Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relationships. Show all posts

Friday, 26 September 2014

21 reasons why you should have sex.. tonight!

Partner “not in the mood” again? Then it might be worth sharing the following to change their mind! According to the latest studies, regular sex – that’s one to two lovemaking sessions per week – can provide some incredible boosts to your health and wellbeing.

1. Look younger
Last week, Dr David Weeks, clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, revealed to a psychology ­conference that his extensive research had found older men and women with an active love life looked five to seven years younger than their actual age.

But you don’t have to be at it every night to enjoy youth-enhancing effects! In fact, during his 10-year study, ­Weeks found quality was as important as quantity, with the anti-ageing benefits stronger if the sex was classed as “loving”.
2. Boost your fertility
This will sound like ­music to most men’s ears – studies have found that the more often you make love, the better quality your sperm will be.

Semen health was found to be best when sex had last occurred less than two days before the sperm was tested and was greatly decreased after 10 days of abstinence.

If you’re trying for a baby, keep sperm fresh and in tip-top shape by having sex at least twice a week, and not only around the time of the woman’s ovulation.

Frequent sex has also been found to help balance a woman’s hormones and regulate her periods, which can further boost chances of conceiving.
3. Fight colds and flu
Having sex once or twice a week has been found to raise your body’s levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, or IgA, which can protect you from colds and flu. One study found people who have sex more than once a week have 30% higher levels of IgA than those who abstain.
4. Disease-proof your body
Having high levels of the natural steroid DHEA, known as “the anti-ageing hormone”, is believed to be key to keeping your body fitter for longer. During sex, DHEA is ­secreted throughout the body, and after an orgasm, the level in the bloodstream soars to five times its normal amount.
5. Lengthen your life
A study carried out in Australia found people who climaxed at least three times a week had a 50% lower chance of dying for any medical reason than those who only climaxed once a month.
6. Shift your middle-age spread and keep fit
Thirty minutes of vigorous sex burns up to 100 calories, which is the same as a small glass of wine.

And if you have moderately active sex twice a week, you’ll burn an extra 5,000 calories a year! ­

Varying your positions is also a great, fun way to tone different muscle groups and keep limbs lean and flexible.
7. Ease those nasty period cramps
Many women say period pain diminishes if they do the deed during a cramp attack.

One theory why is that muscle contractions that occur when you reach peak levels of excitement relieve tension in the muscles of your uterus – the ones that cause menstrual cramps – therefore easing the pain.
8. Helps lower your risk of incontinence
Good sex is a great workout for a woman’s pelvic floor muscles – the muscles that control ­orgasms and also stem the flow of urine, reducing leakage and incontinence.

Pregnancy and the menopause can weaken these muscles significantly, but the stronger they are, the lower your risk of developing stress incontinence and prolapse later.

And let’s face it, sex is far more ­enjoyable than the chore of doing pelvic floor exercises on your own!
9. Prevent a heart attack
Lots of studies have found that regular sex can ward off heart attacks, not bring them on as it was once feared.

One study at Queen’s University Belfast found that having sex three times a week could halve your risk of having a heart attack or stroke.

Another study in Israel found that women who had two orgasms a week were up to 30% less likely to have heart disease than those who did not enjoy sex or didn’t have an orgasm.
10. Increase your attractiveness to others
High sexual activity makes the body release more pheromones, chemicals that enhance your appeal to the opposite sex.

This is why the more sex you have with your partner, the stronger your desire will be to have sex with them again.
11. Smooth out your wrinkles
The hormone oestrogen is pumped out during sex, which can in turn have a plumping effect on the skin, helping to smooth out those fine lines.

This is especially useful following the menopause, when a woman’s skin can ­become drier and more wrinkled, as ­oestrogen levels naturally drop.

One American study found that menopausal women who had sex every week had ­oestrogen levels that were twice as high as their counterparts who abstained.
12 Give yourself an all-over healthy glow
According to ­research carried out at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, sex promotes skin renewal because it is an aerobic form of exercise.

The scientist behind this study found that vigorous sex pumps higher levels of oxygen around the body, increasing the flow of blood and nutrients to the skin, and pushes newer, fresher skin cells to the surface, making skin look healthier.
13. Improve your self-esteem
One of the most important benefits, noted in a recent survey undertaken by the University of Texas, US, was that participants who had sex regularly felt more confident about their bodies.
14. Lower your blood pressure
A Scottish study found men and women who had plenty of sex coped well with stress and had lower blood ­pressure than those who abstained. Researchers at Brigham Young ­University in the US also linked frequent intercourse to lower blood pressure.
15. Banish depression
Like any exercise that raises your heart rate, sex causes your brain to release feel-good chemicals that boost your levels of serotonin – the happy hormone – to lift your mood.

Serotonin is the body’s key antidepressant chemical and one of the major reasons people smile and feel happy and relaxed after sex.

Sexually active women in long-term ­relationships are also less likely to feel depressed than women who go without sex, according to a study of nearly 300 women by psychologist Gordon Gallup in the American Archives Of Sexual ­Behavior.
16. Cure that headache (yes, really!)
“Having a headache” might be an age-old excuse not to have sex, but the scientific evidence says that, to the contrary, sex can help shift pain!

This is because making love causes a surge in the “love” hormone ­oxytocin, plus other feel-good ­endorphins, which can ease pain.

Women have reported that their ­pain from both headaches and ­arthritis improved post-coitus.
17. Slash stress
In a study in the Psychology journal, ­researchers found that people who’d had sex in the last 24 hours coped better with stressful ­scenarios – such as public speaking – than those who had not.

Research has also shown that touching and cuddling during and after sex reduces the body’s levels of cortisol – the hormone that is secreted when you’re stressed.
18. Kick your insomnia into touch
The oxytocin released when you orgasm has another benefit – it can help you drop off, research claims.

Both men and women release this feel-good ­hormone just before ­orgasm, and as it courses through your system, it promotes relaxation and sleepiness.

So there is actually a genuine excuse for him to fall asleep so quickly after sex...
19. Strengthen your bones
As regular sex can boost oestrogen levels in post-menopausal women, it can offer some protection against the ­bone-thinning condition osteoporosis that is triggered by a lack of oestrogen.

And men can benefit too, as testosterone levels have been found to increase during and after sex, which can provide some protection against male osteoporosis.
20. Cut your risk of prostate cancer
Researchers at Nottingham University have found that men who enjoy a regular sex life in their 50s are at lower risk of developing prostate cancer.

This is because sex clears the prostate of toxins that could ­otherwise linger and trigger ­cancerous changes.

The link was first suggested after several studies showed that monks appeared to have a higher chance of developing prostate cancer.
21. Feel better all day
If you decide to go for a spot of morning passion to start your day, the boost to your mood it provides can continue right through until night-time, ­according to research.

The American scientist Dr Debby Herbenick found that adults who made love first thing in the morning were not only more upbeat for the rest of the day, but they also benefited from a stronger ­immune system than those people who simply opted for a cup of tea and some toast before ­heading out of the door.

In other words – why wait until tonight?
(Via: Mirror)

Tuesday, 16 September 2014

Murphy's Law on Sex

1. The more beautiful the woman is who loves you, the easier it is 

   to leave her with no hard feelings.

2. Nothing improves with age.

3. No matter how many times you've had it, if it's offered take it, because it'll never be quite the same again.

4. Sex has no calories.

5. Sex takes up the least amount of time and causes the most
   amount of trouble.

6. There is no remedy for sex but more sex.

7. Sex appeal is 50% what you've got and 50% what people think
   you've got.

8. No sex with anyone in the same office.

9. Sex is like snow; you never know how many inches you are going
   to get or how long it is going to last.

10. A man in the house is worth two in the street.

11. If you get them by the balls, their hearts and minds will

12. Virginity can be cured.

13. When a man's wife learns to understand him, she usually stops
    listening to him.

14. Never sleep with anyone crazier than yourself.

15. The qualities that most attract a woman to a man are usually
    the same ones she can't stand years later.

16. Sex is dirty only if it's done right.

17. It is always the wrong time of month.

18. The best way to hold a man is in your arms.

19. When the lights are out, all women are beautiful.

20. Sex is hereditary. If your parents never had it, chances are you won't either.

21. Sow your wild oats on Saturday night -- Then on Sunday pray for crop failure.

22. The younger the better.

23. The game of love is never called off on account of darkness.

24. It was not the apple on the tree but the pair on the ground
    that caused the trouble in the garden.

25. Sex discriminates against the shy and the ugly.

27. Before you find your handsome prince, you've got to kiss a lot
    of frogs.

28. There may be some things better than sex, and some things
    worse than sex. But there is nothing exactly like it.

29. Love your neighbor, but don't get caught.

30. Love is a hole in the heart.

31. If the effort that went in research on the female bosom had gone into our space program, we would now be running hot-dog stands on the moon.

32. Love is a matter of chemistry, sex is a matter of physics.

33. Do it only with the best.

34. Sex is a three-letter word which needs some old-fashioned
    four-letter words to convey its full meaning.

35. One good turn gets most of the blankets.

36. You cannot produce a baby in one month by impregnating nine

37. Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.

38. It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

39. Thou shalt not commit adultery.....unless in the mood.

40. Never lie down with a woman who's got more troubles than you.

41. Abstain from wine, women, and song; mostly song.

42. Never argue with a women when she's tired -- or rested.

43. A woman never forgets the men she could have had; a man, the
    women he couldn't.

44. What matters is not the length of the wand, but the magic in 
    the stick.

45. It is better to be looked over than overlooked.
46. Never say no.

47. A man can be happy with any woman as long as he doesn't love her.

48. Folks playing leapfrog must complete all jumps.

49. Beauty is skin deep; ugly goes right to the bone.

50. Never stand between a fire hydrant and a dog.

51. A man is only a man, but a good bicycle is a ride.

52. Love comes in spurts.

53. The world does not revolve on an axis.

54. Sex is one of the nine reasons for reincarnation; the other eight are unimportant.

55. Smile, it makes people wonder what you are thinking.

56. Don't do it if you can't keep it up.

57. There is no difference between a wise man and a fool when they
    fall in love.
58. Never go to bed mad, stay up and fight.
59. Love is the delusion that one woman differs from another.

60. "This won't hurt, I promise."

(Via: Columbia)

Thursday, 11 September 2014

Mind Games Men Play in Relationships And How To Deal With Them

Is your boyfriend acting weird lately? Is he constantly finding faults with your dressing, behavior, Facebook posts, etc? Then this may be a sign that he is playing the 'finding fault' mind game with you. This will only make you feel self-conscious and insecure. You will start believing that you do not deserve such a 'nice' guy, and wouldn't want to lose him at any cost. This will make you cling on to him even more.
If you thought that only women were good at playing mind games, you are completely mistaken. Men play on the insecurities and emotional involvement of women, and manipulate them to have their way. Some love to play mind games on women to test their patience, intelligence, compatibility, loyalty, etc. They tend to exploit the emotional nature of women and use it for their own advantage.

How you react to your partner's mind games helps him decide the future of your relationship. You must know when he is playing a mind game with you, so that you can act wisely and refrain from taking any drastic step which will ruin your relationship.

Types of Mind Games Played By Men
The 'You Are the Love of My Life' Game
This is exactly what whirlwind romances are made of-emotional manipulation. The man you have just met will shower you with lots of attention, compliments, gifts, etc. He will say that you mean the world to him, and will wonder why you hadn't met him earlier. There will be butterflies in your stomach, stolen kisses, late-night texts and talks. You may even find surprise flowers and chocolates delivered at your doorstep. Like always, you will think that he is your 'Mr. Right'. Then you will take the relationship to the next level. This excitement will continue for a month, and after reaching the 'break-even point', he will say that he wants to take things slow. The contact may become lesser and lesser, until one day, when there will be nothing left with you but memories.

He will try to portray that everything is perfect, and you mean a lot to him, only to leave you for someone else. And you will keep wondering what exactly went wrong.

Surviving the Game
The Mills and Boon kind of romance only happens in Mills and Boon. Getting attached too soon will not be good for you at all. So, take some time to think if this relationship is merely an attraction or true love, before you’re heartbroken.

The 'Convenience' Game
So, you and your boyfriend have a strange relationship. He breaks your heart and walks away, only to appear after a few days and apologize for his behavior. Guess what, history repeats itself, and he leaves once again. Every time he comes back into your life, he has his own reasons. Sometimes, its work, sometimes, his friends keep him busy, and then there are always some duties that he is expected to do at home. He may even give you lame reasons that his great-great-grandmother expired, and he needed to be by his great-great-grandpa's side. That is why he didn't show up for six months. The reasons keep on getting bizarre, so much so, that you wonder if he owns an encyclopedia on excuses. This continues for some time, before you realize that you are being taken for a ride.

He treats you as a matter of convenience. Whenever he wants, he comes into your life, and leaves you as he pleases.

Surviving the Game
Are you really that naive? He is giving you all kinds of lame reasons, and you are buying them! Understand that you have to leave him, just as he left you twice. Simply find someone else; there are plenty of fish in the ocean.
The 'No Sex' Game
So, the guy who could not keep his hands off you is showing no interest in getting intimate lately. Strange, isn't it? I know how worried you must be because of this. You must be killing yourself with thoughts like, 'has he found someone else?', 'is something wrong with me?', or 'has something gone wrong with our relationship?'. However, you need to understand that he does this, so that you will start doubting your capacity in the art of lovemaking. You will be forced to confront him, and this is all that he wants you to do.

He does this so that he can 'tell' you what he expects from you during physical intimacy, without sounding too demanding.

Surviving the Game
There is no problem in asking him what he expects from you. However, don't get into a physical act which you may not be comfortable with, just because it pleases him.

The 'Comparison' Game
This is perhaps the worst game ever, because it will hurt your self-esteem. If your boyfriend is comparing you with any other girl, it will affect you terribly. It will only add insult to injury, if that girl is someone close to you, like your best friend or sister. He will tell you to go to the gym just like her, become smart like she is, how attractive she is, etc. He is probably well aware that this will cause feelings of jealousy and anger in you. Even then, he will continue to compare your looks, figure, fitness, style, etc., with that other woman.

By making you question everything about your appearance and existence, he tries to bring your self-esteem down.

Surviving the Game
First of all, don't see his criticism in negative light. Maybe he really does want you to improve. However, tell him that you will accept constructive criticism, but you cannot stand comparison, as you take immense pride in your individuality. However, if he is being unreasonable, tell him that you cannot change any further. Try not to say anything negative to him in a fit of anger, as he may use it against you in a future argument.

The 'No Compliment' Game
You went to a salon and got all decked up specially for him, since you wanted to look beautiful for him. The whole evening passed by, and he didn't even pay you a single compliment. You are waiting to hear simple words of praise from him. He talks about everything else under the sun, but fails to notice your stunning looks. Your anger is reaching its boiling point, as you wait for him to give you a small compliment. You even indulge in some compliment-fishing by stroking your hair or batting your eyelashes, but to no avail. He drops you back at your place, and leaves without saying a single word about how stunning you looked that evening.

He is purposely not paying a compliment, even though he knows that it is all that you want to hear from him.

Surviving the Game
Try not to overreact, because he may have done this to test your patience. If you throw a tantrum, it will convince him that you are a difficult person to get along with. Play along. The next time you meet him, ask him if he noticed you the other day. However, don't say it angrily, rather, put it across subtly.

The 'Ignorance' Game
You wait for his call or message, but it is as if he has vanished into thin air. You see that he is active on Facebook, but still not replying to your messages. You try to call him, but he doesn't answer your calls. You keep on wondering if you did something wrong to hurt him on the last date. These thoughts start disturbing you, and you desperately look for answers. You imagine that he has found someone else, or he does not think you are attractive enough. You are deeply hurt by his behavior, and so you send him one last nasty text, telling him why he doesn't deserve you anyway. This seals the deal of your breakup.

He knows very well that you will get a panic attack when something like this happens. Still, he wants to wait and watch the fun.
Surviving the Game
While he may be genuinely busy, overreacting to this situation can seriously backfire on your relationship. Patience is the key to surviving this mind game. Do not be in a haste to jump to conclusions or accuse him of anything. Get all the facts right before taking any decision.

The 'I Need Space' Game
'I need space', is perhaps words that are dreaded by all girlfriends, because they are well aware what it leads to. Boyfriends use this phrase when they feel claustrophobic in their relationship, or need a change. However, women become restless and anxious, as they know that it would, in most cases, lead to a breakup. So, they start wondering what went wrong, or what was it that would have changed the scenario.

Guys know very well that when they use this phrase, you will feel the need to be with them even more.

Surviving the Game
Try to give him the space he needs. This will also tell him that you can survive easily without this relationship. Even after giving him space for a considerable number of days, if he doesn't turn up, confront him about your relationship status. This conversation can be a maker or breaker, so watch your words carefully.

The 'My Friends Don't Like You' Game
I guess most girls must have had such boyfriends at some point in time, who claimed that their friends didn't approve of their relationship. Many guys try to create a rift between their friends and girlfriends, by telling both the parties stories about possessiveness of the other person. This creates resentment and anger between both, their girlfriends and friends. They start hating each other, and the boyfriend only keeps adding fuel to the fire.

He will love to sit back and watch the fun of the tug-of-war over him, between his girlfriend and friends.

Surviving the Game
Don't give him a chance to manipulate you in this fashion. Right from the beginning, have cordial relations with his friends. Make them your friends. In fact, you should be so friendly, that if a dispute occurs between your beau and yourself, they will take your side. Even if there are misunderstandings between you and his friends, you can take the initiative to bury the hatchet.

The 'Lying' Game
So, you meet this wonderful person on Facebook, and you chatted with him day and night. Both of you start feeling that you have met your soul mates. He tells you that he is into finance. You decide to meet up, and the date goes very well. You both get involved in a strong relationship. Only a few days later, you find out from a third person that he has lied to you about his career, and actually owns a store. While his career choice would have hardly mattered to you, his lying will make you wonder if he is a genuine person. As trust is often compared with paper, which once crumpled cannot be straightened; you will not be able to get along with this person.

He is lying about being someone else or having some qualities, only to impress you.

Surviving the Game
If you are dating a person who is making tall claims about his career and lifestyle, it is advisable that you investigate what he says holds true. This will only help you avoid a terrible heartache in future.

A point to note is that, not all men are like this. Nevertheless, apart from the ones mentioned above, there are also the 'getting secretive' game, 'getting aggressive' game, 'making feel guilty game', 'commitment phobia' game, 'cheating because I love you' game, 'silent treatment' game, etc. Men play mind games with women even in the simplest of ways. But, now that you understand the mind games men play in relationships, you will be able to recognize them instantly, and cope with them in a better manner. Not only that, you will be able to 'checkmate' them even before they start playing complicated mind games with you. Take care!

Friday, 5 September 2014

7 Things Men Really Really Want In A Relationship

Open any beauty magazine and you'll see article upon article about what women want in relationships and how to get that. But there's rarely a space for men to express their relationship needs. So here are 7 things that men really want in a relationship.

1. To feel like your hero
We don’t want to be your Clark Kent. We want to be your Superman. We want you to see us as leaping tall buildings in a single bound and catching bullets. We want to carry you in our arms and show you the world. Or at least feel that way. And I know it’s our job to get there, but nothing gives us more strength than a woman who creates a space that makes us feel invincible. If you make us feel invincible, we’ll make you feel like you’re the most beautiful creature on this planet.
2. Acceptance
We NEED to feel that when we stack the dishes in the dishwasher like a five year-old, say the wrong thing in front of your friends, leave the toilet seat up, get too logical, forget something you’ve said a thousand times, that you love us anyways. Because inside every man is a boy who forgets he’s a man sometimes. And every boy gets into things, not because he’s bad but because he’s got a curious mind and a short attention span.

Unconditional support from our woman is what will snap us out of our boyish behavior and inject us with a desire to be a stronger man. Only when you accept us as we are, who we are, will we want to become someone better.
3. Not to be left in the dark
So many women don’t tell their men how they feel because they don’t want to rock the boat. Or they’re afraid. The truth is when you don’t express yourself, you leave us in the dark. We don’t really know the truth of you. You are prepackaging and presenting parts of your life instead of doing your whole life with us.

Couples grow and get stronger overcoming adversity, not by doing life separately. Know that every time you hold things in, you are building walls inside the sacred space of the relationship. No, we don’t want you to verbally vomit on us. But believe it or not, we really do want to know who you truly are.
4. Blinders sex
There’s sex. Then there’s blinders sex, the kind of sex that gives you blinders, keeps your eyes forward and intentions straight when you’re out in the world. Let’s face it. Men are going to look. They’re like squirrels. They get distracted by shiny things. But there’s a difference between noticing and wanting. Blinders sex gets men to say, “Yeah, she may be pretty but I would never trade in what I have for anything else.”

Blinders sex isn’t just good sex. It’s a unique connection with someone that makes you fantasize about them in the shower, call in sick so you can lie in bed all day making love and eating Oreos. It produces glue that cannot happen with anyone else.
5. The C-word
Communication. Without it, relationships are built on sand. We want you to communicate directly. We don’t get clues. We need things spelled out. And we understand that if you have to spell it out, it’s not the same. You don’t just want us to do the dishes. You want us to want to do the dishes. We get it. OK, then tell us. Explain. Model how you would like us to communicate back.

For many of us, communication is not our specialty. We need some guidance. Generally speaking, men tend to pull from a logical place. Women pull from an emotional place. If you can meet us at logic, we will will match your emotions. Hopefully. But we need you to tell us.
6. Sweat
There’s nothing sexier than working out with your intimate partner. Watching you sweat and work on your body only encourages us to work on ours as well. We get to see the raw and real you, a different type of naked. Now, if we do this together, we’re in the act of building something, a lifestyle. We’re not just talking. We’re doing. And that’s hot.
7. To have our own lives
We may not say it, because how do you tell the person you love to get a life? But we really want you to have your own life. Really. We want you to have your own set of friends, activities, and passions. Of course we want to be supportive of everything you care about and be a part of anything you would like us to be a part of, but we want you to have your own identity.

Because if you have nothing that is yours, our relationship is standing on one leg. Also, if you have your own life, it forces us to get our own life as well or risk losing you. Forget legs. Let’s put our relationship on wheels. One is yours. One is mine. And together, we’ll ride.
(Via:Mind Body Green    Image via: linkedin)

Friday, 8 August 2014

Kissing 101: How To Kiss As Demonstrated by Spider-Man and Emma Stone

Ooh! the excitement when you find someone you like or love and they like or love you back. This is huge, your crush finally noticed you and you are finally out of the friendzone. You are like ‘I cant believe this is happening to me’ and at that time you believe you can fly. The dates start, you hang out more and then you decide you want to kiss them. And you are all country mode like: 'Are you gonna kiss me or not?'

You kiss them and its ooooohhhh so glorious! You've never felt anything like that before. They tell you see you tomorrow, but tomorrow never comes. You text her, but she doesn't reply. And you there thinking, maybe the text was so shocking that he fainted and that’s why he can’t come to the phone. You are excited to see them the next day, but they just wave from afar and hit the next lane. Then realization hits you! You are a poor kisser! You try and remember how it went, but damn, it was your first kiss and all you remember is how you traveled to heaven and back in those 2 minutes. And that's when you call yourself a ka-meeting and try and understand what went wrong.  But before you decide to never to kiss anyone ever again, know that this things happen; even to celebrities too he hehe...
 When the first kiss does happen for you, sometimes it goes really well, or really bad, boring or kinda weird. Like this one. It's a must watch.  Emma Stone & Andrew Garfield Spider-Man demonstrated on SNL how real kissing is done and it was a total FAIL. Well, until Chris Martin came to the rescue.

 Feel better now? Hope so because it’s your first kiss and there are plenty of opportunities to kiss in the future. You will forever remember the first one but it’s not the last. 
The hardest part about kissing is knowing when the right time is to initiate it. Sometimes it’s obvious and predictable but sometimes, not so much and you have to struggle with 1001 feelings before it happens. When both of you are into each other, then it’s easy but if you have no idea what the other one feels, then it might be awkward (you just may get yourself slapped, without a tooth or both. Am just saying, you gotta know before you do it.)

So here’s how you do it:
1. Lean in, make sure your partner is also leaning in (it would be embarrassing if you've closed your eyes, with lips puckered and are leaning towards someone playing solitaire on their phone with no idea you are about to land on their face! Hehehe)
2. Close your eyes (It’s a bit weird to kiss someone eyes open) and tilt your head either to the right or left. You don’t want your noses to collide instead of your lips.
3. Touch your lips gently onto your partner’s lips. No wide open mouth and no smacking. You are not kissing your dog nor trying to eat your partner alive. Your lips should be slightly open just like when you are breathing with your mouth.
4. Apply a little pressure, make the kiss softer and hopefully by this time, you do not have a slap across your face but your partner is also kissing you back and hooooray, you are kissing!
This video will show you the best way to kiss, when to know the right time and what place to do it.

  (Image via: The Mary Sue , Kotaku)

Wednesday, 6 August 2014

Ladies: Here Are 30 things You Can Do With A Naked Man

How do you turn him on? Oh, let us count the ways. Consider this your must – do list of sex tips to tease, squeeze, and totally please your guy!
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1. Sneak Up Behind Him
Blow his mind with this sneaky move: Stand behind him and stroke his penis. This positions your palm flat against his member’s sensitive underside, the same way he grips it when he masturbates. Then do a few things he can’t do himself, like whisper in his ear or kiss his back.
2. Get Naked Too
There’s a good chance that your guy has never feasted his eyes on your completely bare body for more than a few seconds. Maybe it’s because you undress quickly in a passion frenzy or your bodies are too close for him to really take you in. But letting him stare at you in the buff is a surefire libido trigger.
3. Let Him Be an Animal
Initiate a primal move that fuels his frisky craving. Give him an animalistic challenge by having standing sex. Let him hold you up against the wall with your legs wrapped around his lower back. He’ll be in the aggressor role since he’s holding you up with his arms and lower body, and he also gets the visual thrill of watching your breasts bounce during the act.
4. Break Out the Blindfold
Once you have him going crazy not knowing where your next lick, kiss, or stroke will land, treat your blindfolded boy to a slew of new sensations. Three to try: the feel of your hair, silk panties, or a string of pearls rubbed gently against his member.
5. Climb on Top
The majority of the dudes we polled in our most recent sex survey picked woman-on-top as their number-one nooky style. Bonus: This position can be very intimate since your faces are touching and you can slide your arms around each other so you’re super close. It’s also a great method for delaying his orgasm a little longer.
6. Take a Sensual Shower
Steam up your bathroom mirror by standing this close together in the shower. Add the water pouring over you, and this is a perfect position for lots of wet, passionate kissing. You can also gaze into each other’s eyes, further boosting the intimacy factor.
7. Find His G-Spot
A guy’s prostate — the walnut-size gland under his bladder — is the ultimate magic button to push if you want to blow his mind in bed. To tantalize it, partway through oral sex or intercourse, rest two fingers against the swath of skin between his testicles and anus.
8. Give Him a New Number
No doubt, you’re intimately acquainted with 69. Now may we introduce you to 77? The number refers to the way you and your partner’s bodies look when they meld together in this side-entry position. The unique angling practically guides his, uh, missile to your G-spot.
9. Find a New Favorite Spot
Steam things up at home by moving outside the bedroom and doing it on top of a sturdy table, kitchen counter, bathroom sink, or the hood of a car parked in your garage.
10. Massage His Backside
Take oral sex to a whole new level by caressing his butt cheeks as you’re going down on him. Double his pleasure with the synchronized motions that lets you control the pacing.
11. Turn Him into a Buffet
Incorporating food into your passion play is a classic carnal activity. Take a few of your favorite erotically appealing flavor combinations, like peanut butter and honey or whipped cream and chocolate sauce, and mix up yummy treats all over his body.
12. Boss Him Around
Tell him want you want him to do without saying a word. Wrap your hand around one of his fingers or his penis, and when he does something you particularly like, give a squeeze.
13. Give Him a Peep Show
Turn your attention downstairs for some self-stimulation and leave the invitation open for him to take over. Whether he joins in or not, guys love to watch, so it’s a win-win situation.
14. Make Him Beg
Kiss and lick your way down his torso, stopping short of his penis, then give him a smile and work your way back up. Repeat several times until he begs for mercy.
15. Treat Him to Don’t-Lift-a-Finger Sex
Indulge him with low-maintenance sex (where all he has to do is unzip his fly, if that) by sliding onto his lap in reverse cowgirl position with your hands balanced on his thighs for support. Much like doggie-style, he’ll be able to revel in watching your tush and touching your breasts — but without expending any lower-body energy.
16. Talk Dirty to Him
Start off with a purr or an mmmm, or simply breathe heavily. Then up the erotic ante by whispering, “So…what do you want to do now?”
17. Make Him Long for Your Lips
A fabulous kiss is an intricate balancing act involving tongue technique, pressure control, and moistness monitoring. Invade his space with a tantalizing kiss-me telegram.
18. Play No-Hands Nooky
Tell him to keep his hands to himself. You can explore each other’s bodies with your lips, tongues, and breath.
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19. Taunt Him
A little torture builds a man’s anticipation so that when you finally do pounce, every touch is extra delicious. As things get going, pull your thong aside for him to enter you. You’ll drive him crazy because he can’t see every last inch of your body.
20. Enlighten Him
Tantra is the exotic art of prolonging your passion to reach new levels of satisfaction. Launch your night of lust by gently massaging his ear with your fingertips, working your way down the outer fold. Then run your pinkie along the crease where his ear connects to his head and ever-so-slowly prod the middle of his sexually susceptible inner ear with the tip of your tongue.
21. Get Dirty with Him in the Tub
A soak in the tub always feels incredible, but the sensual thrills quadruple when you invite your man in for some rub-a-dub action. Take turns slowly lathering each other up with a soft, natural sea sponge, tracing slow, sexy circles around your breasts, belly, and inner thighs, and get ready to fog up the mirror.
22. Tie Him Up
Even a plain scarf can make him see stars if you use the right technique. Take a long silk wrap, place it around his main man and the boys, and tie it in a large square knot, leaving about a foot of fabric on either end to hold on to. As you’re riding him, pull on the free ends so that the knot rubs against your clitoris.
23. Imply That He’s a Stud
Spark his ego by letting him know you want him sexually with a coy compliment. Letting him in on your longing for him jump-starts his own desire.
24. Make Him Hot, Then Cold
Cooling off your guy’s steamy body actually gets him hotter. Make his satisfaction skyrocket by turning him on to deliciously unexpected strokes, pressure, and temperature changes. Try the classic ice-cube trick to make him shiver with excitement. Have him lie on his back, hold a cube in your hand, and slowly draw an icy line from his neck all the way down his body.
25. Seduce Him
Be direct by saying something like “I want to have sex with you.” The straightforward approach is not merely about saving time (although it does have a way of cutting to the chase), it’s about giving yourself the opportunity to display extreme sexual confidence, to advertise yourself as a person who assumes that whatever she wants, she can have.
26. Toy with Him
Stock up on some sex toys. Velvet-lined handcuffs can be exciting, and they don’t hurt like the metal ones do. And you can never go wrong with a vibrator. Ask him to buzz it against your clitoris or tell him simply to sit back and watch you handle it.
27. Rev Him Up for Round 2
Your mattress moves are sizzling enough for a sequel! Lead him back to the sweet spot by telling him how good he makes you feel. And, this time your orgasm will be even hotter.
28. Let Him Climb on Top
Spice up missionary style and feel super deep penetration by drawing your knees toward your chest and grasping the back of your thighs. You can also place the soles of your feet on his chest or, if you’re really flexible, prop your ankles or legs up on his shoulders.
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29. Play Rough
Guys tend to be tougher than us, so feel free to manhandle. Pinch his nipples (an often-overlooked nerve center), scratch your nails down his back, or massage his chest.
30. Make It a Quickie
Once you've launched his rocket in five minutes flat, he’ll be willing to do just about anything for you.
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Thursday, 31 July 2014

5 Signs He May Be ‘Small’ Down There

I know you sitting there thinking, nothing could be worse than having an aching tooth. But there is sister, there is. Imaging waiting for months on end to have sex with a guy and then discovering he’s got a small ‘man’ down there. It’s like being hungry the whole day and anticipating that food you left in the fridge only to find someone already ate it. If you've ever gone through such a thing then you know that discovering he’s small down there could leave you crying in a corner wondering what next. You just there at a corner crying over your squashed dreams and future. Basically, all a woman wants in a potential boyfriend is a nice looking dude, with a good job, a great car and a nice penis.  (But a nice penis most times than not trumps all the other 3). It’s hard to find a man with all four but deep inside we all hoping that when his pants go down, we find the “king of the jungle.”
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When you discover he is not well endowed, please don’t hurt his feelings because they are over sensitive. The very fact that you know, will be sensitive. Don’t make him feel bad about it. But if you would want to know if he is ‘small’ before you cross some thresholds, here are some signs to look out for. 
PS, it’s on a light note guys. Everyone can be loved and everyone deserves to be loved and desired.
1. He is a relationship guy
They think that if they are a really good boyfriend, then you will get distracted from his small penis. He takes you out, cooks you great food, washes your clothes; does all the good things any chick wants but doesn't always get from other guys. But it won’t take you long to know because he moves from relationship to relationship. They find it hard to keep women around.
2. If he has exes, they all cheated on him
The one reason that drives women to cheat is feeling neglected, whether emotionally or physically. When the sex is good, the emotional part is neglected. When you ask your new guy what happened to previous relationships and he claims they all cheated on him. Then you know the problem; it’s even more telling if the ex was cheating on him with his best friend.
3. He never pressures you for sex
If the guy you are with is taking so long to ask, maybe he is not such a gentleman after all. They have no problem withholding sex. Even after you've been in a relationship with him for some time, he may never ask. No one wants to feel inadequate all the time. But if you are still with him, make him feel at ease by initiating the sex sometimes. You don’t have to wait until he asks, do it. You will boost his morale.
4. Talk of the bitch
A man with a small penis has lots of emotions. He literary becomes the bitch in the relationship. I think he fights so hard to be seen as the man in the relationship. His emotions escalate and he can become irrational at some point. When a woman becomes unsatisfied in the bedroom for some time, they become the man. You somehow become insensitive to his feelings and you start bossing him and making rules. And this could lead to a bad ending. 
5. Is insecure
This is well hidden behind pride and stubbornness. They have such a big ego and create a facade that even though he’s small in size; he’s worth more than gold. He has an extravagant lifestyle to try and hide his shortcomings.
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If most of these traits describe the guy you dating right now, then he most likely than not has the small dick syndrome. But he is not a lost cause. If you love a guy to bits, don’t leave him because he is not well endowed. Am sure if you did some research, you would find ways to get around this situation so that everyone is satisfied. He could also try and work on his emotional and insecurity issues first, and then everything can work out fine from there. Furthermore, even though size has its advantages, sometimes it’s not all that matters. And everyone deserves to love and be loved back. 

Watch this wonderful BBC3 documentary which follows Lawrence Barraclough as he comes to term with the size of his small penis.

Monday, 28 July 2014

How to Tell When Your Man Is Totally Faking Orgasm

I know, you don’t believe me, but it’s true. Men do fake it too. I know you are sitting there thinking, ‘I would definitely know if he faked it.’ But could you? 
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Research done has shown that 30 percent of them have faked it at one point or another. Reasons for this being Society for one. It’s socially acceptable for a lady to turn down sex but the same rules do not apply to men. A man who says no to sex would cause a stop in the spinning of the world, literary. The second reason is that sometimes they are pressured if the partner is about to reach orgasm or has already reached it. Yeah, it’s tough being a guy too. 
Dr Abraham Morgentaler, a urology professor at Harvard even published a book about it. Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men And Sex. He says that 'While it's OK for a woman to say she's too tired to make love, or has a headache - in fact it's so common there are jokes about it - it's not acceptable for men,' he said. 'The image is that men are always up for sex, which makes you feel under pressure to perform even when you don't want to.'
Don’t get them wrong ladies; they do it out of kindness! ‘In their minds, [faking an orgasm is] actually a form of kindness. In a way, they're letting the other person know that they've done a good job,' he says.
So how do you know when he’s faking it?
1. Ridiculous performance
There is even a guide by AskMen on how they should do this, imagine! "Overacting will kill this performance. You must do your best to have your fake orgasm be as much like a real one as possible. Don't overdo it with loud moans, crazy facial expressions, lots of thrashing about, or anything else out of character during your fake climax." So if you notice some excessive moaning, something is up girl.
2. The climax is on record speed
He has his orgasm right after you’ve had yours. Remember the kindness, Dr. Morgentaler talked about? Yeah that’s it. It’s so much easier to pretend he’s had his orgasm rather than have you wait until he actually does.
3. He’s still erect
It so happens naturally that when a guy climaxes, his penis becomes flaccid. Sometimes not immediately, but it happens a few minutes after. So if your guy is still erect, 10 minutes after, then you need no writing on the wall.
4. He sleeps immediately after
If you usually cuddle immediately after sex, but today he sleeps immediately, then he faked the orgasm because he wanted to sleep. Society won’t let him say ‘No, am too tired today, or I've got a headache.’
5. Missing ‘wet spot’
Faking it while a condom is involved is too easy. But if your relationship is a no condom zone, you know a ‘wet spot’ somehow results. So if there’s none and you don’t have to argue on who should sleep on it today, then girl, he faked it.
6. He is in a ‘bathroom rush’ immediately after.
If he dashes to the bathroom immediately after an orgasm, then girl he just faked it. He is trying to rush and hide the fact that there’s no semen in the condom. It’s not like you would check or have time to (especially if you've had your orgasm) but hey, a dude’s got to be careful. You should be curious; especially if it’s the first time he dashes out immediately after sex.
So there you have it, they do fake it!

Has your guy ever faked it? 

Thursday, 24 July 2014

Uncovering The Art Of Seduction

Whether you are experienced in the dating world or just starting out, meeting someone and making an effect creates anxiety. Your hormones are triggered into overdrive but what you do after the trigger is what counts. Some people have no idea what to do next after making first contact with the opposite sex. But there are some pros that have no time to waste once the initial contact is made.
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In different cultures, seduction stands for different things and it means different things to different people.  To some people, seduction inspires images of emotional intimacy and love and creates a general feeling of excitement, sexual desire and sensuality. Others don’t like the idea of seducing since it creates a fear of being victimized, deceived and sexually harassed. They believe that the one seducing is not acting out of love but out of another motive. The art of seduction in most societies has been seen to result into hurt, destruction and lots of damages if allowed to be expressed freely. It’s generally viewed as a way of tricking someone into believing nonsense to be reality. 

In today’s society, seduction can be classified with actions like trickery, deception, exploitation, selfishness, pretense or playing with words. But for those who have embraced it, seduction is an amazing thing. Being able to seduce someone and leave them craving for more is viewed as a huge accomplishment and those who can do it without batting an eyelid are celebrated. 

In most cases, seduction has nothing to do with love, it’s about getting something like financial favors or sex using deceit and trickery. Am sure most of us can point out instances where our attempts at seduction have been out of manipulative and selfish desires and not out of love or selflessness. Most people learn the art of seduction right from their childhood. They can get anything from anyone as long as they put their mind into it. But for most of us, we have to learn how to seduce the hard way.

How successful you are at the art of seduction is mostly determined by the value your target puts on you. Like for example, if as a guy you learn how to complement and pay attention to a girl, you make her feel special and boost her ego. Overdo this and she loses interest. 

Am sure you have come across great looking guys or girls who have constant relationship problems. They get dumped and rejected because they do not know how to keep tension live in their relationships. Sometimes they forget that their physical appeal is not enough and that psychological attraction is the key. All in all, you need more than great looks to keep a partner interested! 

That’s why most long term relationships fail. You have great experiences, are loyal and love each other to bits. But this does not last long. Immediately those interests and feelings stop being maintained, people change. 

Have you ever wondered why a hot chick falls for an ugly guy? Why people stick to abusive relationships or why people chase after their exes? “Attraction is not a choice” and we have no ability to decide how to feel about someone. We know when a relationship is bad for us, when it’s destructive and when we are dissatisfied; but we stick with the same relationships no matter what. This is because emotional thinking always trumps rational thinking. 
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The key to the art of seduction is giving a partner a taste of what they want, letting them experience the highs of being with you and then taking it away. You let them feel what it would be like to never have such an experience again. That’s the reason we fall for unstable people. These partners are unpredictable and exciting. They are cold one day and affectionate and passionate the next. If in a relationship with such a person, you are always wondering why things have changed, how to get it back and going berserk thinking about the person. These people leave us wanting more and create lots of tension.
If a guy has problems with the girlfriend, she turns cold and the relationship has a lot of tension. He will announce he is done with her and swear he will get another and bang her. But deep inside, he is craving her attention and can’t think of any other girl but her. In fact, he would turn down a hot chick throwing herself at him in the bar. Lots of evidence is there to show that people often cheat in their relationships when they are content and secure. Attraction levels at that time are low and they are craving some tension their relationship isn’t offering. The highs and lows in a relationship are what keep it going.

The art of seduction is therefore all about maintaining the psychological attractiveness. It has nothing to do with physical attractiveness, wealth or respectability in society.

Do you know what to do after making that first contact?  Are you a pro in the art of seduction?