Showing posts with label sex. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sex. Show all posts

Friday, 26 September 2014

21 reasons why you should have sex.. tonight!

Partner “not in the mood” again? Then it might be worth sharing the following to change their mind! According to the latest studies, regular sex – that’s one to two lovemaking sessions per week – can provide some incredible boosts to your health and wellbeing.

1. Look younger
Last week, Dr David Weeks, clinical neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, revealed to a psychology ­conference that his extensive research had found older men and women with an active love life looked five to seven years younger than their actual age.

But you don’t have to be at it every night to enjoy youth-enhancing effects! In fact, during his 10-year study, ­Weeks found quality was as important as quantity, with the anti-ageing benefits stronger if the sex was classed as “loving”.
2. Boost your fertility
This will sound like ­music to most men’s ears – studies have found that the more often you make love, the better quality your sperm will be.

Semen health was found to be best when sex had last occurred less than two days before the sperm was tested and was greatly decreased after 10 days of abstinence.

If you’re trying for a baby, keep sperm fresh and in tip-top shape by having sex at least twice a week, and not only around the time of the woman’s ovulation.

Frequent sex has also been found to help balance a woman’s hormones and regulate her periods, which can further boost chances of conceiving.
3. Fight colds and flu
Having sex once or twice a week has been found to raise your body’s levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, or IgA, which can protect you from colds and flu. One study found people who have sex more than once a week have 30% higher levels of IgA than those who abstain.
4. Disease-proof your body
Having high levels of the natural steroid DHEA, known as “the anti-ageing hormone”, is believed to be key to keeping your body fitter for longer. During sex, DHEA is ­secreted throughout the body, and after an orgasm, the level in the bloodstream soars to five times its normal amount.
5. Lengthen your life
A study carried out in Australia found people who climaxed at least three times a week had a 50% lower chance of dying for any medical reason than those who only climaxed once a month.
6. Shift your middle-age spread and keep fit
Thirty minutes of vigorous sex burns up to 100 calories, which is the same as a small glass of wine.

And if you have moderately active sex twice a week, you’ll burn an extra 5,000 calories a year! ­

Varying your positions is also a great, fun way to tone different muscle groups and keep limbs lean and flexible.
7. Ease those nasty period cramps
Many women say period pain diminishes if they do the deed during a cramp attack.

One theory why is that muscle contractions that occur when you reach peak levels of excitement relieve tension in the muscles of your uterus – the ones that cause menstrual cramps – therefore easing the pain.
8. Helps lower your risk of incontinence
Good sex is a great workout for a woman’s pelvic floor muscles – the muscles that control ­orgasms and also stem the flow of urine, reducing leakage and incontinence.

Pregnancy and the menopause can weaken these muscles significantly, but the stronger they are, the lower your risk of developing stress incontinence and prolapse later.

And let’s face it, sex is far more ­enjoyable than the chore of doing pelvic floor exercises on your own!
9. Prevent a heart attack
Lots of studies have found that regular sex can ward off heart attacks, not bring them on as it was once feared.

One study at Queen’s University Belfast found that having sex three times a week could halve your risk of having a heart attack or stroke.

Another study in Israel found that women who had two orgasms a week were up to 30% less likely to have heart disease than those who did not enjoy sex or didn’t have an orgasm.
10. Increase your attractiveness to others
High sexual activity makes the body release more pheromones, chemicals that enhance your appeal to the opposite sex.

This is why the more sex you have with your partner, the stronger your desire will be to have sex with them again.
11. Smooth out your wrinkles
The hormone oestrogen is pumped out during sex, which can in turn have a plumping effect on the skin, helping to smooth out those fine lines.

This is especially useful following the menopause, when a woman’s skin can ­become drier and more wrinkled, as ­oestrogen levels naturally drop.

One American study found that menopausal women who had sex every week had ­oestrogen levels that were twice as high as their counterparts who abstained.
12 Give yourself an all-over healthy glow
According to ­research carried out at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, sex promotes skin renewal because it is an aerobic form of exercise.

The scientist behind this study found that vigorous sex pumps higher levels of oxygen around the body, increasing the flow of blood and nutrients to the skin, and pushes newer, fresher skin cells to the surface, making skin look healthier.
13. Improve your self-esteem
One of the most important benefits, noted in a recent survey undertaken by the University of Texas, US, was that participants who had sex regularly felt more confident about their bodies.
14. Lower your blood pressure
A Scottish study found men and women who had plenty of sex coped well with stress and had lower blood ­pressure than those who abstained. Researchers at Brigham Young ­University in the US also linked frequent intercourse to lower blood pressure.
15. Banish depression
Like any exercise that raises your heart rate, sex causes your brain to release feel-good chemicals that boost your levels of serotonin – the happy hormone – to lift your mood.

Serotonin is the body’s key antidepressant chemical and one of the major reasons people smile and feel happy and relaxed after sex.

Sexually active women in long-term ­relationships are also less likely to feel depressed than women who go without sex, according to a study of nearly 300 women by psychologist Gordon Gallup in the American Archives Of Sexual ­Behavior.
16. Cure that headache (yes, really!)
“Having a headache” might be an age-old excuse not to have sex, but the scientific evidence says that, to the contrary, sex can help shift pain!

This is because making love causes a surge in the “love” hormone ­oxytocin, plus other feel-good ­endorphins, which can ease pain.

Women have reported that their ­pain from both headaches and ­arthritis improved post-coitus.
17. Slash stress
In a study in the Psychology journal, ­researchers found that people who’d had sex in the last 24 hours coped better with stressful ­scenarios – such as public speaking – than those who had not.

Research has also shown that touching and cuddling during and after sex reduces the body’s levels of cortisol – the hormone that is secreted when you’re stressed.
18. Kick your insomnia into touch
The oxytocin released when you orgasm has another benefit – it can help you drop off, research claims.

Both men and women release this feel-good ­hormone just before ­orgasm, and as it courses through your system, it promotes relaxation and sleepiness.

So there is actually a genuine excuse for him to fall asleep so quickly after sex...
19. Strengthen your bones
As regular sex can boost oestrogen levels in post-menopausal women, it can offer some protection against the ­bone-thinning condition osteoporosis that is triggered by a lack of oestrogen.

And men can benefit too, as testosterone levels have been found to increase during and after sex, which can provide some protection against male osteoporosis.
20. Cut your risk of prostate cancer
Researchers at Nottingham University have found that men who enjoy a regular sex life in their 50s are at lower risk of developing prostate cancer.

This is because sex clears the prostate of toxins that could ­otherwise linger and trigger ­cancerous changes.

The link was first suggested after several studies showed that monks appeared to have a higher chance of developing prostate cancer.
21. Feel better all day
If you decide to go for a spot of morning passion to start your day, the boost to your mood it provides can continue right through until night-time, ­according to research.

The American scientist Dr Debby Herbenick found that adults who made love first thing in the morning were not only more upbeat for the rest of the day, but they also benefited from a stronger ­immune system than those people who simply opted for a cup of tea and some toast before ­heading out of the door.

In other words – why wait until tonight?
(Via: Mirror)

Thursday, 25 September 2014

When Guys Say No To Sex

Let’s face it. Things have changed in the world of relationships. Male and female ‘roles’ are less defined. Either partner can make decisions… and that includes when and IF to have sex.   But, it’s not necessarily a slap in the face to us ladies. So , next time you dim the lights and bust a move on your man and he does not respond the way you want, consider the following before taking things personally or freaking out. (That’s not good for anyone!)

Okay, it’s not all good news, but remember; guys are people, too.
JUST ONE NIGHT
Okay, maybe the two of you went on a bender starting with shots of wedding cake vodka before hitting the club. It’s been a long night and you’ve both indulged in multiple forms of stimulants. Imagine that. So it’s five a.m. and you’re wondering why he has not jumped your bones. It might not be a problem. He may be so wired that all he wants is to do more of whatever you two have been ingesting, or he’s so wired that he’s trying to chill. Speedy stimulants are not great for the male sexual apparatus. A guy might be there mentally, but physically it’s not working. Or, one night he might be totally stressed out from work or whatever is being thrown his way. If “no thank you” happens once in a blue moon, don’t fret. He’ll learn to slow down and you’ll make sure he focuses on you.
MONTHS PASS BY…
This is not a good sign. Sure, no means no whether you are a guy or a gal, but if your guy has passed up sex for a prolonged period of time and he is under sixty: you've got a problem. Every situation is different, but a healthy, robust sex life is part of the core DNA of a healthy relationship between partners—men and women, women and women, men and men. Sex rocks and since it takes two to tango and you've been left on the dance floor alone, I suggest that you sit your partner down and have a talk. Maybe it will turn out to be the talk, but you need some kind of talk for context.
THE CAUSES
A noted professor of gender studies at Pasadena City College claims that it’s not you; it’s him. He states, “Men are turned on by success. Get a job or promotion— and boom– you’re ready to go. Move back with your parents? Lose your job? You don’t feel sexy.” I think he’s right. The mind plays a major factor in sex. That said, guys should not define their value by their job status, and when duty calls, they need to focus on the job at hand. A wonderful, willing partner can cure most psychological doubts in the mind. And if it’s still not working, maybe you two are destined for the friend zone.
WHAT CAN BE DONE
Some women report that once they had the talk or even made overtures about breaking it off, the guy’s sexual desire made a miraculous comeback. Again, the mind can play tricks on the male psyche. Although guys need an occasional trip to the woodshed, it’s also important that women help their man feel virile by boosting up his morale instead of putting him down.

What do you do when your guy says no?
(Via: GalTime)

Monday, 22 September 2014

5 Facts You Must Know About The Penis

For all the attention they direct below the belt, most men actually know very little about their penises. Here's the knowledge you need to keep yours healthy, strong, and ready for action, for life.

1. Smoking can shorten your penis by as much as a centimeter. Erections are all about good bloodflow, and lighting up calcifies blood vessels, stifling erectile circulation. So even if you don't care all that much about your lungs or dying young, spare the little guy.

2: Doctors can now grow skin for burn victims using the foreskins of circumcised infants. One foreskin can produce 23,000 square meters, which would be enough to tarp every Major League infield with human flesh.

3: An enlarged prostate gland can cause both erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. If you have an unexplained case of either, your doctor's looking forward to checking your prostate. Even if you're not.

4: The average male orgasm lasts 6 seconds. Women get 23 seconds. Which means if women were really interested in equality, they'd make sure men have four orgasms for every one of theirs.

5: The oldest known species with a penis is a hard-shelled sea creature called Colymbosathon ecplecticos. That's Greek for "amazing swimmer with large penis." Which officially supplants Buck Naked as the best porn name, ever.

6: Circumcised foreskin can be reconstructed. Movable skin on the shaft of the penis is pulled toward the tip and set in place with tape. Later, doctors apply plastic rings, caps, and weights. Years can pass until complete coverage is attained.

7: Only one man in 400 is flexible enough to give himself oral pleasure. It's estimated, however, that all 400 have given it their best shot at some point.

8: There are two types of penises. One kind expands and lengthens when becoming erect (a grower). The other appears big most of the time, but doesn't get much bigger after achieving erection (a shower).

9: An international Men's Health survey reports that 79 percent of men have growers, 21 percent have showers.

10: German researchers say the average intercourse lasts 2 minutes, 50 seconds, yet women perceive it as lasting 5 minutes, 30 seconds.

11: Turns out size does matter: The longer your penis, the better "semen displacement" you'll achieve when having sex with a woman flush with competing sperm. That's according to researchers at the State University of New York, who used artificial phalluses (ahem) to test the "scooping" mechanism of the penis's coronal ridge.

12: The penis that's been enjoyed by the most women could be that of King Fatefehi of Tonga, who supposedly deflowered 37,800 women between the years 1770 and 1784—that's about seven virgins a day.

13: Better-looking men may have stronger sperm. Spanish researchers showed women photos of guys who had good, average, and lousy sperm—and told them to pick the handsomest men. The women chose the best sperm producers most often.

14: No brain is necessary for ejaculation. That order comes from the spinal cord. Finding a living vessel for said ejaculation, however, takes hours of careful thought and, often, considerable amounts of alcohol.

15: The most common cause of penile rupture: vigorous masturbation. Some risks are just not worth taking.
(Via: Romance Meets Life)

5 Signs He'll Be Good In Bed

So you've got a new beau and you're trying to decide if you should take your budding bond to the next level... in the bedroom. Sure, he's hot and the scenes playing out in your head make you want to high tail it to your place. But is this guy really sex-mate material?
Great sex, at least the kind you want to have more than once with the same person, isn't just about having skills. That kind of hotness between the sheets grows cold fast. Really memorable partners are all about tuning into your needs and being willing to please in all the right places.

Thankfully, there are some signs that your new love interest is worthy of becoming your next lover. Let's see if your new hunk looks promising for the role.
1: He's a Gentleman
In love and sex, it's the small things that matter. Does he open doors for you, pull out your chair, call to check in about your day, remember to ask about your big work project? All are signs that he's thinking about you. If he's a thoughtful gentleman out of the bedroom, you can bet that treatment will continue once the lights are out.
2: He Knows How to Touch You
Guys who are into sex purely for sex's sake often save touching for one purpose, to score. A great lover is one who values sensuality both in and out of the bedroom. So if you're seeing a guy who touches your hand across the table at dinner, feels the small of your back as you walk through a hallway or holds your hand as you stroll through the park... that guy will know how to touch all of you.
3: It's Not Always About Him
For some men, it's always about them. What happened in their day, where they want to eat and what movie they want to see. Can you see where this is heading? But a guy who asks you about your day first, goes to your favorite restaurant even if he's not a huge fan of that type of food... or cuddles on the couch for a chick-flick? Now that guy will make your happiness a priority both in and out of bed!
4: He's Not in a Rush
Guys who are more interested in your body than in you, well, they want to get in the sack in a rush. Join him there too quick and you'll be a flash in his pan. A man who is truly interested in being your lover knows that you are worth a little wait. He actually wants to savor the build up because he plans on sticking around. So, if he says, "Let's wait" or "I'm not in a rush," know that he's willing to invest in his lovemaking.
5: He Makes You Feel Beautiful
Mind blowing sex is all about feeling free to be your uninhibited self because you know that your partner appreciates you. The kind of man who will make you feel that way is free with his compliments -- building you up with each little thing he notices about you that he likes. Even the way he looks at you will make you feel smart, sexy and attractive. That kind of chemistry smolders in bed and bursts into flame.

How does your guy stack up? By paying attention to how he treats you out of bed, you'll be clued into how he's apt to treat you in bed. If all systems are a go, he just might make your next best lover.
Via GalTime

Saturday, 6 September 2014

5 Sex Moves You Think She Likes, But Doesn't

You've been around the block once or twice, and no, we’re not talking alternate side of the street parking. We’re talking sex. You've done your homework, boned up on the finer points of doing the deed, and when it comes to getting busy between the sheets—or whatever your locale of choice—you can be trusted to bring it on, bring it home and just...bring it. You’re the man. The love guru. A sexual rock star. But you know what? You might be mistaken. While you may be certain your performance is hitting all the right notes, in reality, your off-key love song can potentially get you sacked in the sack. (But always remember: all women were not created equal, especially on the playing field of sexual yeas and nays. One girl's thrill is another’s What are you doing? but cut these deal breakers from your curriculum, and you're off to a good start.)

The Pro
Beware being the guy who believes that having an encyclopedic education in Tantra, The Kama Sutra and the collected works of Dr. Ruth Westheimer makes you a proficient lover. A little knowledge may be a dangerous thing, but so is a lot of knowledge in the wrong hands, tongues or other man bits, and as everyone knows, theory and practice are two very different animals. The guy who is certain he can “give” a woman an orgasm operates on the misconception that a woman’s orgasm is his to give. It’s not. Yes, you can and should help her get there, but the long, short, thick, thin and yeah, just right there of it is: a woman’s climax is her own. A man so goal-oriented that he focuses solely on “pleasuring his woman,” can expect to achieve the same result as one who doesn't care whether his partner gets off at all. He’s running through his checklist, and an hour of oohing and ahhing later, she’s thinking, "Are we there yet?"
The One-Noter
Ah, the clitoris: The seat of so much pleasure, and the temple to so many misconceptions. Is clitoral stimulation a good thing? Of course it is. Can there be too much of a good thing? You betcha. While the ruby pearl is a magic button, it’s certainly not the only one. Direct contact or fancy finagling down below are not givens, nor should sex necessarily begin and end “on the dot.” If your idea of foreplay is to shove a hand between her legs and have at it, don’t be surprised if she shuts down rather than lights up. Every woman has her own timing, tempo and preferred sequence of events. Learn to read her music or you may get the hook.
The Rebel
Porn movies are fantasies. Many things you see in them may make for fabulous wank fodder, but when going one-on-one with a real partner of the non-inflatable variety, can be real deal breakers. Spanking. DP. Facials. Girl-on-girl. We’re not saying she won’t be into it, but we are saying you should broach the subject before you invite the cable guy in for a threesome and cue the cheesy soundtrack. Ironically, females are now major consumers of porn. If your amore’s amenable, try watching some together and talking about how far you're both willing to go before you bust out the sex swing.
The Sloppy Eater
Those who treat the vagina like hogs at a trough rarely find themselves asked back for a return engagement. Going down? Good! Enthusiasm? Great! Slobbering, snuffling, snarling, snorting and/or grunting? Yuck.
The Marathon Man
The seven-hour myth of Sting has been debunked. Not every woman is capable of multiple orgasms, nor does she necessarily want it to go on and on and on. Sometimes, it's a far better thing for you to come, than it is to attempt to make her come again—or even at all. Heresy, right? Not really. Intercourse does not have to lead to female orgasm 100 percent of the time. As long as it doesn’t become a recurring theme, it’s not the end of the world. Again, focus on the game, rather than the score and pleasure will be achieved. (She can always get herself off later, and if you’re nice, she may even let you watch.)
Via: Men's Fitness Image via: OnlyMyHealth

Saturday, 23 August 2014

How Do You Tell If A Woman Wants To Have Sex With You?

Well, today I unveil the secret every man is always curious to know. This secret has been preserved for long, it's time we brought it out in the open. So, put your phone aside, hold your breath, and read the next lines carefully, no distractions! I am here to help you identify if the beautiful lady you  are with (or are eyeing) is dying to have sex with you.

AND THE SECRET IS…….


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THE LADY HERSELF……..

ASK HER.

 I am so sorry. It’s not possible to tell you if she is down to get f**ked for only she knows about it; neither her mannerisms, skimpy black dress nor level of intoxication will help you. Only she will.


Poor guy!!!


Did you actually think that there is some hidden secret to reach out to the goddess of sex? Unfortunately none is available. Till then get the balls to ASK HER and stop assuming. Ask! What's the worst that could go wrong anyway?


Image via: huffingtonpost


Monday, 18 August 2014

Have A Headache? Have Some Sex

Next time you have a headache — or a backache, foot ache, any sort of muscle ache — don’t go straight for the Panadol or Mara Moja. Consider, instead, going straight to the bedroom — with a partner. According to OB-GYN Lauren Streicher, author of “Love Sex Again,” having sex can make basic cramps and aches disappear.
via NHS

Theoretically, [sex] can help with a headache,” Streicher explained in an interview with #OWNSHOW. “But not just a headache — but a muscle ache, a stomach ache, a foot ache, a you-name-it ache. The reason is endorphins. We know that when people have sex, they release endorphins, and endorphins can decrease pain.”

So simple! Sex  can occasionally cause migraines, but that’s rare — plus, Streicher went on to cite a study out of Southern Illinois University, which found that women who suffered migraine headaches and had sex tended to experience a 50 percent decrease in their headaches. That’s partly because of the endorphins released during intercourse, she said, but also because sex makes for a pretty good distraction from pain. It works, in effect, the same way that other painkillers do.

I think we have both things at play here,” Streicher said. “I think the endorphins that are released might decrease the pain, and distraction is always a good thing. … [But] when you have a really bad headache, it’s not necessarily the time when you’re going to feel like having sex.”  Still, though, it’s definitely something to think about before popping pills.

I think It’s time women stopped using ‘headache’ as an excuse not to have it. What do you think?
(Via: Alternet)

Saturday, 16 August 2014

10 Signs You’re Bad In Bed And Don’t Even Know It

Every man worth his salt wants to be a stud in the sack. And if you’re reading this article, you’ve already taken a step in the right direction toward making sure your partner is satisfied. Of course, you probably clicked on this by accident because you’re unbelievable in the bedroom. But just in case you could use a reality check, we sat down with Emily Morse, sexologist, host of the Sex with Emily podcast, and co-founder of Emily & Tony, to find out what is it you’re doing wrong, and how to fix it so you’ll leave her wanting to come back for more.

1. You skip foreplay
The problem: You come home after thinking about sex all day and try to stick your penis in her right away. She, on the other hand, has not been thinking about sex. She’s been thinking about work, that squabble with her best friend, and what she’s making for dinner. She’s not warmed up, therefore she’s not going to enjoy it.

Fix it:Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay—I can’t say it enough!” Morse says. You may be ready to go the second you get home, but you have to remember, sex is mostly mental for women. They have to be warmed up, physically and mentally. “Most women not only enjoy foreplay, but we need it in order to get aroused before actual intercourse,” Morse says. Foreplay can even start hours before you’re through the door. Send her a text about how much you can’t wait to see her or how beautiful she looked this morning. Then when you get home kiss and caress her before you start taking her clothes off. Foreplay isn’t a suggestion; it’s a requirement for most women.
2. You don’t go down on her
The problem: You’re so excited about having sex or you’re not thinking about her needs, so you weakly lick her clitoris a few times or skip over going down on her altogether. You move straight into intercourse and, similarly to skipping foreplay, she’s not warmed up and therefore doesn’t enjoy sex as much as you do.

Fix it:Go down on her like you mean it! I mean, really mean it,” Morse says. “If you really want her to enjoy sex, then you need to enjoy performing oral sex on her. Just like nothing is sexier than a woman who enjoys giving a blow job, nothing is sexier than a man who enjoys giving oral pleasure.” Only about 25 to 30% of women orgasm through intercourse, and most of these women need (and likely want) clitoral stimulation in addition to intercourse.
3. You don’t touch her after sex
The problem: You roll over after sex and tell her, “Sorry, babe, it’s just too hot,” then keep a foot of distance between you and her. Maybe you chat with her for a bit before falling asleep. Either way, you’re not up for cuddling. Or, maybe you are, but you’ve got a 60-second timer counting down in your head and never touch her for longer than that. She’s noticeably annoyed, or at this point you’ve both gotten used to the fact that you just don’t really touch after sex.

Fix it: If you’re not someone who likes to touch after sex, start off small and make some kind of physical contact a normal part of your after-sex routine. Scratch her back for a little while and lay a little closer than normal. Once you’ve scratched her back for a while, move on to a closer touch. Cuddling after sex will bring the two of you closer together. The most successful relationships have ties to after-sex cuddling, according to new research out of the University of Toronto—Mississauga. “The way you approach your partner after sex is really important to how you approach your relationship in general,” Morse says.
4. You’re afraid of doing something wrong, so you don’t try anything new
The problem: You’re stuck in your head during sex. You’ve thought about trying a new position you read or heard about, but you’re afraid you won’t be able to execute the move correctly or you might lose your erection. Missionary and doggy style are tried and true, so you stick with those two, and you have the same sex over and over again.

Fix it: Set aside your fears and replace them with passion. “Sex is awkward, you’re getting naked with another person and putting yourself in the most intimate setting possible,” Morse says. There will be embarrassing moments and there will be things that go wrong, but making mistakes is better than not doing anything at all. “Allow the passion of what you are experiencing to take over the fear of doing something wrong,” she says. “I guarantee your partner will find your passionate mistakes much sexier than your flat routine.”
5. You’re basing her pleasure on your performance
The problem: You want her to orgasm in order to satisfy your own ego—because sex is about you feeling satisfied with your own performance. As a result, she feels pressured to have an orgasm, which could lead her to fake it from time to time. This results in sex that is no longer pleasurable for her, and is detrimental to your partnership in general, Morse says.

Fix it: If you’re too busy thinking about your own performance, you won’t think to ask your partner what she actually wants, and you won’t be able to learn how to actually make her orgasm. “A confident man will ask for direction and will learn what his partner wants,” Morse says.
6. You haven’t asked her what she likes
The problem: You approach every woman as if there is a formula, assuming all woman can orgasm the same way, and there is a simple trick to make that happen. You don’t bother to ask a woman what she likes or how she wants to be touched once the two of you step inside the bedroom.

Fix it: “Every woman is different, so you should approach every woman differently,” Morse says. Once you’re getting to the point of intimacy with a woman, it’s time to ask her what she likes. She may be making noises to let you know she likes something you’re doing, but there could be something she really wants you to do that she would tell you about if you just asked. “A woman is not a secret combination box in which you have to figure out the code, simply ask her and she’ll gladly let you know what she likes,” Morse says.
7. She hasn’t made a peep
The problem: When a woman is into it, she will say something, anything! Yes, there are women who aren’t loud in bed, but consistent silence indicates that she isn’t enjoying herself and possibly doesn’t think it’s worth it to speak up. “Silence after the fact can be another sign that she didn’t enjoy herself,” Morse says. If you’re lying there panting, telling her how incredible that was, and she’s got nothing to say, she wasn’t that into it.

The fix: Before things heat up, let her know that it really turns you on when she tells you what she likes, and what she wants. Afterward, skip the “Was it good for you?” and start the conversation by telling her which parts you really enjoyed. Then ask her if there was anything she especially liked, anything she would want more of or what she would like you to do differently.
8. She’s overacting
The problem: If you’ve barely even touched her and she’s carrying on like a porn star, chances are she’s acting out more pleasure than she’s actually feeling,” Morse says. Reports show that roughly 80% of women admit to making sex sounds and moans, whether they are actually going to climax or not. They’re doing this partially to enhance their partner’s experience, but also because they’re insecure about not being able to orgasm. “Either way, you should be the reason she is making sounds—and when the sounds and the movements don’t match up, something is off,” Morse says.

The fix: Let her know that it really makes you hot hearing that she is enjoying herself, but that you would like to know what specific things feel best for her.
9. You’re not addressing the obvious
The problem: You have some penis problems in the bedroom, but you never address them.

The fix: Talk to her about it. It’s already the elephant in the room and she notices that you’re not staying hard for long, experiencing premature ejaculation, or you just can’t ejaculate at all (delayed ejaculation). “Women are not as worried about this issue as you are, that is, until you completely ignore it, or worse, just let it happen and then roll over and fall asleep without giving a second thought to pleasing her,” Morse says. Let her know that this happens to you sometimes, and it doesn’t mean you’re not attracted to her or you’re unaware there is an issue. Tell her you’re working on it. You can even bring her into the solution: You need to slow down sometimes in the middle of intercourse, you’re working on strengthening your stamina, and you’d love her to be patient with you while you still do everything in your power to please her.
10. She told you she doesn’t orgasm EVERY time, so you don’t pleasure her once you’ve climaxed
The problem: You make the assumption that because you came, she came, too. Or you really don’t give much thought to it at all.

The fix: Rule of thumb: she comes first. Make sure that she is always pleased before you are. That way you can still have your happy ending knowing that she had her needs met as well. “Many men assume that just because they were satisfied, and she didn’t say anything afterwards, you had the green light to roll over and go to sleep,” Morse says. “If you’re not sure if she had an orgasm, she probably didn’t. And if you’ve never given any thought to her orgasm at all, you’ve got bigger problems.” Just because you asked her once or twice if she was satisfied and she says something like, “No worries, I’m fine,” or she mentioned she doesn’t orgasm every time, that doesn’t mean she wasn’t incredibly turned on by you and still wants an orgasm, even if she didn’t experience it through intercourse.

Make sure that even if you’ve already released, you muster up the strength to please her whether it’s with your fingers, mouth, or a sex toy. She’ll know that her satisfaction is important to you, and will feel more relaxed during intercourse knowing that if she doesn’t climax before you do, she’ll still have fun with you afterwards.
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Thursday, 14 August 2014

10 Things Women Wish Men Knew About Sex

Sex isn't all that complicated. It's a biological urge, something we should all know how to do just by instinct, but any woman who has been with a man fumbling around to unhook her bra and appear so suave at the same time also knows perfectly well that it isn't.
It seems a lifetime of porn and bad advice from older brothers has rendered men incapable of knowing what we like sexually. We ladies aren't doing ourselves any favors by being afraid to speak up. Endurance is overrated (Yes! Yes! Yes!) and "we actually know what will get us to orgasm." Indeed.
So, for you poor guys who are still in the dark, I have asked around and compiled a list of the10 things we wish you guys knew about sex (and about us). Here they are:
1. Boobs = attached: Yes, they're pretty and cool, but much like your testicles, they ARE attached. There is no reason to push and pull and twist to prove anything.
2. Use your tongue: When you have your head in our nether regions, forget everything you learned in porn. Sticking your face in and shaking like a wet dog is not hot. Repeat: NOT HOT.
3. Foreplay: Everything you have heard about women needing more than five seconds before you take the plunge? Is TRUE. Dude, our engines need revving. We don't enjoy the gas being hit too quickly. Remember this, please, for the love of god.
4. Stop asking us: There are few things more annoying than being in the throes of passion and having some overeager partner who keeps asking, "Are you gonna come?" Dude, it's great that you care about our pleasure, but we'll let you know. But you just lost a minute to your overeager questioning. Any more and we will have to cancel it altogether.

5. Lube it, love it: It doesn't mean you failed, but if you want to play around, use some lube to get things started. No, many women don't appreciate fingers being pushed into them at a rapid pace (aka "finger banging"), but they may try it with some lube. Without it? Ouch!
6. You aren't 15: Honking, motor-boating, and other adolescent boy behavior is simply not hot. Yes, it's fun to laugh during sex, but we don't need to be exposed to you acting a fool. We graduated from high school for a reason.
7. Cold hands = bad: There is nothing worse than getting all hot and heavy and having your hands be freezing on our skin. Get some blood flowing! Put on circulation gloves! You'll be rewarded.
8. Don't try to impress us: We can tell when you're trying to be "smooth." The one-handed bra trick? Doesn't do it for us. Focus that energy on doing what comes naturally.
9. All women are different: Casual sex is casual for a reason. You don't really have mind-blowing sex with a guy who is fumbling about for the right way to touch you. For that, you need someone who knows (and cares) what you like. So take the time to learn us. We promise you'll be glad you did.
10. Don't be afraid of sex toys: We may not bring it up, but if you bring a vibrator to bed, we WILL thank you. Promise.
It may seem like women need to speak up and you know what? You're right! We do. If we want better sex, we need to be comfortable saying these things. Communication is the key to better sex. So remember to open your mouth and talk, too.
What do you wish men knew?

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Monday, 11 August 2014

Best Positions For Men Who Are Well Endowed

A well endowed penis can afford tight squeezing and plenty of deep penetration, but just because your manhood is super-sized doesn't mean you can have it every which way in the bedroom. For some women, there are certain sexual positions that are just too intense when they're done with an overly endowed partner.
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1. Use lots of lube
Even if the woman in question is normally pretty moist, lubricants will be her best friend in this situation, since lube will lessen the friction. You can use lube in foreplay, having her rub your member with the slippery stuff. Avoid oil-based lubricants because they cause yeast infections. Instead, stick to water- or silicone-based lubes, which can also be used with condoms. 
2. Avoid anal and doggy style
The anal canal is not as elastic as the vagina. A vagina is meant to have objects go in (penises) and out (babies), so it’s more prepared to expand. The anal canal, however, is designed for no such activity. It’s not impossible, but anal sex with a larger-than-average penis is going to cause most women outright pain if not extreme discomfort. The doggy-style position allows for extra-deep penetration, so it's a better bet for men on the smaller side. A guy with a big penis may very well injure a woman in this position. 
3. Stick to missionary, woman on top or sideways
The classic missionary keeps you from thrusting too deep into your lady. Even though it’s knocked for being boring, it’s a win-win proposition for both parties in this circumstance. With the woman on top position, she can control how far she allows you inside her and you’ll get a full view of her hot body. Having sex sideways is perfect for bigger penises since neither one of you will be able to fully thrust. The limited range of motion is still pretty sexy, as you’ll be able to make out at the same time. 
4. Take it slow
 It goes without saying that when you have a big penis, you shouldn't throw it around like a bull in a china shop. Slow and steady wins the race. Enter her carefully and slowly and build up to a more intense thrusting so she’s not caught off guard by your gigantic member.
Via: askmen
For those not well endowed, you can check out our previous post on best positions for men with a small penis.

Saturday, 9 August 2014

Men: You Are Doing It Wrong!

It's time to watch all of your misconceptions about sex come crashing down. Do you know everything there is to know about the female orgasm? Of course you don't! It's one of the most elusive physical sensations in the world. Some women claim they have never experienced an orgasm. Others apparently can't stop having them if they tried. There is a happy medium—there is a way to reach the falsetto without penis enlargement surgery or turning yourself into a human vibrator. Here are a few things men do wrong when it comes to giving women orgasms. Take notes, gentlemen.
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1. You think hers is optional.
Men have it easy. They spend years masturbating in their parents' basement and then they masturbate into their girlfriend's vagina. It's like magic. It's rather remarkable how simple it is for most men to blow a load. It's so simple, in fact, that when men have sex they think their orgasm is a given. If a man doesn't come during sex, all hell breaks loose. If a woman doesn't come, it's normal—better luck next time, honey. This is incorrect, and it's the worst kind of attitude to have. Your orgasm isn't a given, and hers isn't optional.
2. You fall asleep.
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You've been out all night partying with your girl. She looks great, you feel great, and you both want to go home and bump nasties until dawn. The only problem is, you're drunk. There's nothing wrong with sloppy, drunk sex unless you fall asleep before you're able to deliver the goods. Either wait until the morning, or have a strategy that accounts for the fact that you will be lights out as soon as you get it in.
3. You only see vagina.
Let's pour some out for the women who have never had an orgasm. One explanation for this tragic circumstance is that some men think the only way to get a girl off is through penetration. This is a myth. Many women prefer external stimulation to vaginal penetration. (There are other orifices worth exploring as well.) Don't act like all women are the same and therefore all you have to do is shove it in and call it a day. Don't be a one-trick pony.
4. You have to ask.
Sorry to break it to you, but if you have to ask a woman if she's had an orgasm, the answer is always "no." Most men don't realize that they're witnessing a performance piece when having sex. Many women love to fake it—some women are so good at faking it that they've even convinced themselves. (This is a real shame and only makes matters worse for everyone.) Don't let the theatrics fool you. The female orgasm is the ultimate high. You'll know it when you see it.
5. You can't slow down.
Oh I'm sorry, do you have somewhere to be? Are you giving a speech somewhere? Is there a fire? Is this the Indy 500? Great. So slow the fuck down. It is crucial that you take your time when trying to give a woman an orgasm. Think of it as a moving target. If you want to hit the bulls-eye, you have to focus, take a few breaths, and then pull the trigger. Slow your roll. When you move too fast, it's a sign that you're not paying attention.
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6. You're that guy.
Show me the man who thinks he's the Lord's gift to women, the man who thinks he makes women wet just by looking at them, and I'll show you a man who is perpetually disappointing in bed. Don't be that guy. He makes promises he can't keep and pats himself on the back even though he consistently and incorrectly assumes he is giving women orgasms.
7. You can't read cues.
Studies have claimed that the reason women seek affection after sex is because it makes the experience more meaningful. You should not believe these studies. Cuddling after sex could also be a way for her to drop you a subtle hint that she still wants to play. When a woman has peaked, she'll often just pass out, not cuddle. Don't mistake affection for satisfaction.
8. You're intimidated by toys.
Even if you're a pro, variety is still the spice of life. Show her what you're working with, but don't be afraid to use some accessories every now and again. Not only do sex toys add an element of playfulness and risk, they're perfect for helping you explore new ways to get her off. Don't be afraid to switch things up.
9. You've given up hope.
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It's true that most female orgasms are difficult, but surrender is not an option. It's not OK to pretend you've exhausted every option there is and that it's just not worth the effort. If you want to get laid, you need to come with your A-game and plan to do everything in your power to make sure she comes, every time. Period. Don't be a quitter.
10. You think one is enough.
Congratulations! You've found the white whale. Now do that all the time. Keep going until she begs you to stop. Once is not enough. Once is only the beginning. Now go forth and use this knowledge to make the world a better place.
Via: Complex

Wednesday, 6 August 2014

Ladies: Here Are 30 things You Can Do With A Naked Man

How do you turn him on? Oh, let us count the ways. Consider this your must – do list of sex tips to tease, squeeze, and totally please your guy!
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1. Sneak Up Behind Him
Blow his mind with this sneaky move: Stand behind him and stroke his penis. This positions your palm flat against his member’s sensitive underside, the same way he grips it when he masturbates. Then do a few things he can’t do himself, like whisper in his ear or kiss his back.
2. Get Naked Too
There’s a good chance that your guy has never feasted his eyes on your completely bare body for more than a few seconds. Maybe it’s because you undress quickly in a passion frenzy or your bodies are too close for him to really take you in. But letting him stare at you in the buff is a surefire libido trigger.
3. Let Him Be an Animal
Initiate a primal move that fuels his frisky craving. Give him an animalistic challenge by having standing sex. Let him hold you up against the wall with your legs wrapped around his lower back. He’ll be in the aggressor role since he’s holding you up with his arms and lower body, and he also gets the visual thrill of watching your breasts bounce during the act.
4. Break Out the Blindfold
Once you have him going crazy not knowing where your next lick, kiss, or stroke will land, treat your blindfolded boy to a slew of new sensations. Three to try: the feel of your hair, silk panties, or a string of pearls rubbed gently against his member.
5. Climb on Top
The majority of the dudes we polled in our most recent sex survey picked woman-on-top as their number-one nooky style. Bonus: This position can be very intimate since your faces are touching and you can slide your arms around each other so you’re super close. It’s also a great method for delaying his orgasm a little longer.
6. Take a Sensual Shower
Steam up your bathroom mirror by standing this close together in the shower. Add the water pouring over you, and this is a perfect position for lots of wet, passionate kissing. You can also gaze into each other’s eyes, further boosting the intimacy factor.
7. Find His G-Spot
A guy’s prostate — the walnut-size gland under his bladder — is the ultimate magic button to push if you want to blow his mind in bed. To tantalize it, partway through oral sex or intercourse, rest two fingers against the swath of skin between his testicles and anus.
8. Give Him a New Number
No doubt, you’re intimately acquainted with 69. Now may we introduce you to 77? The number refers to the way you and your partner’s bodies look when they meld together in this side-entry position. The unique angling practically guides his, uh, missile to your G-spot.
9. Find a New Favorite Spot
Steam things up at home by moving outside the bedroom and doing it on top of a sturdy table, kitchen counter, bathroom sink, or the hood of a car parked in your garage.
10. Massage His Backside
Take oral sex to a whole new level by caressing his butt cheeks as you’re going down on him. Double his pleasure with the synchronized motions that lets you control the pacing.
11. Turn Him into a Buffet
Incorporating food into your passion play is a classic carnal activity. Take a few of your favorite erotically appealing flavor combinations, like peanut butter and honey or whipped cream and chocolate sauce, and mix up yummy treats all over his body.
12. Boss Him Around
Tell him want you want him to do without saying a word. Wrap your hand around one of his fingers or his penis, and when he does something you particularly like, give a squeeze.
13. Give Him a Peep Show
Turn your attention downstairs for some self-stimulation and leave the invitation open for him to take over. Whether he joins in or not, guys love to watch, so it’s a win-win situation.
14. Make Him Beg
Kiss and lick your way down his torso, stopping short of his penis, then give him a smile and work your way back up. Repeat several times until he begs for mercy.
15. Treat Him to Don’t-Lift-a-Finger Sex
Indulge him with low-maintenance sex (where all he has to do is unzip his fly, if that) by sliding onto his lap in reverse cowgirl position with your hands balanced on his thighs for support. Much like doggie-style, he’ll be able to revel in watching your tush and touching your breasts — but without expending any lower-body energy.
16. Talk Dirty to Him
Start off with a purr or an mmmm, or simply breathe heavily. Then up the erotic ante by whispering, “So…what do you want to do now?”
17. Make Him Long for Your Lips
A fabulous kiss is an intricate balancing act involving tongue technique, pressure control, and moistness monitoring. Invade his space with a tantalizing kiss-me telegram.
18. Play No-Hands Nooky
Tell him to keep his hands to himself. You can explore each other’s bodies with your lips, tongues, and breath.
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19. Taunt Him
A little torture builds a man’s anticipation so that when you finally do pounce, every touch is extra delicious. As things get going, pull your thong aside for him to enter you. You’ll drive him crazy because he can’t see every last inch of your body.
20. Enlighten Him
Tantra is the exotic art of prolonging your passion to reach new levels of satisfaction. Launch your night of lust by gently massaging his ear with your fingertips, working your way down the outer fold. Then run your pinkie along the crease where his ear connects to his head and ever-so-slowly prod the middle of his sexually susceptible inner ear with the tip of your tongue.
21. Get Dirty with Him in the Tub
A soak in the tub always feels incredible, but the sensual thrills quadruple when you invite your man in for some rub-a-dub action. Take turns slowly lathering each other up with a soft, natural sea sponge, tracing slow, sexy circles around your breasts, belly, and inner thighs, and get ready to fog up the mirror.
22. Tie Him Up
Even a plain scarf can make him see stars if you use the right technique. Take a long silk wrap, place it around his main man and the boys, and tie it in a large square knot, leaving about a foot of fabric on either end to hold on to. As you’re riding him, pull on the free ends so that the knot rubs against your clitoris.
23. Imply That He’s a Stud
Spark his ego by letting him know you want him sexually with a coy compliment. Letting him in on your longing for him jump-starts his own desire.
24. Make Him Hot, Then Cold
Cooling off your guy’s steamy body actually gets him hotter. Make his satisfaction skyrocket by turning him on to deliciously unexpected strokes, pressure, and temperature changes. Try the classic ice-cube trick to make him shiver with excitement. Have him lie on his back, hold a cube in your hand, and slowly draw an icy line from his neck all the way down his body.
25. Seduce Him
Be direct by saying something like “I want to have sex with you.” The straightforward approach is not merely about saving time (although it does have a way of cutting to the chase), it’s about giving yourself the opportunity to display extreme sexual confidence, to advertise yourself as a person who assumes that whatever she wants, she can have.
26. Toy with Him
Stock up on some sex toys. Velvet-lined handcuffs can be exciting, and they don’t hurt like the metal ones do. And you can never go wrong with a vibrator. Ask him to buzz it against your clitoris or tell him simply to sit back and watch you handle it.
27. Rev Him Up for Round 2
Your mattress moves are sizzling enough for a sequel! Lead him back to the sweet spot by telling him how good he makes you feel. And, this time your orgasm will be even hotter.
28. Let Him Climb on Top
Spice up missionary style and feel super deep penetration by drawing your knees toward your chest and grasping the back of your thighs. You can also place the soles of your feet on his chest or, if you’re really flexible, prop your ankles or legs up on his shoulders.
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29. Play Rough
Guys tend to be tougher than us, so feel free to manhandle. Pinch his nipples (an often-overlooked nerve center), scratch your nails down his back, or massage his chest.
30. Make It a Quickie
Once you've launched his rocket in five minutes flat, he’ll be willing to do just about anything for you.
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Tuesday, 5 August 2014

Drive Him Crazy With These Kissing Tricks

Kissing is often considered a means to an end. It's how many couples kick off their sack sessions, but as soon as things start heating up, making out usually falls by the wayside. "Some people think that sex is so full of pleasure on its own that kissing isn't important," says clinical sexologist Krista Bloom, PhD, author of The Ultimate Compatibility Quiz.
And that's a damn shame because locking lips throughout the sexual
experience (and not just at the very beginning of getting busy) can make the pleasure skyrocket considerably. "There are tons of nerve endings in your lips that stimulate desire," Bloom says. "Smooching before, during, and after intercourse can be extremely arousing and satisfying."
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However, not all puckers are created equal; the trick is knowing what mouth-to-mouth moves intensify each stage of sex. Luckily, we've gone ahead and mapped it out for you. Try these tips to kiss your way to total bliss.
Foreplay: Tease Him With Soft Pecks
Just as a runner needs to stretch before a race, your body requires an
equally strategic warm-up before launching into full-throttle passion. "You don't want to come on too strong with your lips or you might accelerate
his excitement too quickly," says Bloom. Instead, ease him into the pleasure zone, gradually increasing his arousal. The slower the buildup, the bigger the bang.
  • Give him little pecks all over his face — everywhere except the lips. As his excitement grows, trace the outline of his mouth with the tip of your tongue. He'll be aching to envelop you with his mouth, but don't let him do it...yet.
  • Move on to open-mouth puckers, but no tongue allowed. If he tries to French you, pull away from him for a minute, then return to kissing. The point is to be playful and work him into a desire-filled frenzy by not giving him exactly what he wants.
  • Add some playfulness into the mix by gently sucking and lightly nibbling on his lower lip every now and then. It will feel so good, he'll instinctively return the favor.
During the Act: Bring It to the Boiling Point
Once you are both fired up, coy smooches just aren't going to cut it. This is the perfect time to engage each other's mouths, no tongues barred. "Passionate kisses elevate your blood pressure and cause your heart to beat faster, getting you more
excited and making it easier for you to reach orgasm," says certified sexologist Ava Cadell, PhD. Here's how to stoke the flame.
  • Strip down, and tell him to sit on a chair. Then straddle him so that you are eye to eye. As he focuses on thrusting, take his tongue into your mouth, and very lightly suck on it so your lip action mimics the rhythm of his hips.
  • Vary the intensity and depth of the lip-locks you lay on your bed mate. Give him long, soulful French kisses for a couple minutes, then surprise him by keeping your lips open and pressing them against his — hard — like you want to devour him whole. Then return to the soulful French kissing. Maintain the back-and-forth so he can't guess what's coming when. Not knowing what you're going to do next will amp up his excitement even more.
  • You should let him know the passionate pressure is quickly building inside you by switching up your moves and trying something even more erotic. Unlock your lips periodically, and swirl your tongue around his in a circular motion as if you were licking an ice-cream cone. He will love that you're in control and essentially taking possession of his entire mouth.
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The Big O: Let Your Inner Animal Loose
By the time you're about to climax, give in to your passionate fervor, and let yourself go absolutely wild. Just follow your body's cravings. "Being mouth to mouth as you peak can make for a much stronger, more intense orgasm because it's such a carnal act — your senses of taste and smell and touch are all converging at once," says Bloom. "It's like you're on sensual overload."
  • Softly suck on each other's necks just as you're about to reach your peak. The pressure of your lips against his skin will amplify the buildup you've been feeling inside and create an even more powerful need for that heavenly release.
  • Run your tongue back and forth along the roof of his mouth. This is a place that rarely gets any attention; the more unique the sensation, the more exciting it is for him.
  • Let him know how hungry you are for him by gently biting his back and shoulders, spots on his body that can take a little roughhousing. Place the skin lightly between your teeth and pull; then run your tongue around the area and kiss it.
  • If you're in a face-to-face passion position, supersize your orgasm by French-kissing him at the same time that you're climaxing.
Afterplay: Take It Easy to Wind Down
Though you may want to keep the postorgasmic embers burning, your guy's fire is probably pretty much extinguished at this point. "After sex, sleep-inducing chemicals are released in men, so your guy's mind and body will be more intent on
sleeping than kissing," says Bloom. But there are still ways for you to get the together time you crave.
  • If his energy is depleted but you're still jonesin' for closeness, lavish him from head to toe with luscious kisses. Planting your lips on his face, shoulders, back — wherever — conveys warmth and tenderness without making him feel pressured to respond.
  • Spoon him from behind, and kiss the nape of his neck as you sensually stroke his hair. This position lets him chill out while you get the postsex canoodling you desire.
  • When you have had enough and are finally ready for some shut-eye, give him a quick, sweet peck to wrap up your evening of ecstasy.
(Source: Cosmopolitan)
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