nothing worse than getting all hot and heavy and having your hands be freezing on our skin. Get some blood flowing! Put on circulation gloves! You'll be rewarded.
8. Don't try to impress us: We can tell when you're trying to be "smooth." The one-handed bra trick? Doesn't do it for us. Focus that energy on doing what comes naturally.
9. All women are different: Casual sex is casual for a reason. You don't really have mind-blowing sex with a guy who is fumbling about for the right way to touch you. For that, you need someone who knows (and cares) what you like. So take the time to learn us. We promise you'll be glad you did.
10. Don't be afraid of sex toys: We may not bring it up, but if you bring a vibrator to bed, we WILL thank you. Promise.
It may seem like women need to speak up and you know what? You're right! We do. If we want better sex, we need to be comfortable saying these things. Communication is the key to better sex. So remember to open your mouth and talk, too.
What do you wish men knew?

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Monday, 11 August 2014

Best Positions For Men Who Are Well Endowed

A well endowed penis can afford tight squeezing and plenty of deep penetration, but just because your manhood is super-sized doesn't mean you can have it every which way in the bedroom. For some women, there are certain sexual positions that are just too intense when they're done with an overly endowed partner.
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1. Use lots of lube
Even if the woman in question is normally pretty moist, lubricants will be her best friend in this situation, since lube will lessen the friction. You can use lube in foreplay, having her rub your member with the slippery stuff. Avoid oil-based lubricants because they cause yeast infections. Instead, stick to water- or silicone-based lubes, which can also be used with condoms. 
2. Avoid anal and doggy style
The anal canal is not as elastic as the vagina. A vagina is meant to have objects go in (penises) and out (babies), so it’s more prepared to expand. The anal canal, however, is designed for no such activity. It’s not impossible, but anal sex with a larger-than-average penis is going to cause most women outright pain if not extreme discomfort. The doggy-style position allows for extra-deep penetration, so it's a better bet for men on the smaller side. A guy with a big penis may very well injure a woman in this position. 
3. Stick to missionary, woman on top or sideways
The classic missionary keeps you from thrusting too deep into your lady. Even though it’s knocked for being boring, it’s a win-win proposition for both parties in this circumstance. With the woman on top position, she can control how far she allows you inside her and you’ll get a full view of her hot body. Having sex sideways is perfect for bigger penises since neither one of you will be able to fully thrust. The limited range of motion is still pretty sexy, as you’ll be able to make out at the same time. 
4. Take it slow
 It goes without saying that when you have a big penis, you shouldn't throw it around like a bull in a china shop. Slow and steady wins the race. Enter her carefully and slowly and build up to a more intense thrusting so she’s not caught off guard by your gigantic member.
Via: askmen
For those not well endowed, you can check out our previous post on best positions for men with a small penis.

Saturday, 9 August 2014

Men: You Are Doing It Wrong!

It's time to watch all of your misconceptions about sex come crashing down. Do you know everything there is to know about the female orgasm? Of course you don't! It's one of the most elusive physical sensations in the world. Some women claim they have never experienced an orgasm. Others apparently can't stop having them if they tried. There is a happy medium—there is a way to reach the falsetto without penis enlargement surgery or turning yourself into a human vibrator. Here are a few things men do wrong when it comes to giving women orgasms. Take notes, gentlemen.
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1. You think hers is optional.
Men have it easy. They spend years masturbating in their parents' basement and then they masturbate into their girlfriend's vagina. It's like magic. It's rather remarkable how simple it is for most men to blow a load. It's so simple, in fact, that when men have sex they think their orgasm is a given. If a man doesn't come during sex, all hell breaks loose. If a woman doesn't come, it's normal—better luck next time, honey. This is incorrect, and it's the worst kind of attitude to have. Your orgasm isn't a given, and hers isn't optional.
2. You fall asleep.
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You've been out all night partying with your girl. She looks great, you feel great, and you both want to go home and bump nasties until dawn. The only problem is, you're drunk. There's nothing wrong with sloppy, drunk sex unless you fall asleep before you're able to deliver the goods. Either wait until the morning, or have a strategy that accounts for the fact that you will be lights out as soon as you get it in.
3. You only see vagina.
Let's pour some out for the women who have never had an orgasm. One explanation for this tragic circumstance is that some men think the only way to get a girl off is through penetration. This is a myth. Many women prefer external stimulation to vaginal penetration. (There are other orifices worth exploring as well.) Don't act like all women are the same and therefore all you have to do is shove it in and call it a day. Don't be a one-trick pony.
4. You have to ask.
Sorry to break it to you, but if you have to ask a woman if she's had an orgasm, the answer is always "no." Most men don't realize that they're witnessing a performance piece when having sex. Many women love to fake it—some women are so good at faking it that they've even convinced themselves. (This is a real shame and only makes matters worse for everyone.) Don't let the theatrics fool you. The female orgasm is the ultimate high. You'll know it when you see it.
5. You can't slow down.
Oh I'm sorry, do you have somewhere to be? Are you giving a speech somewhere? Is there a fire? Is this the Indy 500? Great. So slow the fuck down. It is crucial that you take your time when trying to give a woman an orgasm. Think of it as a moving target. If you want to hit the bulls-eye, you have to focus, take a few breaths, and then pull the trigger. Slow your roll. When you move too fast, it's a sign that you're not paying attention.
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6. You're that guy.
Show me the man who thinks he's the Lord's gift to women, the man who thinks he makes women wet just by looking at them, and I'll show you a man who is perpetually disappointing in bed. Don't be that guy. He makes promises he can't keep and pats himself on the back even though he consistently and incorrectly assumes he is giving women orgasms.
7. You can't read cues.
Studies have claimed that the reason women seek affection after sex is because it makes the experience more meaningful. You should not believe these studies. Cuddling after sex could also be a way for her to drop you a subtle hint that she still wants to play. When a woman has peaked, she'll often just pass out, not cuddle. Don't mistake affection for satisfaction.
8. You're intimidated by toys.
Even if you're a pro, variety is still the spice of life. Show her what you're working with, but don't be afraid to use some accessories every now and again. Not only do sex toys add an element of playfulness and risk, they're perfect for helping you explore new ways to get her off. Don't be afraid to switch things up.
9. You've given up hope.
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It's true that most female orgasms are difficult, but surrender is not an option. It's not OK to pretend you've exhausted every option there is and that it's just not worth the effort. If you want to get laid, you need to come with your A-game and plan to do everything in your power to make sure she comes, every time. Period. Don't be a quitter.
10. You think one is enough.
Congratulations! You've found the white whale. Now do that all the time. Keep going until she begs you to stop. Once is not enough. Once is only the beginning. Now go forth and use this knowledge to make the world a better place.
Via: Complex

Friday, 8 August 2014

Kissing 101: How To Kiss As Demonstrated by Spider-Man and Emma Stone

Ooh! the excitement when you find someone you like or love and they like or love you back. This is huge, your crush finally noticed you and you are finally out of the friendzone. You are like ‘I cant believe this is happening to me’ and at that time you believe you can fly. The dates start, you hang out more and then you decide you want to kiss them. And you are all country mode like: 'Are you gonna kiss me or not?'

You kiss them and its ooooohhhh so glorious! You've never felt anything like that before. They tell you see you tomorrow, but tomorrow never comes. You text her, but she doesn't reply. And you there thinking, maybe the text was so shocking that he fainted and that’s why he can’t come to the phone. You are excited to see them the next day, but they just wave from afar and hit the next lane. Then realization hits you! You are a poor kisser! You try and remember how it went, but damn, it was your first kiss and all you remember is how you traveled to heaven and back in those 2 minutes. And that's when you call yourself a ka-meeting and try and understand what went wrong.  But before you decide to never to kiss anyone ever again, know that this things happen; even to celebrities too he hehe...
 When the first kiss does happen for you, sometimes it goes really well, or really bad, boring or kinda weird. Like this one. It's a must watch.  Emma Stone & Andrew Garfield Spider-Man demonstrated on SNL how real kissing is done and it was a total FAIL. Well, until Chris Martin came to the rescue.

 Feel better now? Hope so because it’s your first kiss and there are plenty of opportunities to kiss in the future. You will forever remember the first one but it’s not the last. 
The hardest part about kissing is knowing when the right time is to initiate it. Sometimes it’s obvious and predictable but sometimes, not so much and you have to struggle with 1001 feelings before it happens. When both of you are into each other, then it’s easy but if you have no idea what the other one feels, then it might be awkward (you just may get yourself slapped, without a tooth or both. Am just saying, you gotta know before you do it.)

So here’s how you do it:
1. Lean in, make sure your partner is also leaning in (it would be embarrassing if you've closed your eyes, with lips puckered and are leaning towards someone playing solitaire on their phone with no idea you are about to land on their face! Hehehe)
2. Close your eyes (It’s a bit weird to kiss someone eyes open) and tilt your head either to the right or left. You don’t want your noses to collide instead of your lips.
3. Touch your lips gently onto your partner’s lips. No wide open mouth and no smacking. You are not kissing your dog nor trying to eat your partner alive. Your lips should be slightly open just like when you are breathing with your mouth.
4. Apply a little pressure, make the kiss softer and hopefully by this time, you do not have a slap across your face but your partner is also kissing you back and hooooray, you are kissing!
This video will show you the best way to kiss, when to know the right time and what place to do it.

  (Image via: The Mary Sue , Kotaku)

Monday, 4 August 2014

6 Best Positions For Men With A Small Penis

The size of a man's penis need not affect the pleasure of intercourse for either the man or the woman. If not well endowed, you need not be ashamed or afraid. You too can make any woman orgasm. Before you make your entrance, however, you should know the benefits of foreplay. Prolong it until the lady is fully satisfied; the closer she gets at orgasm before penetration, the easier it will be for her to climax.

During foreplay, include everything your woman loves; caressing, kissing, pillow talk, spanking, sensual biting or some sex toys. (Make sure she is okay with some of these activities; you don’t want it to get awkward.) Make her so hot that she is begging you for sex; that’s the idea. Make sure you have spent time with her clitoris before penetration. Whatever method you choose (manual or oral), make sure she climaxes at least once before you penetrate her. This will alleviate any anxiety you may have and make sure it’s easier for her to climax again and again when you start penetration.

The six sexual positions below will allow men not well endowed to get the feeling of the tightness he craves, and the woman the feeling of fullness she enjoys; hopefully leaving both happy and satisfied.
1) Man-on-top: 
The woman tilts her pelvis down, aiming her vaginal opening toward the mattress, and holds her bent knees up toward her chest while keeping her head elevated on pillows. This will increase pressure against her vaginal walls and shorten her vaginal canal.
2) V-formation: 
As the woman lies on her back, the man should lift her legs in the air, hold her ankles, and spread her legs apart, forming a V, and then make his way inside her.

3) Doggy style or Rear Entry: 
The woman should be on all fours. The man should enter the woman from behind, but he should open his legs, and she should mostly close hers. The woman should her angle her body down by resting her head and shoulders flat on the bed. This will help her feel tighter, or the man feel bigger, however you prefer to look at it.
Doggy style that gives better penetration for the smaller penis man.

4) Woman Sitting
The man stands or kneels while the woman sits on the edge of the bed, sofa, or counter top. When the man enters her, it will be at a slight upward angle, so his penis should hit the top wall of her vagina. He’ll feel pressure and tightness as he hits that wall.
5) Cowboy: 
She lies on her back while he straddles her. He then gently inserts his penis through the tight opening created by her semi-closed legs. Tightness increases the intensity of the penetration.

6) Woman Face Down: 
The woman should lie face down on her stomach, legs straight out and closed. A pillow may be placed under the woman’s hips. With his knees bent, but keeping his torso upright, the man should place his genitals just under the woman’s buttocks and spread her legs on either side of her body, Being careful not to let his weight drop on her, he then makes his way inside. The woman may initially have to open her legs in order for the man to get his penis inside.

             (Source: small dick facts)